Jumping in, too.
My DH is the head of the house and fufills the typical 'male' role of our family. He is the one to WOH, he takes care of all the finances, he has final say on decisions. I ask him before I spend money, I defer to his wishes. Why? Because I believe that God intended this for marriage- not just my marriage, but all marriages. I know that isn't a popular view.
I would never sit here and tell you that my marriage is correct, and yours is wrong and should be like mine.
God wants us to use our strengths and gifts. What if they do not fall in under the typical gendered area?
I also find it funny and sad that I have seen so many wifely submission threads filled with pleas and ideas to passive aggressively manipulate the husband to do what the wife wants, while abdicating personal responsibility. Not very submissive and very sneaky.
My partner and I have talked about this before when it's come up on message boards, and he was even more disturbed than I. He wants a partner, not a child.
It also bothers me when people call it Christian marriage because that isn't what all Christians believe.