The responses in this thread really surprise me for some reason... It was so completely different for me than what most suggest here.
I don't generally use doctors or hospitals, and other than my first, a cesarean, and a very bad week in the hospital with pneumonia, I never needed the resources of a hospital. But, when something DID happen to me that was outside of my knowledge, that was "medical", I trusted the doctors to advise me. Its what WE PAY THEM FOR. I mean sure there are bad apples in every bunch, but as a general rule, I think there is an expectation of someone being a doctor, making the decisions that they make for your care based on your best interest. Between their education, and the fact that a gain, WE ARE PAYING THEM FOR THEIR ADVICE, why would we want to negate that advice by trying to play doctor ourselves??? Why pay them for a service and then not use it? I could understand going to more than one doctor in order to get a second opinion, but logic stands that unless there is something wrong with that doctor, the opinion *should* be very similar right? I mean why do people use financial advisors? Because they know the ins and outs of financing. Or lawyers? Or any other 'specialist'? So that we can pay someone to do the research for us, in order to avoid making decisions without all of the facts, or having to 'go to school' for every important decision we make in our lives.
When I got pregnant with my daughter, 10 years had passed since my cesarean. After 10 years, I still felt that the reason that my experience was bad w/ my first, was because I just was not 'good at having babies' and that I wasn't brave like the women who have many children. I truly felt that it was ME that couldn't handle birth, and not that there was anything wrong with my birth.
I started out just looking into having a VBAC, and with that I learned more and more about natural birth and birth options and birth in the USA, and the injustice that happens to so many women because we don't know any better. I can honestly say that the best way to describe learning about birth, for myself and my husband, was...
I felt like Alice in Wonderland, falling down the rabbit hole into a whole new reality...
It was, and still is, so unbelievably surreal to me. My entire life has changed because of what i learned about doctors and birth (which led to learning about education and nutrition and every other aspect of my life). It still doesnt make sense to me, after 2 years, and now about to give birth to my 3rd child. Why on earth would they do these things to us that are not necessary???? Why would doctors feel that its ok to scare women into complacency instead of giving them the facts when they ask for them? Why would a doctor, a TRUSTED professional, choose to cut someone open when its not the safest route? Why induce for convenience knowing the possible outcomes??? I still don't understand it and I dont think Iever will. How can legality turn birth into such an unbelievable nightmare?
It scares me to think of how far reaching this mentality is. If this is how they handle birth... how do they handle cancer patients? Or the care of the aging? Or pediatrics? Or any of the many other areas that we NEED to trust doctors in order to get through? I only thank my gods that in the one area that I am well versed enough to truly BE scared, I am able to handle the situation without being forced to seek medical assistance. If birth really DID need medical assistance, I don't know if I could have been able to force myself to go through it again, and I would have missed out on my beautiful daughter and the daughter yet to arrive.