40+ It's Autumn ~ Time for Change - Page 47

[veganmama719]

My garden still has 6 ft of snow piled on top of it. It's warm and rainy today though and it is a mess out there!

Laurie and Jen, fingers crossed for your

Sara, wishing you lots of super fertile vibes for your IUI tomorrow. I think I'd take the progesterone. I don't think it can hurt.

I am bored. 6 DPO, no chance of PG. We did decide that we are going to go ahead and TTC and just let the chips fall where they may.
My acu (I hope I am not jinxing myself by writing this) said she didn't think it would be too long until I was PG again.

[veganmama719]

A long time ago, the trainer at my gym told me his "wife couldn't have kids". I was, of course, sad to hear that. He was very nonchalant like he didn't care at all. I thought that maybe it was his way of protecting himself, KWIM?

So I never told him I was PG or had m/c becasue I am not seeing him for individual sessions anymore. I had however told my yoga teacher who I guess told him.

This was the conversation today while I was doing some crunches waiting for my yoga class to start:

Trainer: (laughing) I guess it didn't work out eh?
Me: Excuse me?
Trainer: (still laughing) So, are you disappointed?
Me: Well, yes. Yes, I am.
Trainer: See, that's the difference between men and women.
Me: (incredulous) What????
Trainer: Women get upset by that kind of stuff
Me: (boiling mad and just saying the first stupid thing I could think of) Well, maybe that's because you are not the one that has to bleed your baby out of you for 3 weeks.
Trainer: (laughing some more) Ha ha, you crack me up!

[massaginmommy]

VGMama Oh my goodness What an ass!!!! Time to find a new trainer. How in the world can someone be so callous? I feel sorry for his wife.

Temp was up today, trying not to get my hopes up but you all know how that goes. I woke up sweaty too which I think means my progerterone is up. Thanks for all the well wishes.

[Pookietooth]

VM, what an idiot of a trainer -- I really feel sorry for his wife, who is obviously not getting any support from him. Can you switch?

I'm a bit concerned about my DH's low sperm count they found for the IUI -- it had been a day and a half since we had DTD (at least), and it was still rather low. And the previous IUI, it was also kinda low. Any suggestions for supplements?

[veganmama719]

Originally Posted by Pookietooth

VM, what an idiot of a trainer -- I really feel sorry for his wife, who is obviously not getting any support from him. Can you switch?

I'm a bit concerned about my DH's low sperm count they found for the IUI -- it had been a day and a half since we had DTD (at least), and it was still rather low. And the previous IUI, it was also kinda low. Any suggestions for supplements?

Yes Jen! There are lots of supplements for men. Just off the top of my head: folic acid and zinc (taken together), L-arginine, L-cartinine, selinium (sp?), vitamin c and E. And Maca powder. Improving sperm count, motility and even volume is actually very do-able!

I don't use that trainer any more. I just used him 18 months ago when I first started at the gym.
I am going to report what he said/did. I was just minding my own business. I had never even disclosed to him that I had a m/c. Why com eup to me and say something like that.

I feel super sorry for his wife too.

Go Laurie go!!!

[msgoodbuns]

OMG, VM. I echo Laurie's sentiments. What an ___! Makes me glad I'm not married to someone like him.

GL, Laurie.

Gals, it feels so weird to be "on the dark side" (moving from ttc to the realization that my fertile years are essentially over). I feel such a disconnect from your journeys now (and mine from the recent past), and what you're all going through. Maybe it's just b/c I've had another annov. cycle; maybe it's acceptance of my situation. Who knows. I'm sorry that I can't be more actively supportive these days. I hope you can forgive me.

[Julia Rose]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

Yes Jen! There are lots of supplements for men. Just off the top of my head: folic acid and zinc (taken together), L-arginine, L-cartinine, selinium (sp?), vitamin c and E. And Maca powder. Improving sperm count, motility and even volume is actually very do-able!

I don't use that trainer any more. I just used him 18 months ago when I first started at the gym.
I am going to report what he said/did. I was just minding my own business. I had never even disclosed to him that I had a m/c. Why com eup to me and say something like that.

I feel super sorry for his wife too.

Go Laurie go!!!

F-ing sociopath.

[Stealthee]

My stars, what a moron!!! Glad you're going to report this idiot, Veganmama. I'm sorry you had to deal with such an insensitive waste of space during your healing process.

Ms. GB: I hear you. I think we're both probably in a similar space. Even though I probably technically have a couple more fertile years left, the problem with DH has me feeling very differently about TTC. It feels out of my hands at the moment. We've got till I turn 40 (cut-off here for IVF) in December. After that, I might as well be 50 for the chance we have of conceiving naturally.

I still check up on you gals! Lots of luck to M-mama and Pookietooth in the 2ww and Sunrise with her upcoming IUI.

Hello and to anyone I missed!

[veganmama719]

MsGBs, I think you will likely ovulate again. It is quite common to have some annovulatory cycles I think. But I can understand why you would feel the way you do. I hope you do stick around though if it is not too difficult. I really want to know about the donor eggs strategy you are thinking of pursuing. Plus, selfishly, I would miss you.

We are due for some good news on this thread.

I will say this. I feel good physically right now. I don't know if it is the herbs and acupunture or the fish oil (a bit of a conflict for me as I am essentially vegan. They are wild fish which makes me feel a little better). But I feel full of energy (as much as anyone as sleep deprived as me can feel), my skin feels like it is glowing and I feel hopeful about getting PG again soon.

So here is some for those of you who are feeling down right now. I have certainly been there recently and it is NOT fun.

I have my fingers crossed for all of you in the 2 ww and gearing up to O. And especially for those of you undergoing ART.

I am 7 DPO. Aboout 20 days for o'ing again and hopefully catching that eggie!

[massaginmommy]

I love having you here MsGB I couldn't imagine this thread without you.
Oh my goodness I can't help but feel hopeful. Did you see my temp yesterday? I am going to bed now (remember I work nights LOL) I hope the temp is still up when I wake. I am 12dpo today I am planning to hold out until Saturday am before I test. That would put me at 14dpo that should be good enough for an accurate test, right?

[massaginmommy]

Temp is 98.1 down a bit since yesterday but still up there. I guess I just keep waiting.

[joyluc]

Laurie : for you.

MsGoodbuns I completely understand. I am not as engaged in the TTC journey anymore but I would miss all of you and I am hoping there will be some celebrating soon. Meanwhile I would love a MDC perimenopause forum to get answers to all my questions (that I wish I wasn't ready to ask) about this next step on my life journey.

[msgoodbuns]

Joyluc, I'm very disappointed that I'm at this point in my life, but am thankful that there is so much technology available around conceiving. As a woman with no children (and no partner), it's very frustrating to think that my fertile years are passed (or mostly so). I always thought I'd be the koolaid mom.

[speedknitter]

I started us a new thread - Happy First Day of Spring everyone!!!