Yes, I do suffer from that feeling myself. I personally dont have low self-esteem, I love myself pretty much. I think it could stem from different things depending on the person.
But I do know how it feels!! I have a REALLY bad problem maintaining freindships with other females. And then I get all paranoid like that my male friends just want in my pants, and then my fears get confirmed and it SUCKS!! Especially because I think Im outgoing, like you, I offend or something? others with my high motivation? being myself?attitude? open-ended opinions?honesty? I dont know. (if you know what it is please tell me!!) Im always trying to mellow myself out! not because I dont like myself but because I want to be able to relate with others.......females perticualary I have no probems with males.
However, I think in todays world, so-to-speak, it is a valid fear. When I look in some hearts of peoples its like they are so judgemental, almost worried about proving thier own status or something. To hell with that I say! I dont have to prove anything! Or maybe its just their own low self esteem. Much of my own conflicts come from other's bad energy. Becasue I think as long as you know YOU are being open, & caring (& not too freaky,funky or smelly......or hell that dont matter!!) then it shouldnt matter because if they REALLY are cool, they will like you no matter what!! and want to know you for who you are. Which is why its worth it to keep showin' your lovin' light a glowin!!