For my sake as much as anything, for closure, I wanted to let you all know that I went in for a Day 5 transfer today after having 7 fertilized embryos. Unfortunately this morning, the three remaining embryos had stopped developing, so we came home without a transfer.
We were very shocked. While it's a risk of a Day 5 transfer, we are only the 3rd couple in 10 years at our clinic where this has happened. To say that this was unexpected is an understatement.
DH and I have re-learned the lesson, once again, to listen to our gut. During our first cycle, I questioned why Day 5s were being pushed. It became moot because we only had three eggs fertilize. When we were in our consult for this cycle, again we questioned Day 5 after I read some articles saying that embies likely do better back in their mamas overall. Our doctor pooh-poohed my concerns (and based on the stats at our clinic, he had data to back that up). So we figured we were over-thinking and went for the Day 5.
I had a rotten feeling about this cycle from about the time I started stims. I had the flu, and then the Norovirus which started on the 23rd, and wiped out the entire Christmas week - I bascially lay in bed, tried to keep down water, and stuck myself with needles. There was a point just after Christmas when I felt so bad about the cycle I almost called a stop to it myself. Again - there was my gut.
Of course, if things had gone well, I'd have figured my gut was wrong. But... they didn't. So next time, we're going to listen to ourselves rather than let ourselves be swayed by numbers.
We will try again. The doctor who broke the news today (not our RE) said he would have likely counseled a Day 3 transfer simply because it was successful last time and he believes in replicating success (wish he was our RE because we would have had 5 embies to choose from on Day 3 and they might have done better inside - they were all better quality than our embies from the last cycle on Day 3). We'll go again. With a Day 3 transfer. Probably in the late spring once my body, our line of credit, and our spirits have bounced back a bit.
So overall, our little cohort didn't do very well with some wonderful exceptions. But we're strong, and we will survive. Hope you're all doing well and perhaps we'll see each other again around these parts in the future..