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post #41 of 99
Well...I don't cover up as such, but I usually hold a towel/blanket/cloth of some sort so I can slap it over my breast as needed. I have easily distracted kiddos who like to pop on and off the breast AND I have very forceful flow. If my breast isn't covered I can easily spray breastmilk several feet! So I don't cover up to feed my littles but I do cover up to avoid squirting the innocent bystanders.
post #42 of 99
, I have sprayed in public when my little ones were infants! LOL
post #43 of 99
I try to, but I don't stress over it. Usually I will try to keep my shirt covering as much of the breast as possible, but if it's not working out, I don't worry about it. I may try to stay out of plain sight or even shield the breast with my hand, but I don't put in a huge effort.
post #44 of 99
I am not saying you should cover up, but I find it really annoying when breastfeeders are so crass about the issue of people being offended by seeing boobs. I know they are wrong and they shouldnt be, but mabye our militant behavior and "I dont give a sh**" attitude is what is turning so many women to bottle feed. ???? Does anyone feel a sense of responsibility to encourage others to breastfeed and not make it all about "your rights?"
post #45 of 99
To me it's about my baby's rights. I agree that the "I don't give a sh**" attitude is not flattering and doesn't help our cause. I believe it's silly and wrong to be offended by boobs and breastfeeding, but that doesn't change the fact that some people are. It doesn't make their feelings invalid, and my flashing my boobs everywhere won't make them feel differently. I don't attempt to be discreet about nursing, because I don't really mind if people know I'm breastfeeding a baby. I do try not to expose myself more than necessary, though. I wouldn't let people bully me around but also wouldn't be nasty to someone who was bothering by nursing. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and if you have a pleasant and caring attitude, you are more likely to get that same treatment from others.
post #46 of 99
My own analogy is that NIP is kind of like being the tall person in a cinema. Everyone has paid for their ticket and it's true that having a tall person right in front of you can be annoying. The "polite" thing is for the tall person to take this into account and try not to block the view. BUT it's certainly legal for that tall person to sit wherever the heck they like (or wherever the heck they have to).

I know how annoyed I can get when a tall person sits in front of me after I've scrimped and saved and found a way to go to a movie (maybe once a year?) so I try to keep that in mind when NIP. I don't have any trouble nursing in public, but I try to remember that although my littles come first there are other people who have "paid for their ticket" and may find my nursing as annoying as I find that hypothetical "tall person". So I don't cover, but I try to stay "polite".
post #47 of 99
I don't think the attitude of not giving a shit hurts the cause. I don't give a shit because there is absolutely nothing wrong with nip. I cannot control what offends people. Some people are offended by women working outside the home, gay couples holding hands in public, or any other number of things.


How does one NIP politely I wonder?
post #48 of 99
I never have and never will. I don't ask people if its "OK" if I BF wherever. I just do. If you don't like it, tough. I try to be discreet, and usually am discreet enough that lots of times people don't know it. But I don't carry blankets or hooter hiders, or any of that junk around just to make other people feel better. Chances are if you dont like me nursing as-is, you'd be just as pissed if I nursed w/ a cover too. So, whats the point?
post #49 of 99
Nope. Although I've gotten my share of snotty looks, I just don't care. If you don't like it, don't look.

Although I know people who find that attitude very self-centered and rude as well, I just can't make myself care.
post #50 of 99
No. I used to, but I can't be bothered with it any more.
post #51 of 99
LOL....



No.
post #52 of 99
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How does one NIP politely I wonder
Well, I wear shirts that make NIP easy, I carry the previously mentioned "towel" to prevent spraying bystanders when my littles decide they want to pop on and off, I usually request a booth or corner table when eating out since I'll probably be nursing during most of a meal, etc.

I'm not body shy (the opposite in fact), I have no problem NIPing either my babe or my 2.5yo, and I personally don't see a need for "covers" (my girls hate them, they're more to juggle, they attract attention, and I don't feel they really contribute to "modesty")...but I totally get why some mamas find it hard to NIP and I try to make sure that people see me NIPing in a polite/matter-of-fact manner so that if they later see someone NIPing who isn't as confident they wont even think about giving her a hard time.

But ymmv
post #53 of 99
DS doesn't care for blankets on his head (can't blame him), so no.

That said, we aren't really in "public" too often, just at friend's houses, etc., and those friends who are bothered by NIP are not bothered WITH. Not because we're trying to prove a point, but because it sucks to visit a person only to be in a separate room from the conversation all the time.
post #54 of 99
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
I don't think the attitude of not giving a shit hurts the cause. I don't give a shit because there is absolutely nothing wrong with nip. I cannot control what offends people. Some people are offended by women working outside the home, gay couples holding hands in public, or any other number of things.
: ITA with this. It's pretty ironic to blame breastfeeding mothers for people who do not nurse. The whole "Cover up! Don't rock the boat!" vibe reminds me of the right wing gay people who object to Pride, or to queers who don't look or act like straight people would find most comfortable.

Absolutely beyond silly.
post #55 of 99
I nip without worry. My 2.5 yo is a very, uh, enthusiastic nurser and it's easier for me to cope with looks from strangers than it is to deal with him screaming because he wants to nurse. I'm often wearing something baggy enough to go over his head, but I only do that because he likes it.

"In, mama, in!" he says.
post #56 of 99
Under normal circumstances, nope. I did once, when I was in a black tie wedding and the dress the bride chose for me required that I expose my entire breast to nurse. Even then, I didn't really feel I HAD to, it was just a bit more comfortable as it was outdoors and a bit chilly.

But usually, I think it's ruder to let my kid cry while I fumble with a blanket than to just latch them on and quiet them down ASAP.
post #57 of 99
Not too often! The only times I did was for ME, not for others. I don't eat with a blanket on my head, why should my kid? He did go through a stage where he needed/wanted peace to nurse and a blanket did help if we HAD to be in public. Otherwise, nah covering up makes it too complicated for my taste!
post #58 of 99
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Originally Posted by wombatclay View Post
My own analogy is that NIP is kind of like being the tall person in a cinema. Everyone has paid for their ticket and it's true that having a tall person right in front of you can be annoying. The "polite" thing is for the tall person to take this into account and try not to block the view. BUT it's certainly legal for that tall person to sit wherever the heck they like (or wherever the heck they have to).

I know how annoyed I can get when a tall person sits in front of me after I've scrimped and saved and found a way to go to a movie (maybe once a year?) so I try to keep that in mind when NIP. I don't have any trouble nursing in public, but I try to remember that although my littles come first there are other people who have "paid for their ticket" and may find my nursing as annoying as I find that hypothetical "tall person". So I don't cover, but I try to stay "polite".
I don't quite follow this analogy. The tall person has just as much right to go to the movies too. If they sit in front of you, thereby "offending you", you have the right to move. I have done that. It hasn't happene often, but I am free to move. If NIPing is bothering someone, they are free to move or look elsewhere. I guess I just don't think it's the responsibility of the nursing mom to "make the other person comfortable". If someone is uncomfy with a nursing mom, I don't see how the 'polite' nursing can help that.

Most babies (especially older babies) do not like blankets on their heads. I want to be able to see my baby or child and they want to see me.
post #59 of 99
It has never occurred to me to use a cover. To me, NIP is SUCH a non-issue. I will just never get why it is discussed so often. A mother feeding her child... what's all the fuss about??
post #60 of 99
Nope, I refuse to cover up doing a perfectly natural thing. I understand why some women might want to, I guess I am just not very modest
But really, even if I tried it would never work. DD just thinks its peek-a-boo time!
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