Need help with middle name

[mittendrin]

I know I know we're all sick of name threads. I need your help tho. Dh suggested the middle name "Aaron" for our boy, Niklas will be his first name. Last week we kinda settled on "Julian" for a middle name. I love the name and it was one of the ones dh shot down as a first name. he was ok with it as a middle name tho. Now he comes up with "Aaron" and I don't really like it. It's the name of his best buddy growing up, which would be a good reason to use it. Only for once do I not know this buddy but they also haven't been in touch in over 10 ys. When dh got stationed in Germany none of his friends stayed in touch but he still feels nostalgic about them. I think it sucks that they seem to care less about who he is and what he's doing when he tried contacting some of them several times with no response. I feel kinda sorry for him and really have no clue why he'd wanna name our boy after someone who doesn't even know about this family, kwim? It's a little pathetic and I don't know how to break it to dh. Or maybe I am just a mean person who always seems to hold a grudge too long for no reason? Plus, I really like "Julian" better... I would go with "Aaron" if the IRL Aaron would have cared about his buddy a bit more. What do you guys think? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? Which name sounds better and should I just give dh his wish? I am german and middle names are really not important there anyways. That doesn't mean tho that I just don't care, we live in the States and Niklas is going to use his full name... Argh, I don't know...

[melissakc]

I think you should tell DH that you really don't like the name Aaron and you think it's a great compromise to use Julian as a middle name since you like it so much. But don't tell him why you don't like the name Aaron--it would probably just hurt his feelings when you could get away with just saying you don't like it and you thought you had already agreed on Julian.

[Curlita]

I don't think you are being silly... sometimes I don't think men have as well-developed radar about whether or not their friends are REALLY friends and we get protective of them.

I like Aaron and Julian each as much as the other. But if you love Julian and your husband already compromised on it as a middle name, bring him back to the bargain... or tell him that he can give the baby Aaron as a middle name if you can have Julian back as a first name.

[Googy]

Originally Posted by melissakc

I think you should tell DH that you really don't like the name Aaron and you think it's a great compromise to use Julian as a middle name since you like it so much. But don't tell him why you don't like the name Aaron--it would probably just hurt his feelings when you could get away with just saying you don't like it and you thought you had already agreed on Julian.

ITA.

[renaissanceed]

I would go with Julian over Aaron, IMO in just looks better with Niklas, although both sound fine.

As for convincing DH to get on board, the PPs have some good suggestions. You could always pull the 'let's not make a final decision until the baby is born' card and then insist on using Julian after having had the baby because there's lots of hard work involved in that.

Also, do you other children have MN that are significant in some way. If not, then maybe you can also go with the 'I thought we agreed that our children are their own people and shouldn't have to live up to someone else's name'.