You are a great person for taking such good care of your mom. Your daughter will learn a lot from you and her grandmother through this. I don't think it is always healthy to shelter children from older people and illness. WHile she was afraid at first, now she is doing better. Sometimes an elderly person and a 3 yo can be on the same wavelength.
Get more help if you can. Are there private case managers you can employ to help you get all of the appropriate services? An experienced competant case manager is WORTH it. They understand how medicaid works, know how to navigate the system which is overwhelming when you are busy changing diapers. I have an RN friend who does private case management. She coordinates caregivers, therapy, doctor visits, transportation, whatever they need help with. They KNOW who is reliable, good to use from pharmacists to caregivers. Perhaps the right person could help get the medicare b back, obviously your mom is not of full mental capacity to be expected to keep up with that. Also, changing diapers 3 times daily isn't enough to prevent skin breakdown, it should really be done more often.
Maybe start looking into nursing homes in the area...
I am of the nature to grow old.
There is no way to escape growing old.
I am of the nature to have ill-health.
There is no way to escape having ill-health.
I am of the nature to die.
There is no way to escape death.
All that is dear to me and everyone I love
are of the nature to change.
There is no way to escape being separated from them.
My actions are my only true belongings.
I cannot escape the consequences of my actions.
My actions are the ground on which I stand.
Take care and vent all you need to here