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post #21 of 125
I have a neighbor who's kid's carpool honks for them to come out. It's not every morning so I've not been able to get used to it. I just about jump out of my skin, and dumped hot coffee on myself one morning. To me a car horn is a warning danger sound, that's why it's startling. FYI, I live in a small town where people usually only honk at eachother to prevent collisions. I will NOT leave a passive agressive note though. I think I will bake muffins and ask them to knock it the he!! off pretty please. :
post #22 of 125
I'd be ticked off by the note too. We had neighbors whose teenage son was picked up every morning by a honker. DS was about a year old at the time and it woke him just about every morning. I didn't want to leave a note and never saw them outside to talk to them. I did however make my way to their door to talk to his mama when said teenagers drove up on the sidewalk one afternoon to avoid the speed bump and came dangerously close to where I was walking with the kids. I received an apology as soon as he got home.

I would not give him the satisfaction of saying anything but I would stop blowing the horn.
post #23 of 125
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Originally Posted by Kleine Hexe View Post
Now that is passive aggressive.
Dh and I were sitting her laughing about your response and he said "No, that's ACTIVE aggressive."
post #24 of 125
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Originally Posted by VernaBloom View Post
Now there's an idea. Another interesting alternative would be a bullhorn. Anyone know what "Iowa State Code" has to say about that?
Now, being the search peep that I am, I looked up the Iowa State Code. Here is the only reference I could find about car horns:

321.432 Horns and warning devices.
Every motor vehicle when operated upon a highway shall be equipped with a horn in good working order and capable of emitting sound audible under normal conditions from a distance of not less than two hundred feet, but no horn or other warning device shall emit an unreasonably loud or harsh sound or a whistle. The driver of a motor vehicle shall when reasonably necessary to insure safe operation give audible warning with the horn but shall not otherwise use such horn when upon a highway.

Here is the url for the Tables and Indices of the Iowa Code
http://www.legis.state.ia.us/Current.../Index_M-O.pdf

I dislike people honking horns in driveways. I dislike even more people who make stuff up (lie) to support their opinion that honking a horn in driveways should be against the law.
post #25 of 125
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Originally Posted by jillkuster View Post
Here's how I feel.
Like a self centered piece of crap.
Embarrassed.
And irritated at him. Something about that veiled threat...........
I hate that. I'd feel the same way. Last Sunday I heard one woman saying to another woman, "Would you let your child do that?" They were talking about me and my child, and it upset me for a long time and made me feel like crap. Which I realize isn't their fault, it's my own issue of interpreting criticism in that way, but I still hate it. I feel like I either have to deny there is any validity to their criticism, or pick apart the way they said it. I ended up coming home and complaining to my husband who, thankfully, took my side of it (never can tell which way he'll roll).
post #26 of 125
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I hate that. I'd feel the same way. Last Sunday I heard one woman saying to another woman, "Would you let your child do that?" They were talking about me and my child, and it upset me for a long time and made me feel like crap. Which I realize isn't their fault, it's my own issue of interpreting criticism in that way, but I still hate it. I feel like I either have to deny there is any validity to their criticism, or pick apart the way they said it. I ended up coming home and complaining to my husband who, thankfully, took my side of it (never can tell which way he'll roll).
Oh! Oh! What'd you let your kid do?

To the person who looked up Iowa laws on car horns:
OMG. That is too funny.
The thing about passive aggressive behavior is that it sinks into your being and messes you up forever. If you hadn't looked up the law to reset my brain, every single time I'd go to use the horn forever more I'd be thinking "Only on the highway." Now I can honk happy whenever wherever. (Except my driveway.)
post #27 of 125
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Oh! Oh! What'd you let your kid do?

To the person who looked up Iowa laws on car horns:
OMG. That is too funny.
The thing about passive aggressive behavior is that it sinks into your being and messes you up forever. If you hadn't looked up the law to reset my brain, every single time I'd go to use the horn forever more I'd be thinking "Only on the highway." Now I can honk happy whenever wherever. (Except my driveway.)
Careful, there might be city ordinances. In my town you can get a ticket for disturbing the peace if it's the wrong time of day, or for some kind of nuisance.....can't remember.
post #28 of 125
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To the person who looked up Iowa laws on car horns:
OMG. That is too funny.
The thing about passive aggressive behavior is that it sinks into your being and messes you up forever. If you hadn't looked up the law to reset my brain, every single time I'd go to use the horn forever more I'd be thinking "Only on the highway." Now I can honk happy whenever wherever. (Except my driveway.)
OCD has it's uses.

