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post #42 of 62
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Originally Posted by Mary-Beth View Post
When I was in public schools there were often kids that didn't want to participate in gym...didn't want to run or exercise. They would use AF as an excuse to not participate. Often their parents sent them in with notes...and even got Dr.'s notes sometimes. I'm sure the gym teachers get tired of seeing that.
I can't belive they are doing this to your DD! as a pp said they are discriminating against a disability! escalate it. I would contact local media if the district does nothing. Be that mom

and to address the above quote...... I was one of those students that used af as an excuse constantly, along with my parents and drs notes for it..... and at 17 I was diagnosed with endometriosis. Sometimes it really is the truth and drs are unwilling to diagnois serious problems in young women.
post #43 of 62
oh my gosh. how is she even WALKING on that? i dont think id be able to even walk, especially fast. wow.

for her, thats ridiculous!
theres some MAJOR overstepping going on here and someone needs to know about it. id go to the superintendent and like..NOW.

sound slike my teacher in 9th grade. told her i was pregnant and sick, (not ms, i was doing pretty bad...my little one i ended up in the hospital for it, then i wasnt so bad but close) and felt like something was wrong. she said i needed to exercise more then...and made me do MORE than everyone else. : and i couldnt do anything cause my moms too scared of someone being called./having an issue with her to do anything other than to stand up :sigh: and i lost that one...makes me so upset.
but it sounds just like something the lady woukld do. doctors notes were crap to her, and the nurse was just as bad. like theyre above anyone else.
post #44 of 62
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Originally Posted by dawn1221 View Post
Well it sounds like an issue you need to take to the head of the school district. Send copies of all the notes the doctor wrote (and your's if you have it) CERTIFIED MAIL WITH SIGNATURE REQUIRED. Carbon copy the teacher, principal , and the school nurse.

And get another doctors note stating clearly: ARIAH MAY NOT RUN . PERIOD. UNTIL FURTHER NOTICE.

Make sure to state you are upset they are discriminating against someone with a disability. She should be given alternative course work to keep her grade from slipping. She can not participate in an activity because her doctor said so. Not because she is choosing not to. There is no way in hell I would accept a failing grade for PE. You should fight it.

Take it to the board. That is the Principals boss.
Try this. Good luck.

I had a gym teacher conflict when my son was in kindergarten. The gym teacher repeatedly told him and other children who couldn't tie their shoes to keep running with the laces undone. When the parents complained, she claimed she'd never said any such thing.

When I went to the principal with it and the idea of the school's liability should someone fall, the gym teacher called and apologized. But, she still told them the same thing when the kids' shoes came untied.

I ended up pulling him out of the school because of other issues where I felt the kids just were not safe or in a negative environment.
post #45 of 62
I'm still reading but..

I had the kind of parents that if put in your shoes, they would have told me, "The next time that teacher insists you run, you walk. If she insists more, you sit down. If she sends you to the principal's office for not listening, SO BE IT!" My Dad esp taught me that even though they are my teachers and I should respect them, they should respect me all the same. And if they didn't, then I could do what I deemed appropriate (and it had to be appropriate in my parents eyes, so I couldn't do anything I wanted, I had to think and decide as if my parents were watching me).

I'm surprised they have pushed her this far. So many school's are scared ..... of being sued it seems. :/

ETA: I agree with the other ladies. This is now a case to be taken to the school board. I BET you they will work with you and be on your side quickly.
post #46 of 62
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Originally Posted by UberMama View Post
I'm still reading but..

I had the kind of parents that if put in your shoes, they would have told me, "The next time that teacher insists you run, you walk. If she insists more, you sit down. If she sends you to the principal's office for not listening, SO BE IT!" My Dad esp taught me that even though they are my teachers and I should respect them, they should respect me all the same. And if they didn't, then I could do what I deemed appropriate (and it had to be appropriate in my parents eyes, so I couldn't do anything I wanted, I had to think and decide as if my parents were watching me).

I'm surprised they have pushed her this far. So many school's are scared ..... of being sued it seems. :/

ETA: I agree with the other ladies. This is now a case to be taken to the school board. I BET you they will work with you and be on your side quickly.
my parents were the same way
post #47 of 62
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Originally Posted by UberMama View Post
I'm still reading but..

I had the kind of parents that if put in your shoes, they would have told me, "The next time that teacher insists you run, you walk. If she insists more, you sit down. If she sends you to the principal's office for not listening, SO BE IT!" My Dad esp taught me that even though they are my teachers and I should respect them, they should respect me all the same. And if they didn't, then I could do what I deemed appropriate (and it had to be appropriate in my parents eyes, so I couldn't do anything I wanted, I had to think and decide as if my parents were watching me).

