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Instead Softcup during Sex??

post #1 of 23
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Has anyone had any experience with wearing the instead cup during intercourse? Can you feel it? Can your partner? I usualy use a Diva cup (love it!) but wanted to try the instead during intercourse. Any tips or experience?
post #2 of 23
I have used one, but not during sex. The outside ring seems awfully inflexible to make it comfortable during intercourse. But, I have to qualify my remarks by saying that I have a tilted pelvis that make getting a diva or the instead cup really difficult to get in the right place without it being uncomfortable or just sliding out.
post #3 of 23
???? i cant imagine using a diva during sex
post #4 of 23
I can't imagine how that would be pleasant for anyone. Are you planning on using it as a barrier protection from pregnancy or just to avoid a mess? If you are just trying to avoid a mess, use a towel underneath and take a shower after. If you are trying to use it as contraception, don't. That's not what it was designd for.
post #5 of 23
The Instead cup fits completely differently than a Diva does, I definitely couldn't imagine a Diva during sex either! But yes, you can have sex with an Instead cup in, though your DP will probably feel it.
post #6 of 23
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If you are just trying to avoid a mess, use a towel underneath and take a shower after. If you are trying to use it as contraception, don't. That's not what it was designed for.
I agree. Or IN the shower works to avoid mess.....
post #7 of 23
Doesn't sound comfortable to me for anyone. I imagine it would get knocked out of place too.

I'd shower, put down a towel, and then shower again if you are worried about mess.
post #8 of 23
Yes, it works fine. Sometimes hubby can feel it more than other times...my interior tends to change shape slightly during the course of my period. For him it's only uncomfortable toward the end of my period. I actually keep them on hand for this purpose and also to keep in my purse in case I get surprised by my period while I'm out and about. Otherwise I use a diva cup.
post #9 of 23
I've used it during sex and it works just fine. I haven't had any leakage or anything like that and it didn't bother dp.
post #10 of 23
I think it depends on your body. Personally, there is no way that would work. Actually, I hated the Instead cup because it wouldn't go all the way in and the hard plastic ring always hurt. I can't imagine it being possible to have sex with it in the way.

The diva cup I can just, barely get all the way in but I had to cut off the little tab thing completely.
post #11 of 23
I used Instead cups in college throughout my cycles, and it was fine during sex. Someone posted on MDC a while ago about using a diaphragm during AF and that working well, too. Of course, they are not interchangeable. I wouldn't rely on Instead for contraception.
post #12 of 23
I used to use the instead cup before baby, and it was fine during sex. But after baby, it leaks too much, so I use the diva and that doesn't work for sex. But things seem more sensitive now anyway.
post #13 of 23
I have some for that very reason. Not every sex act is enjoyable for both partners while bleeding onto a towel, unfortunately. My partner can feel it but it's not a big deal.
post #14 of 23
I bought some because for a while, DH was a bit reluctant to have sex when I was having my period because of the mess. Instead's product information says it can be used during sex.

It worked several times for me--comfortable, no mess, fit well--but DH said it poked him. Thankfully, he's gotten over his sex-during-period reluctance!
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(Most of the time, I use a Keeper and really love it. But as you know, there's no way that works with sex!)
post #15 of 23
Yes!! LOVE IT!!! I'm usually super aroused during my period and using an instead it's like I'm not even having a period during sex... also, it's great for dh to not worry about warming things up (I'm not sure just how explicit I should be here, lol!).
post #16 of 23
if you have it in right, it fits like a diaphragm and isn't that noticable. It's hard for me to get it in just right, but I have DTD with it in and it worked fine. Sure, DP knew it was there, but it wasn't totally distracting or uncomfortable for either of us
post #17 of 23
i've used it during sex, and like a pp mentioned it, dh can feel it more sometimes than others, but he doesn't seem to mind it.
post #18 of 23
YMMV. We tried it and both were very uncomfortable. Afterward EnviroDaddy said I must have been mistaken about it being possible to have sex with it in. I showed him where the instructions said it was. He said, "Well, what kind of men are THEY having sex with?!" It's all in how you're shaped and angled, I guess...

My preference is to use the Diva Cup and enjoy my handy man.
post #19 of 23
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Originally Posted by EnviroBecca View Post
YMMV. We tried it and both were very uncomfortable. Afterward EnviroDaddy said I must have been mistaken about it being possible to have sex with it in. I showed him where the instructions said it was. He said, "Well, what kind of men are THEY having sex with?!" It's all in how you're shaped and angled, I guess...

I don't get how it can NOT work though? It's the same basic design as a diaphragm which is for sexual use -or are there some women that can't use a diaphragm? I know I can't use a diva cup... or maybe I just need to try the smaller size (I'm over 30 and have kids so I tried the larger one -I still shiver in pain thinking about it)
post #20 of 23
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Originally Posted by Ygle View Post
I don't get how it can NOT work though? It's the same basic design as a diaphragm which is for sexual use -or are there some women that can't use a diaphragm? I know I can't use a diva cup... or maybe I just need to try the smaller size (I'm over 30 and have kids so I tried the larger one -I still shiver in pain thinking about it)
Well, I really wanted to use the instead cup, but can't get it to stay in. No matter how many times I try or how tightly I squeeze the ring together, as soon as I let go, it literally pops out...TMI? If it does manage to stay in at all, it sits so low that you can actually see the edge of the from the outside.

I cannot see how my DH could even get in there with it already hanging out. : But, like I already said, I have a tilted pelvis, so maybe that is the problem.
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