Originally Posted by finn'smama
Our kids eat what we're eating, sometimes it's really healthy and other times it's not as much
This is us too.
We make a good effort to eat healthy, minimally processed when feasible, organic when we can afford it and find it (we just moved from a state where this was easy to a city and state where finding organic is a struggle), etc...generally
. I grew up in a natural family, so this stuff comes relatively naturally except for the fact that we eat out more than my parents ever did.
That said, some days we eat more healthy than others.For us what is most important is eating together as a family...enjoying the communion of food over laughter and good conversation.
I do get squicked out and will not let the kids have soda, especially the diet soda I am addicted to (I actually had an experience in which I couldn't have soda for a whole day for medical reasons and had a terrible reaction, so now I have a three day detox plan in mind for the end of the summer). I tell my kids "it is for adults only, and not healthy for adults either...something I am going to try to stop doing." (But bear in mind, we NEVER had soda as kids, and yet here I am an addicted adult.)
My only other firm restriction is meat. There is a difference between "imposing" vegetarianism and "imposing" meat-eating on a child. One involves a slaughtered animal-- the killing of an animal on our behalf for food-- one simply involves not eating a particular type of food. I don't think my kids are old enough to understand death or the implications of eating dead animals, so I am waiting to give them that decision. Like food restrictions that come from religious beliefs, this is a family tradition that is deeply held to me. I too was raised vegetarian, and while a couple of my siblings now choose to eat meat in moderation, I have not chosen to do so. None of us have faired worse for the "imposition" of vegetarianism on us as children, but my dw, who did grow up eating meat, wishes she had been able to make the choice after she understood what eating a dead animal was about.
I TOTALLY respect the meat-eaters out there, including not only those two siblings of mine but also my dw (who does not eat meat around our children for this reason, but who still eats a minimal amount of meat because it became her "comfort food" in childhood), but this comparison to me seemed to be apples to oranges (slaughtered animals in the kitchen to not having meat around):
|As for the vegetarians who don't want to "inflict" meat-eating on their children, saying it's a choice they should make on their own, it's sort of funny, because as a meat-eater myself, I would not "inflict" the choice of vegetarianism on my kid until he was old enough to choose it for himself! This is NOT a dig - I actually really respect vegetarians for the most part - I just think it's sort of funny how our beliefs/positions shape our perspectives on choices like that...
Gum would be another thing I won't let the kids have yet, but that they may chew in the future.
Some things I very much minimize. That is, I don't buy it ever...even at a restaurant...and so it isn't an option except at church, at the bank, at grandma's house (my dw's mother), etc. For me, I minimize juice, foods with lots of dyes (even at church I won't let my kids have the "florescent red" 100% artificial juice and instead give them the alternative juice, which I tend to water down), candy, foods that may contain MSG (I wouldn't knowingly feed my kids foods with MSG, but there is not always a good way to know FOR SURE), white breads and the like, and "American cheese."