I'm surprised they have pushed her this far. So many school's are scared ..... of being sued it seems. :/

ETA: I agree with the other ladies. This is now a case to be taken to the school board. I BET you they will work with you and be on your side quickly.

Oh yeah...I meant to comment on this, too.

If my child were in this situation, I would instruct the exact same as above...You do not run, regardless of the teacher's instructions. If she sends you to the principals office, then so be it...actually, it might even be better for her to get sent to the office so that you can get some face time with the school officials.
post #48 of 62
Call me litigious if you want, but I would sue.

I'd contact some governmental discrimination agency and file a complaint about the principal (if this school is discriminating against a mild and temporary disability, what are they doing to others?). I'd file a complaint with the state against the school nurse for practicing outside the scope of her lisence, and I would try like hell to get the gym teacher criminally indicted for assault.

And I would probably send the superintendant and the school board a letter detailing my actions.
post #49 of 62
what kind of place is this???
post #50 of 62
Wow, just, wow. I don't have much advice to offer as you have been given so much great advice. Just thought I'd offer your daughter and you a hug.

I had a study hall monitor who was on a scary power trip like this. There was really something wrong with her.

I'm not sure that a person who is willing to put a child in physical danger should be working in a school. That is what this gym teacher is doing.
post #51 of 62
In addition to the other advise you have gotten... Does the school have an "adaptive PE" program? I don't think my Jr. High did, but it was how I survived HS PE with severe asthma. If they do, have her transferred until she can fully participate again. This will take a Drs. signiture on a form, probably, but that seems pretty easy for you to get. Otherwise, explore getting her transferred to a different gym teacher at least. This one clearly has it in for her.
post #52 of 62
Just to clarify what I said a while back...my point was that I know gym teachers get sick of excuses (like cramps, and other injuries) I'm not saying it's right or that I agree with them.
Most gym teachers just let it go with the Dr.'s note.

I hope you can switch your dd to another gym class and teacher.
post #53 of 62
I'd also try to get a note that says something along the lines of "no PE until further notice" rather than "No PE for X amount of time." They shouldn't be letting her back INTO gym class until they get the "all clear" from her dr!
post #54 of 62
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Originally Posted by Ruthla View Post
I'd also try to get a note that says something along the lines of "no PE until further notice" rather than "No PE for X amount of time." They shouldn't be letting her back INTO gym class until they get the "all clear" from her dr!
No kidding. If you wanted to sue, you might be able to have her medical bills covered due to their negligence and aggravation of a medical condition. Just a thought. Don't anybody think about liability insurance now days?

But I'd take it up with the school board. You have quite a few people not doing their jobs and that needs to be addressed. It's not likely that you'll get any respect from these people but you just might see a different principal next year.

Good Luck.
post #55 of 62
how's the toe doing?
post #56 of 62
I would be livid as well.
post #57 of 62
Thread Starter 
A couple of things.
Ariah has been gone all weekend at a friend's house for a slumberparty so I haven't checked the toe this wkend. She took her medicine with her and she's been taking it. (I've called her a bunch to make sure.)
I'll actually check the toe out as soon as I get off the computer cause she's home now.
I can't afford a lawyer, how do I go about getting one?
I can't decide if I want to talk to the school board, or just go the lawyer route until I know how and if I can get one.
post #58 of 62
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Originally Posted by jillkuster View Post
... I can't afford a lawyer, how do I go about getting one?

I can't decide if I want to talk to the school board, or just go the lawyer route until I know how and if I can get one.
I would try calling around to see if you can get a free consultation. If you are lucky it may result in a brief letter for little or no money.
~Cath
post #59 of 62
Even if you don't have a lawyer yet, speak to the school officials as though you already do. They can't prove you don't, and it may help make them listen to reason a bit sooner than otherwise.

It always amazes me how schools seem to have a greater control over what happens to our children than we do. At least, that's what most of them would like us to believe.

Give 'em hell.
post #60 of 62
This reminds me of something my parents went through with my sister in the
8th grade. She was given a C in PE. It ruined her 4.0 GPA that she had maintained since 6th grade. My mom conferenced with the PE teacher and was told my sister got the C because of non-participation, and the teacher was standing by it with the principal's support.

Yeah, right, my sister had a cast on her foot for almost 3 months. She broke it while competing at the State Gymnastic Championships. My mom took her complaint all the way to the school board and the superindentant. She vowed to go all the way to the State Board of Education if the school did not rectify the problem and restore my sister's 4.0. They did.
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