Attack on momma NIP in Lex area KY

[taterbug1999]

Thought I would share a lovely little opinion article in my local paper that ran this Thursday. If any of you in the area or far far away would like to educate this foolish woman with a distinctly worded reply please do so by emailing your reply to [e-mail], you must include your name and phone # although they will not publish your phone #. It is for verification only. Please local and far away mommas let's decend upon these people and show them the error of their ways!!!

Here's the link to the woman's line of BS:
http://www.jessamineonline.com/publi...16&format=html

If the link doesn't work go to www.jessamineonline.com, click on opinions on the left and scroll down a bit. You'll find it.

[homemademomma]

that is horrible! i hate that argument. i could understand it if nursing was something you did once a day, but come on! i nurse dd like 20 times a day!! yes, it is special and intimate and all gooey and lovey, but it is also a normal everyday parenting act.

[velcromom]

Blech, another one to add to my Hall of Shame file.

So her argument is that breastfeeding is too "private and intimate" to be done in public??? What is she, a man from the 50's? Good grief, when will people get it that 90% of breastfeeding does not actually occur sitting in a rocking chair dressed in lace surrounded by rainbows and angels??? People, it's an everyday parenting task, not a private act!!

I don't have time to fire off a letter right now, but if I did I'd give this woman a link to www.007b.com. She seems to have bought in hook, line and sinker to the oversexualization of breasts.

[Da WIC Lady]

In America we still value modesty regarding covering the female breast. This is what led to the huge controversy involving Janet Jackson at the Super Bowl. I make this point not to compare the two incidents. There is no equivalency between brazen sexuality and loving breast-feeding. But it does illustrate the strength of public feeling about bare breasts. At least for now tradition remains — in public, women are expected to cover themselves.

When someone bucks this tradition, even for the best of reasons, the result is embarrassment. At the festival I noticed so many people trying hard not to look it was almost comical. Did their discomfort register with you? Do you care enough about their feelings to consider the effect your actions had on them? Courtesy, discretion and modesty are never out of style.

Ok, so if we so value the modesty of covering the female breast, why is it that every time I turn on the TV, leave the house, or go to the mall, that my eyes are assaulted by copious cleavage selling something? Janet Jackson was a controversy because of nipple exposure. I have never seen a breastfeeding mother purposefully exhibit her nipples for attention while feeding her child. While the occasional flash might occur, it's not generally something you're going to see unless you're being rude and staring. This woman goes on about the discomfort of adults who should have control over their actions while ignoring the basic needs of a baby to eat. And she's right. Courtesy, discretion, and modesty are never out of style, though perhaps she should exercise them herself the next time she sees a mother using her breasts the way God and nature intended, rather than set herself up for public shame and a big foot sandwich.

Anna

[menomena]

Oh my. And the sad thing is, she appears to be pro-breastfeeding (just in hiding, I suppose).

Our culture has become too “me-oriented” as it is.

Yep, because the reason I'm exposing my 5m pp belly flab and stretch marks when I nurse my squirmy baby in public is it's all about me, me, me!

Did their discomfort register with you? Do you care enough about their feelings to consider the effect your actions had on them? Courtesy, discretion and modesty are never out of style.

How about: Did my baby's need to eat register with you? Do you care enough about her feelings to consider the effect your actions [not wanting me to nurse in public] has on her? Courtesy, discretion and modesty are never out of style. Indeed.

This poor woman has very, very, very clearly accepted that breasts=sex (except when you secretly & privately use them for nursing). Oy. In my world, breasts are for feeding babies. Where ever; when ever. And then in private, perhaps they have a sexual use (I don't know, I don't get to have much sex these days).

[mamallama]

Dear Ms. Dragomir,

As a "militant public breastfeeder," I'd like to clarify a couple of points.

My "crusade," as you so eloquently put it, is about normalizing breastfeeding for American babies. It's about lowering the infant mortality rate in America. I don't need to breastfeed to experience intimacy with my baby (nor does his daddy.) I breastfeed to protect his health and his life.

If you find the sight of a nursing baby to be more embarrassing than America's infant mortality rate, maybe you should reconsider what "me oriented" means.

Sincerely,
My Real Name

[justJen]

Originally Posted by menomena

Yep, because the reason I'm exposing my 5m pp belly flab and stretch marks when I nurse my squirmy baby in public is it's all about me, me, me!

