My daughter is here... and....
She's staying here!!
She told me that he kept asking her all week, "Are you sure you want to do this?" and she kept telling him "yes!" She had a great last day at her school, and they gave her a going away party and signed a big book with phone numbers and goodbye messages for her.
Tonight we went through her school bag and took out papers to save in her special box, and figured out which things to keep in her bag, like her empty folders etc. We put some change in there too in case there is any kind of hitch with her free lunch during the first week.
She did voice to me that she was happy about this change, but also a little sad too. Which I completely understand. I'm hoping she will get used to things as some time goes on. I'm confident she will.
There is only one thing I'm sad about tonight. I asked her if her father mentioned when he was going to see her, or if he said he planned on calling or anything. And she said he hadn't said anything about it. And she got a little quiet when she told me..
I know this is hard on her, this big change.. but man.. you'd think he'd want to be there to ease her pain just a bit. You know? Let her know that he'd call on his next day off, or that he'll come see her soon. Something!
Honestly... the less he's involved.. the better it is for me. But this isn't about me, and its hard to watch her hurt. I hope that he'll be able to come around and still be a good father to her even if he has to extend himself a bit.
Soo... Sunday we're going to his house to pack up some of her school clothes and things and bringing them back here. My dd had no idea that he tried to change his mind about it, so he hadn't voiced anything beyond asking if she was sure. And, he stuck to his word and didn't allow the stbx step mom watch her this past week. My dd doesn't want to see her at all she said, and he's honoring that.
This is really happening isn't it?!
Oh wow this has been a long week...
Thank you everyone for your positive thoughts!!