Well- a refusal trumps a request.
the mother's will does not WIN... the REFUSAL always wins... if the mother wants a circ and the father refuses... she does not win... the benefit of the doubt falls to the child and the no harm...
either parent has the full power to refuse a harmful unnecissary surgery... no person has the right to insist on one as long as the child has an advocate.... that's all this whole circumcision thing is about anyway... Doctors taking adantage of the child's lack of an advocate... as soon as the child has one- they will scurry off like coackroaches from a light.
Dr.s know that circumcision is harm and that doing it if a parent is fighting against it- is criminal assault. they know that- and it scares the bejeebers out of them.
You should not ever make assumptions about anything and you should be proactive. In this case I would not get an injunction, but I would get a circumcision refusal form and have my OB sign it and have it put in your hospital records... make sure that this is done in advance.
When my son was born, (placenta precia emergency hemmoraging situation) my husband was asked the circumcision question while I was knocked out under general anesthesia. I do not know if this was the official "We'll do it now if you say yes" queston or if it was merely curiosity... or a chance for the Dr. to slip in his opinion against circumcision... but all I am saying is that my husband was asked when I was incapacitated, in another room, and nearly dead from blood loss. This (that birth scenario)is not the sort of thing you can plan for. Because the answer was NO... I don't know more. But if my husband had not gotten over his circumcision issues- that could have been a problem.
Get the refusal form: http://www.cirp.org/pages/parents/protection/
Good luck. I'm sorry that you hav to concern yourself with this. That really bites.