ok. right now, my mom (who i have had issues w/ in the past where there is support financially from her and there are major strings attached...) and her boyfriend are paying for our condo rent. they apparently are scrapping by to do this...i hear it over and over again from her...how she doesn't have money like she did when she was married to her ex husband...ok well i KNOW this. i never asked to be placed into a $1000. a month condo!!! the good thing about this condo is that all utilities are included...including wireless internet. (where would i be w/out you mamas) plus, my mom is so close by to watch megh and such...
sooo what i'm now dealing w/ is a mom who seems to want me to tap into my cash assistance money (right now its $448 per month, will go up when baby is born...) to help pay the rent here. i told her i'd rather use that to pay towards rent in an apt. that is much cheaper someplace and use my domestic violence grant money (its up to $1200. i can use ONCE) for getting into an apt. my mom says well that wouldn't be cheaper cuz then you'd have utilities to pay for......i said well yes it would be cuz rent would be like $500. per month plus utilities...that would be like $700 or so, i'd think... plus i'd be in an apt. where tom doesn't know of...he knows this resort...he's been here. plus i'd be more on my own...i'd still need help money-wise...but at least i'd be a little bit less 'controlled' by my mother who is an absolute stress case and can't seem to control her attitude at times...it stresses me out. now she says she can't afford my MW and i may have to go to the hospital which REALLY is stressing me out to even fathom. so. what do u think, mamas...what would you do? i don't have a car.....my mom has an extra one but her DUI blower thing is hooked up to that one (she doesn't drive this one much, she drives her other car), this is actually my old trooper. but now of course she acts like its hers cuz she paid the rest owed on my loan when i left for the midwest....sigh...strings strings strings...it was that they would be helping me out for a few months.....no strings it seemed like.......NOW, it definitely feels like strings are stronger and stronger and she wants to have my money from DHS for some of this. she also wants me to pursue child support but see, that creates much more headache for ME, the mother of MY baby. ugh. i hate my mother telling me what to do. she also filled out the restraining order w/out asking me...thinking she is helping me...like i'm incapable of this?! i'm annoyed. i just KNEW my mom would start this after a few days...........having the upper hand. i need more independence. i don't need anyone 'above' me telling me how its gonna be...no more of this.
sooo what i'm now dealing w/ is a mom who seems to want me to tap into my cash assistance money (right now its $448 per month, will go up when baby is born...) to help pay the rent here. i told her i'd rather use that to pay towards rent in an apt. that is much cheaper someplace and use my domestic violence grant money (its up to $1200. i can use ONCE) for getting into an apt. my mom says well that wouldn't be cheaper cuz then you'd have utilities to pay for......i said well yes it would be cuz rent would be like $500. per month plus utilities...that would be like $700 or so, i'd think... plus i'd be in an apt. where tom doesn't know of...he knows this resort...he's been here. plus i'd be more on my own...i'd still need help money-wise...but at least i'd be a little bit less 'controlled' by my mother who is an absolute stress case and can't seem to control her attitude at times...it stresses me out. now she says she can't afford my MW and i may have to go to the hospital which REALLY is stressing me out to even fathom. so. what do u think, mamas...what would you do? i don't have a car.....my mom has an extra one but her DUI blower thing is hooked up to that one (she doesn't drive this one much, she drives her other car), this is actually my old trooper. but now of course she acts like its hers cuz she paid the rest owed on my loan when i left for the midwest....sigh...strings strings strings...it was that they would be helping me out for a few months.....no strings it seemed like.......NOW, it definitely feels like strings are stronger and stronger and she wants to have my money from DHS for some of this. she also wants me to pursue child support but see, that creates much more headache for ME, the mother of MY baby. ugh. i hate my mother telling me what to do. she also filled out the restraining order w/out asking me...thinking she is helping me...like i'm incapable of this?! i'm annoyed. i just KNEW my mom would start this after a few days...........having the upper hand. i need more independence. i don't need anyone 'above' me telling me how its gonna be...no more of this.
:this is so much to worry/think about right now its unreal.
