Lately I have been thinking ALOT about becoming a doula to improve woman's birth experiences in this mainstream, medicalized culture.
I FULLY support UC and believe that women do not need assistance in birth. However, so many women are saturated in the NEED.
Would it be wrong to try and reduce the fear of birth by assisting women in having natural and beautiful births as a doula or a midwife?
I dont know how it could ever be seen as wrong to help a motherbaby have a healthier mental, spiritual and physical experience of birth. If someone were to suggest it was - I would have to say they were AWFUL narrow minded.
I fully support UC, have done it twice, may do it again this pregnancy.
--- I however do not agree that as a 'rule of thumb' you can say that "women do not need assistance in birth".
For many women, Hospital go-er's, home birther's, and UC'ers alike: find, enjoy, and are quite greatful for the support they receive from those present [either mates, doulas, midwives, friends and family].
Sure, it is theoretically possible in a perfect world where all women are empowered, strong, self reliant, and didn't need anyone's support or presence in their birth.... but is that really what its all about? Many women find great bonding with their mate in their [sometimes] powerless state and his protection/caring for her.
Strong 'I don't need anyone' types of mothers to be can and do find that, yes, indeed, birth can be long, tiring, and support is a welcomed godsend.
Some learn in the process, that yes, it's ok to need others sometimes, yes its ok to trust, and so on.
I doula, and will till I die.