I love this show too! I think that kate can be a bit of a nag on jon, BUT their relationship is actually a lot like my DH's and mine. I'm kind of high strung, the one who always ends up having to organized, the one who plans everything, the one has to tell my DH what to do, or else he just kind of zones out and doesn't pay attn. He's a lot like jon, very laid back, wants to help, super nice, but doesn't always help in the right way or needs to be told what to do instead of just jumping in.
As for kate, I think some of you are being a little bit hard on her. I mean, um, she has a set of twin AND sextuplets! If she has to use paper plates in order to spend more time taking care of her kids... well, I think that is ok. I would be more down on someone with two kids using paper plates (if you watch any supernanny or wife swap shows, this is actually really common!). Also, as a nurse, I think she is using her skills as a nurse to stay organized with her kids and family life, in order to be an effective nurse you have to be very organized (I'm an RN). Like she says, their family thrives off of routine and being organized, you have to be organized when you are in charge of a family with that many kids of such a young age. I have two kids 18 mo apart and there are days I feel like pulling my hair out... I cannot imagine what it would be like to be in her shoes. I think, that even if she wanted to be more AP, it would just be very difficult for her. I really feel that they do the best that they can, and the kids seem to be thriving and happy. Jon and kate bicker... but I think it's in healthy way, b/c it's their way of communicating, and as they have said before, they feel that they are a team. If they just held it in and were always nice to one another, I think that would be worse. At least they are openly communicating.