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post #141 of 147
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To paraphrase she claimed I was in the dressing room for an abnormal length of time and she lost customers who were waiting to try things on.
I really wish I could pull surveilance tapes- from the time that my daughter woke up to the time I left the dressing room (after she had asked me for the second time to leave) was less than 5 minutes. I tried on 2 pairs of shorts before my daughter got fussy so maybe I was in the dressing room for a grand total of 7 minutes???

I will admit that I was shocked when she asked me to leave (the first time I was polite and told her I would only be a few minutes) the second time I got snippy. And, as I left I was furious and told a salesclerk outside (as well as a customer) how angry I was....and ofcourse, by the time I went back in to confront her my blood was boiling and I told her my attorney would be getting involved.

The other thing that her response letter indicated was that since it had been an abnormal amount of time that I was in the dressing she LOOKED IN and that's how she knew i was breastfeeding!!! First of all...ewwwww....

Second of all- I was sitting on the bench nursing and did not see her look into my dressing room. In any event- what kind of owner looks in a dressing room when she knows a customer is in there???? Isn't that like peeping????

I'm at a loss for how to proceed from here. Here's the issue- the owner and I are involved in similar organizations. In fact, there was a dinner tonight that I was supposed to go to that she was at. Her family has a lot of money, and because of that, power in this community. I am just starting a new business and have to protect my reputation so I don't want to be the center of any "drama"-that being said I feel like more needs to be done. I just don't know what.....
Jodi
post #142 of 147
Hmmm ... that does put you in a pretty tough spot I'm sorry.
post #143 of 147
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I'm at a loss for how to proceed from here. Here's the issue- the owner and I are involved in similar organizations. In fact, there was a dinner tonight that I was supposed to go to that she was at. Her family has a lot of money, and because of that, power in this community. I am just starting a new business and have to protect my reputation so I don't want to be the center of any "drama"-that being said I feel like more needs to be done. I just don't know what.....
Jodi

Hmm, I think the damage (if that's how you perceive it) has already been done. Maybe if you are unsure about the long-term consequences of something it would be better to refrain from action for awhile in the future? I'm sure they know that you have engaged in a campaign against them just from the emails.

I'm really sorry about what happened to you and I'm even sorrier that you feel like you need to be quiet about this issue. Ultimately it is your call, so you need to do what is right for your circumstance just as everyone has the right to speak out if they feel called to do so.
post #144 of 147
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I'm at a loss for how to proceed from here. Here's the issue- the owner and I are involved in similar organizations. In fact, there was a dinner tonight that I was supposed to go to that she was at. Her family has a lot of money, and because of that, power in this community. I am just starting a new business and have to protect my reputation so I don't want to be the center of any "drama"-that being said I feel like more needs to be done. I just don't know what.....
Jodi
Jodi,
I might be able to help. I'm working with some of the other Applebee's organizers on creation of a new national grassroots breastfeeding advocacy organization. Maybe you could "report" your story to them, and then be done with it. A formal, professional conversation could be conducted between the nonprofit and store owner, and you could move on with your life and business. This way how you could remove yourself from the drama, but still know that something was being done. Being subjected to discrimination really can be exhausting! You've brought the situation to light, now you're fully entitled to step back from the limelight and go back to regular life. Hang in there.
post #145 of 147
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Originally Posted by Orlandomommy View Post
I'm at a loss for how to proceed from here. Here's the issue- the owner and I are involved in similar organizations. In fact, there was a dinner tonight that I was supposed to go to that she was at. Her family has a lot of money, and because of that, power in this community. I am just starting a new business and have to protect my reputation so I don't want to be the center of any "drama"-that being said I feel like more needs to be done. I just don't know what.....
Jodi
Unless you can locate someone else who was treated similarly in the not-too-distant past, it doesn't seem to me like it will be possible to extricate yourself from further actions if directed at this particular store.

Would you find more support (and less chance of alienating people important to your business venture) if you broadened the focus of further public activity to raising awareness about the importance of BFing, and how commercial ventures can support public health by making BF-friendly choices for both their workers and their customers?

Less of a "nurse-in" protest, but more of a "we want to engage the business community" kind of action? Are there any businesses in your area that are particularly BF-friendly? Could you hold an "un-protest" to celebrate those business's approach?
post #146 of 147
These people are just general charmers all around. I would boycott their store, but, you know, I don't live anywhere near it.
post #147 of 147
nevermind.
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