Originally Posted by lakesuperiormom
no media...no tv...
: a constant rhythm...no plastic toys...no green hair
...no sanity or freetime..... mylittlewonders help!
: I remember my consult with Beth, who is truly an extremely nice woman and who truly believes in what she creates. At the end, I wanted so hard to do and *be* an Enki family. But, there wasn't room for the fact that we didn't have an idyllic, set rhythm 7 days a week. There wasn't room for the fact that singing our transitions was just something that wasn't going to cut it here. (We love singing, but it just doesn't work when really they need to get on their shoes and get in their carseats.) No TV wasn't going to cut it here either, nor was no computer. We do have plastic toys ... maybe too many though most of the plastic is in the form of Lego's; we aren't all natural. We don't live in the woods and my boys don't have access to playing with stones, rocks, and fallen logs/trees. Plus, my boys, especially my oldest, is very logical/linear and wants to know *everything*. He's not big into fairies or gnomes. Ds#2 might be more suited to that, but I'm not sure yet.
I lamented for so long how we just didn't fit in with the whole Waldorf/Enki/holistic hs'ing set. I so wanted to as the ideal is very idyllic and romantic ... slowing the pace, removing the commercialism, and just letting kids explore. And maybe, though it's a very big maybe, if I had discovered Enki when my oldest was a newborn, things would be different. But, even with my oldest at the time only 5, we already had our own "rhythm" that didn't fully mesh with the Enki rhythm. I also had at the time a 2.5 year old and a newborn. I didn't have time to memorize a handful of songs to sing at the right time to get the boys to transition to whatever we were doing next without speaking with them. I didn't have time to set up a woodshop in the kitchen for the oldest to build a gnome house.
And I know this sounds like I'm being very negative with Enki and really, it's a wonderful program. And there are many families out there that it works *so* well for them. And like I said, Beth is a wonderful woman who has created a wonderful program. It just doesn't work for us like I wanted it to work for us ... in some ways, it too put us in a box that we didn't fully fit inside. I have found that when we try to stick with one way of doing something (whether that be Enki/Waldorf, purely classical, unschooling, etc.) that only a portion of my child(ren) is being feed and nourished. So, I have come to be proud of my eclectic label ... I can draw what works from each program/approach without having to buy in completely.
Phew ... I think that turned more into a therapy session for me!
Does that help explain things? Please, please continue to ask questions ... it's fun to discuss and turn these things over in my own head.