I love it! Seriously, it's so twisted that so many see breastfeeding in public as *selfish*. C'mon, now. What?

[krystyn33]

Yes, that woman doesn't have a clue--and she thinks she is being sensitive!

I resent the use of the word militant with regard to breastfeeding or NIP--it is SO SO contrary to everything breastfeeding is or represents.

[laoxinat]

UGH. What a silly article. Someone needs to get a life....
laoxinat

[Ammaarah]

That woman's tone has left me feeling all gross and prickly.

[carabee]

Did their discomfort register with you? Do you care enough about their feelings to consider the effect your actions had on them?

No, because I don't consider others comfort level to be my responsibility. They are welcome to look away.

[MamaBear1976]

Originally Posted by mamallama

Dear Ms. Dragomir,

As a "militant public breastfeeder," I'd like to clarify a couple of points.

My "crusade," as you so eloquently put it, is about normalizing breastfeeding for American babies. It's about lowering the infant mortality rate in America. I don't need to breastfeed to experience intimacy with my baby (nor does his daddy.) I breastfeed to protect his health and his life.

If you find the sight of a nursing baby to be more embarrassing than America's infant mortality rate, maybe you should reconsider what "me oriented" means.

Sincerely,
My Real Name

Right on! You said what I was thinking as I read that article, and so succinctly, too.

[peacelovingmama]

Originally Posted by mamallama

Dear Ms. Dragomir,

As a "militant public breastfeeder," I'd like to clarify a couple of points.

My "crusade," as you so eloquently put it, is about normalizing breastfeeding for American babies. It's about lowering the infant mortality rate in America. I don't need to breastfeed to experience intimacy with my baby (nor does his daddy.) I breastfeed to protect his health and his life.

If you find the sight of a nursing baby to be more embarrassing than America's infant mortality rate, maybe you should reconsider what "me oriented" means.

Sincerely,
My Real Name

Oh, this is good.

What a shame that people are still so ignorant and misogynistic. I wish she'd run into me sometime when I am wearing my t-shirt that says: Breasts: Not just for for selling beer and cars.

[kdlizmama]

I hate the argument that nursing moms should be more considerate of other people's discomfort. Some people unfortunately are uncomfortable seeing interracial couples in public. Does that mean that they should stay home and only be together in private in order to be "considerate" to the bigots of the world? I just don't get it.

[gwerydd]

Originally Posted by justJen

I love it! Seriously, it's so twisted that so many see breastfeeding in public as *selfish*. C'mon, now. What?

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this article was just so infuriating. i can't believe people sometimes. she talks about breastfeeding as self centered but does not stop to think that she is being self centered by putting her need for feeling "comfortable" over the need of the baby for nourishment. :

[guestmama9908]

That article has left me feeling all miffed and disgruntled.

I agree that she has bought into the line of thinking that breasts=sex.

When I think of my breasts these days sex is the furthest thing from my mind. They are there to feed my babies. It was really funny last night when my husband said "Those used to be my toys and now all they do is feed babies."

[p1gg1e]

It has occurred to me that perhaps your choice to nurse in public was some kind of statement. Maybe you think the rest of us should just “get over ourselves.” I hope not. It saddens me greatly when anyone develops a callous disregard for the thoughts and feelings of others. Our culture has become too “me-oriented” as it is.

Wait this woman is writing an article about HER feelings regarding a woman feeding a baby? I think the writer is more "me" oriented :

[baltic_ballet]

"Did their discomfort register with you? Do you care enough about their feelings to consider the effect your actions had on them? Courtesy, discretion and modesty are never out of style.

After observing the tender scene, unwilling though I was, I choose to believe you’ve just never thought of it this way. A discreet blanket over the shoulder, even when it is inconvenient, sends a positive message. It says, “I value this tender moment so much that I would like to shield it from public view.” I hope you’ll think about it."

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[Meiri]

In America we still value modesty regarding covering the female breast.

Where??? Since when??? Has this person been to a mall lately??? Has she watched a football game and noticed the cheerleaders? What rock has she been hiding under?

Even the Puritans accepted that a baby had to fed and that the mother had work or church to do that lead to her leaving the house.

And since when was EATING something intimate and to-be-done-only-in-private?
Does she eat only in private?

[Googy]

Something about that woman's tone just creeped me out!