I'm having a bit of a dilemma in my mind right now. I really want to wait until the baby is ready to come on his/her own, but I feel like I can't take being pregnant much longer. I have random back aches, my feet are swollen (up to mid-calf, and my lower legs HURT when they get touched with practically anything), I'm tired and cranky all the time. I feel tons of irritation to my cervix but nothing is happening (I thought I was in labor on Thursday so we went to the birth center, but I have made no progress since 37 weeks, despite feeling like someone's scrubbing my cervix with a toothbrush every so often.) My midwife doesn't like to do internal exams just to satisfy curiousity, which I'm ok with, but she made the offer at our 39 week exam on Monday to sweep my membranes. I declined, saying MIL is coming on the 15th and while she understands that baby may decide to come early, she would be a little peeved if she found out I did something to make baby come earlier. They're counting me as 40 weeks on Monday, and that's when my next appointment is (at 345, MIL lands at 10 pm) so I'm thinking I might take them up on the offer to sweep my membranes then. I feel like I'm in a time crunch, MIL comes on the 15th for nearly 2 weeks, BIL is coming the 16th for 2 days then coming back on the 23rd for another 2 days, and my mom is coming the 18th through the 21st. We're going to have a fuuuuuuuuuull house.
I was hoping to have had the baby long before now (well, not too long) because I wanted those first few days to adjust to not being pregnant anymore and to be the totally selfish new mom, I don't want anyone else other than dh and dd touching the new baby! I've got this mama lion thing going on in my head, MY BABY, NO TOUCHIE! and I don't know how that's going to go with all these people in my house. (And I swear to Bob if dh tries to get me to clean, I'm going to slap him. I'm in no mood for housework right now.) Part of me has recognized that the visitors can be a good thing. They'll bring/buy food so no worrying about cooking (and we're broke right now so we'd have to cook), they'll help keep Emily occupied so I can rest, but I keep getting the nagging feeling that I'm going to be expected to entertain them, and that's not going to happen.
I hate this! Things were so much easier when we were pregnant with dd, we lived in WI, MIL couldn't visit, BIL couldn't visit, my parents couldn't visit. We're within driving distance of BIL and my parents, and my MIL can visit any time now (well, if she gets off work. She couldn't before because FIL was sick, but since he's passed on she's a lot more mobile.) I want the baby out, I want my time alone with the baby, and it's too late for me to tell people not to come because flights have been booked, vacation time has been planned, and they really didn't give us a lot of notice to begin with. (My mother called me on FRIDAY to tell me she was coming! She said she couldn't take off more time because she "didn't have enough notice." WTF? 8 1/2 months isn't enough time? I found out I was pregnant again February 3rd and I could have sworn I called you February 5th with the news!)
I was hoping to have had the baby long before now (well, not too long) because I wanted those first few days to adjust to not being pregnant anymore and to be the totally selfish new mom, I don't want anyone else other than dh and dd touching the new baby! I've got this mama lion thing going on in my head, MY BABY, NO TOUCHIE! and I don't know how that's going to go with all these people in my house. (And I swear to Bob if dh tries to get me to clean, I'm going to slap him. I'm in no mood for housework right now.) Part of me has recognized that the visitors can be a good thing. They'll bring/buy food so no worrying about cooking (and we're broke right now so we'd have to cook), they'll help keep Emily occupied so I can rest, but I keep getting the nagging feeling that I'm going to be expected to entertain them, and that's not going to happen.
I hate this! Things were so much easier when we were pregnant with dd, we lived in WI, MIL couldn't visit, BIL couldn't visit, my parents couldn't visit. We're within driving distance of BIL and my parents, and my MIL can visit any time now (well, if she gets off work. She couldn't before because FIL was sick, but since he's passed on she's a lot more mobile.) I want the baby out, I want my time alone with the baby, and it's too late for me to tell people not to come because flights have been booked, vacation time has been planned, and they really didn't give us a lot of notice to begin with. (My mother called me on FRIDAY to tell me she was coming! She said she couldn't take off more time because she "didn't have enough notice." WTF? 8 1/2 months isn't enough time? I found out I was pregnant again February 3rd and I could have sworn I called you February 5th with the news!)
that's exactly why I made dinner plans with a friend for tomorrow. . .
