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post #41 of 49

Okay...a few things.

I have narrow hips, no waist, typical athletic body. I'm short, small framed, all that. I birthed my son vaginally and he was about 9 lbs. Also, I pushed him out in 15 minutes and he was my first (I pushed on my back too, silly me). My second, who was just under 8 lbs., I pushed out in 20 mins on hands and knees and she was a waterbirth. I think prenatal yoga was KEY for me. It just really worked on opening up my pelvis and making it easy for me to get into positions that were optimal for birthing.

It's so hard to be in the position you're in as a "patient" in labor. To have to advocate for yourself while trying to concentrate on the most intense physical and emotional event of life. When the "experts" start telling you you're baby is in distress, decels, you may feel really helpless and you are definately in an extremely vulnerable and persuasive state. Many times we're afraid not to listen. When you're in the hospital the burden is on you to know when things are truly emergency, or if it's just hospital staff being overly cautious, impatient, etc.

Do yourself a favor, stay home. Trust your body. Begin a journey to heal yourself from your hang-ups about your first birth. Really work to get away from the fear of labor, and move toward liberations and empowerment. It is a spiritual/cosmic journey. You CAN do this!
post #42 of 49
to the OP: I don't see that "everyone" is against c-section. Simply unecessary ones that can be more harm then good. I'm all for women choosing how to give birth and feeling empowered by birth, whatever style of birth they choose to have.

Its, no doubt a hard choice. But don't feel pressured to have a VBAC just because everyone else is doing it. :

You need to gather all the information you can about your birth, weigh how you felt about it, find out if you are pregnant, and look into the options in your area. don't feel rushed to make the decision before you even have a positive test

goodluck.
post #43 of 49
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Its, no doubt a hard choice. But don't feel pressured to have a VBAC just because everyone else is doing it. :

You need to gather all the information you can about your birth, weigh how you felt about it, find out if you are pregnant, and look into the options in your area. don't feel rushed to make the decision before you even have a positive test

goodluck.
No doubt, well said, note taken.

And oh, yeah, strike one, got my period today. I guess I should've figured that my luck wouldn't be THAT good the second time around. The first time I got pregnant on the first try after stopping the pill, not this time though. It would've been so cool too cause then this baby would have had the same due date as my son. Oh well. Now it may get tricky cause I've been on the b/c pill for YEARS so I don't even know what my normal cycle is. The pill made me a 28 day cycle female. But now here I got my period at day 26.

Anyway, at least I have PLENTY of time to come to a decision. Thanks all!
post #44 of 49
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Originally Posted by anudi01 View Post
I have narrow hips, no waist, typical athletic body. I'm short, small framed, all that. I birthed my son vaginally and he was about 9 lbs. Also, I pushed him out in 15 minutes and he was my first (I pushed on my back too, silly me). My second, who was just under 8 lbs., I pushed out in 20 mins on hands and knees and she was a waterbirth. I think prenatal yoga was KEY for me. It just really worked on opening up my pelvis and making it easy for me to get into positions that were optimal for birthing.

It's so hard to be in the position you're in as a "patient" in labor. To have to advocate for yourself while trying to concentrate on the most intense physical and emotional event of life. When the "experts" start telling you you're baby is in distress, decels, you may feel really helpless and you are definately in an extremely vulnerable and persuasive state. Many times we're afraid not to listen. When you're in the hospital the burden is on you to know when things are truly emergency, or if it's just hospital staff being overly cautious, impatient, etc.

Do yourself a favor, stay home. Trust your body. Begin a journey to heal yourself from your hang-ups about your first birth. Really work to get away from the fear of labor, and move toward liberations and empowerment. It is a spiritual/cosmic journey. You CAN do this!
Thanks, that was very helpful!

Yep, me too, athletic type, far from the curvy type. I used to have a waist at least, but now after years of weight training, I don't have much of one anymore so now I'm even less curvy than I was to begin with which wasn't much!
post #45 of 49
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I have trouble with short posts Sorry, but I thought of something else :
Heh, you and me both, trust me, no need to be sorry!
post #46 of 49
I wanted to give you some support no matter what your decision. I can't imagine having to make that decision, so I give you alot of credit for even considering a vbac.

Only you know your circumstances and only you know what your 'gut instinct' is on this. Do what feels right to you and also what is prudent given your prior birth.

I'm a huge natural childbirth believer, however, I would be hesitant to do a HB if I wasn't close to a good hospital and had difficulties arise in previous labors. Maybe I'd try to give birth at the hospital that you went to prior, but forgo the epi, and see how things progress...if everything's fine and you have lo vaginal, great...and if not, well, you're right there and it'll hopefully go as well as the first! I would bring a doula or a mw with me though to help get into better positions, etc..

Healthy wishes!
post #47 of 49
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And oh, yeah, strike one, got my period today.
I'm sorry! What a let-down. Well, at least you're this far ahead of the game when you do concieve!
post #48 of 49
Sorry mama. Hope next month is the one for you

Jen
post #49 of 49
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I wanted to give you some support no matter what your decision. I can't imagine having to make that decision, so I give you alot of credit for even considering a vbac.

Only you know your circumstances and only you know what your 'gut instinct' is on this. Do what feels right to you and also what is prudent given your prior birth.

I'm a huge natural childbirth believer, however, I would be hesitant to do a HB if I wasn't close to a good hospital and had difficulties arise in previous labors. Maybe I'd try to give birth at the hospital that you went to prior, but forgo the epi, and see how things progress...if everything's fine and you have lo vaginal, great...and if not, well, you're right there and it'll hopefully go as well as the first! I would bring a doula or a mw with me though to help get into better positions, etc..

Healthy wishes!
Thanks, that means a lot.

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I'm sorry! What a let-down. Well, at least you're this far ahead of the game when you do concieve!

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Sorry mama. Hope next month is the one for you

Jen
Thanks!
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