Just remember that when you are on the highway you can only use your horn to insure safe operation...any other place you are free and clear!!
post #29 of 125
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Originally Posted by moondiapers View Post
Careful, there might be city ordinances. In my town you can get a ticket for disturbing the peace if it's the wrong time of day, or for some kind of nuisance.....can't remember.
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post #30 of 125
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Originally Posted by NatureMommy View Post
OCD has it's uses.
I have OCD, but I just clean a lot.
post #31 of 125
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Yeah in our town if you're even remotely loud after 10pm you get mega fines. And that includes dogs barking. : I don't like dogs barking, I'll admit that... but how in the HECK do you try and teach a dog to not bark after 10pm... ya know? The logic of that eludes me.:
post #32 of 125
What are his thoughts on you standing next to your car and screaming "I'm here, come on out!" twice a day?

Maybe it's cuz we live in the city, but I can't imagine the honking bothering me. In fact, every Sunday morning at exactly 9:45am, we hear two short honks from across the street. We've lived here 8 years, and we have figured out that it's an old man picking up his buddy to go to church. Every time dh and I hear that honk we smile a bit, because it's just so sweet that he's so reliable.

I'm glad someone else looked up the code because I was just going to say that his info did not sound right to me.
post #33 of 125
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Yeah in our town if you're even remotely loud after 10pm you get mega fines. And that includes dogs barking. : I don't like dogs barking, I'll admit that... but how in the HECK do you try and teach a dog to not bark after 10pm... ya know? The logic of that eludes me.:
Well, as a professed barking-dog-hater and a VERY light sleeper, my response would be, "Put the dog inside after 10 if it's barking so it won't bother the neighbors!"

And as a light sleeper, I'd also despise someone honking their horn in the driveway every morning. Not sure what I'd do about it - probably nothing but just seethe internally.

But I'd feel the exact same way as the OP (embarrassed, etc) if I got a note like that!!!

I'd say stop honking the horn, but use your cell (if you have one) to ring the inside phone once so she knows you're there.
post #34 of 125
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But see....he's not asleep. If he were I'd totally get it.
post #35 of 125
Maybe your car alarm should "accidentally" go off :... No no, I kid...

Honestly, I'd probably talk to him about it. Say that I'm sorry I bothered him and that if he has any further complaints to just come talk to me. (Passive aggressive notes are my pet peeve) I would probably also tell him I looked up the law "just to clarify" and point out that he's pulling laws out of his butt.
post #36 of 125
I personally cannot stand it when people honk their horns to get people to come out of houses in a neighborhood. I find it incredibly rude that you (general you) are too lazy to get out of your car and knock. The horn could be waking someone up who is sick, who works odd hours, a new baby, etc. It is unnecessary to honk.

His note was a bit rude, but maybe he doesn't like confrontation and the honking really irritated him. I cannot stand confrontation, and would be tempted to write a note in that sort of situation.
post #37 of 125
I haven't read anything other than the OP. However he would hate living next to me my oldest DD takes the bus to school and they honk once every morning to let us know they are here. This has been going on for 2 years and so far no one has complained to us.
post #38 of 125
I think you should go up to your neighbor and let him know that you'd appreciate it in the future if he'd just talk to you if he had any problems.
post #39 of 125
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I haven't read anything other than the OP. However he would hate living next to me my oldest DD takes the bus to school and they honk once every morning to let us know they are here. This has been going on for 2 years and so far no one has complained to us.
Ha! Honkings rude my ass then.
(And, this general "you" IS lazy in the morning, but even more over, If I get out of the car to go into the house for her then Ezra starts crying thinking I'm leaving him. And general you is WAY to lazy to unload him, run into the house and then put him back in his carseat. Way too lazy. Beep Beep.)
post #40 of 125
Gee, poor guy. The bus stops directly in front on my house, so my yard is always full of very loud children every weekday morning. Then my neighbors dog goes to the closest corner of the fence to the kids, which happens to be right outside my bedroom window, and barks constantly for about 30 mins, even after the bus comes through. : I am NOT a morning person. If given a choice, I'd stay in bed until 9. I would gladly trade that for an occasional single short honk.
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