does this sound mean?!?!

[wildgarden]

I sent this e-mail out to a bunch of people who have been calling daily to see if the baby has been born yet since I passed my due date. I thought it sounded nice, but I got a few very angry responses. What do you all think? I even sent it to my parents because there is just nothing to tell them except that there is nothing to tell them. They keep asking me if I've had any BH, for Pete's sake.

Dear family and friends,
Thank you all for your well wishes and calls.
The baby has not been born yet and there is no
news to give you at this time. Mom is feeling
great and we are not anxious for the birth
because we trust that Mother Nature will get
things rolling when it is time.

We promise to let everyone know after the baby is
born as soon as we can or if there is something
significant to tell you before then.

Because we are planning a home birth, we ask that
you hold your calls until after you hear from us.
The phone could be very distracting during labor
and birth if it is ringing off the hook, and we
may need to keep the line open to communicate
with the midwives.

Please continue to keep us in your thoughts and
be patient. It could be another 2-3 weeks. We
are prepared to wait until it is time.

Thank you!

[Hippiemommie]

Nope sounds very reasonable to me, I don't see why they would be mad!

[crazydiamond]

Sounds nice and reasonable to me!

I bet the people who responded are angry because they know they are guilty. And they probably don't understand the concept of a homebirth or laboring at home and why the phone would be a distraction.

I didn't have a homebirth with my first, but I did get a lot of calls too. When I did, I'd say, with a joking but shocked tone, "Do you really think I'd have the baby and not tell you? C'mon, you're my friend and of course I'd tell you! What kind of friend did you think I am?" That usually got the message across and I got fewer calls after that.

[Noelia430]

I don't think the letter is mean at all!! If people were bugging me I would probably send an email way worse than that!

Hang in there, mama!

[Apryl Srissa]

I love that. Sadly, it's only my mom thats doing it, or I'd copy it. She actually asked once if I still had just 3 kids. After we had talked a few minutes. Yeah, I had hte baby a few days ago mom, did I forget to tell you?

[Frisbee]

I think it's a very sensitive, well-written letter that expresses many different reasons why people should give you some space (besides the fact that you probably just need some space, which should really be enough!) I can't believe people would get all bent out of shape about that, especially when you're 9+ months pregnant for goodness sakes!

[bygones75]

It's sensitively written and very reasonable. I agree with Leila... the angry ones probably figured out they were guilty. Either way, it was very wrong of them to respond angrily to you. Last thing you need.

I'm sort of feeling annoyed on your behalf. humph.

[kleines]

I think it is a very nice letter!

[mama_daba]

i think it is very well written to.

[Thandiwe]

This is going to sound kind of mean and callous, but have you thought of the fact that the people who are constantly calling already have shown they don't have any manners? I wouldn't worry when they, once again, prove that they have no tact or manners. If they had the manners and decency to not get mad, they wouldn't have called in the first place.:

That said, your letter was so very appropriate and well written. In fact, it's probably a lot nicer than I would have done. And, you completely have the right to do so! Do you have caller ID? We've been screening for the same reason. Also, we have dial-up, so when the usual calls tend to come in, I just freeze the line up with the Internet. Or turn off the ringer. I hope your calls stop with the letter, if not, stop answering. It's just driving me mad, so I know how you're feeling.:

[candyapplez]

I agree with what everyoneelse says. I for one am planning on putting phone on silent once everyone attending my birth is here.

[candyapplez]

Originally Posted by wildgarden

They keep asking me if I've had any BH, for Pete's sake.

My DH's grandfather called and asked him if I was dialted :

[hippie_mommy]

I agree. That was a very nicely written letter.

On the advice of a friend, I pulled out my old-school answering machine and made a message that says "Hi. Its Amanda. I haven't had the baby yet. If you want to talk about something else, then leave a message and I'll either pick up or call you back." I set it to pick up right away, lol. Its working so far! Everyone has laughed, and no one has asked if I've had the baby.

[Thandiwe]

Originally Posted by hippie_mommy

On the advice of a friend, I pulled out my old-school answering machine and made a message that says "Hi. Its Amanda. I haven't had the baby yet. If you want to talk about something else, then leave a message and I'll either pick up or call you back." I set it to pick up right away, lol. Its working so far! Everyone has laughed, and no one has asked if I've had the baby.

[Dena]

I think it is a perfectly fine letter. I agree with bens_mommy - these people are just proving that they are, as my high school choir director used to say, "rude, crude, and ill-mannered." If they don't like it, or can't handle not bugging you every day, too bad.

[Dena]

Originally Posted by candyapplez

My DH's grandfather called and asked him if I was dialted :

I'm sorry, I know it was probably not funny at the time, but that just cracked me up. Really paints quite the picture, kwim?

[cherubess]

I didn't find your letter rude or narky at all.

Try not to let the ones who have gotten upset get to you.

I know it is easier said than done but really don't let their problems be yours.

[waiting4it2snow]

It was definitely a well-written letter, not at all rude or snarky in the least.

I am getting sick of the phone calls too, srsly.

Way post dates here.

It's disconcerting for my own self, let alone having to tell people every day - nope, no baby yet. Definitely commiserating.

[mittendrin]

Originally Posted by bens_mommy_2005

This is going to sound kind of mean and callous, but have you thought of the fact that the people who are constantly calling already have shown they don't have any manners? I wouldn't worry when they, once again, prove that they have no tact or manners. If they had the manners and decency to not get mad, they wouldn't have called in the first place.:

That said, your letter was so very appropriate and well written. In fact, it's probably a lot nicer than I would have done. And, you completely have the right to do so! Do you have caller ID? We've been screening for the same reason. Also, we have dial-up, so when the usual calls tend to come in, I just freeze the line up with the Internet. Or turn off the ringer. I hope your calls stop with the letter, if not, stop answering. It's just driving me mad, so I know how you're feeling.:

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[mamabearsoblessed]

I think thats a very sweet and sensitive note to send out.
Much better than the one I'm tempted to place on my front door... "Leave me the heck alone!"
I'm seriously withrawing as I'm getting closer to birthing this baby and I have certain people dropping by for 'playdates' unannounced. Its awful they'll ring the bell over and over and then call from the front porch while peeking in the windows!! WTF!!!??

Mama.