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post #21 of 43
7/19/08 at 2:26am
Wow. Old thread.

If you want to increase your chances of multiples in a LEGAL manner, by all means. But in an illegal manner? Uh, no.

I do not regret my twins in the least. I still would have TTC'd the month we conceived them even if I had known then we'd end up with twins. But what is the fantasy with twins? I don't get it. I never have and I never will now, esp having had twins myself. I mean that in a nice manner towards my boys, as I do NOT regret them and love them, twins or singletons.

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post #22 of 43
7/19/08 at 2:28am
Does it really matter how old this thread is? Geesh...

I'm more concerned with people illegally selling RX pain drugs and people getting hooked on them- taking someone's Clomid is the least of our problems...

I recently miscarried a singleton three weeks ago - and I did nothing to cause it...pregnancy is risky in itself - women who are older than 35 and are getting pregnant all the time and I guess you consider that putting their baby at risk?? In case you are unaware, any woman over the age of 35 is automatically high risk.

Anyway, I could go on forever regarding how I feel people should be financially, mentally, and physically capable (among other things) of handling twins (or one baby period), but my point was, people do crazy things; as long as it's not affecting everyone else (like say, "she's" on Medicaid), there is no need for judgment.

By the way, I've been high risk with my last two pregnancies and twins were never the cause...oh, and our premiums are automatically deducted every month via hubby's job.
post #23 of 43
7/19/08 at 9:54am
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Originally Posted by oranrene View Post
I'm more concerned with people illegally selling RX pain drugs and people getting hooked on them- taking someone's Clomid is the least of our problems...
Although it might be a lesser problem, can't it still be a problem? Illegal parking might not be worse than running a red light but we still shouldn't allow it.

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Originally Posted by oranrene View Post

I recently miscarried a singleton three weeks ago - and I did nothing to cause it...pregnancy is risky in itself - women who are older than 35 and are getting pregnant all the time and I guess you consider that putting their baby at risk?? In case you are unaware, any woman over the age of 35 is automatically high risk.
I am so sorry for your loss.

FWIW, I don't think age 35 = automatic high risk. That seems to be a defensive medicine attitude that many people on these boards do not share with the medical industry. However, I don't understand why anyone would want to *increase* risks (because I admit that there are some risks of pregnancy) by adding an illegal prescription to the load. It's like saying, "hey, I smoke so I may as well drink and not wear a seat belt too."
post #24 of 43
7/19/08 at 11:16am
Thank you for your apologies - that's not something I ever wish to go through again. However, due to my recent experience, I tend to agree with 35 and up being high risk. Eggs age. Miscarriage never even crossed my mind until this happened because I had previously had three planned pregnancies with three perfect babies (even with a septated uterus, incompetent cervix, preterm labor, and Rh-, with positive husband). If it weren't for having a great OB who counseled me at great lengths during my grief and assured me all my eggs weren't "bad," I wouldn't even consider trying again. I do think it was my age that caused this, but am staying hopeful for the next time.

At any rate, I'm not here to have a debate on taking Clomid illegally for the sake of having twins, but calling women selfish and irresponsible just because their twins were conceived un-naturally wasn't necessary. Seems to me they just wanted two babies for whatever reason and they are just as good of people as the women who have them naturally.
post #25 of 43
7/19/08 at 1:32pm
oranrene - I am sorry for you loss.


I do however want to chime in and say I don't buy the 35+ high risk thing either given my own and the experience of others on this board, other boards and in real life.

There are many reasons to lose a pregnancy. I have known many young woman lose there babies w/o and identifiable reason. I'm 29 I lost my baby 3 1/2 years ago for still unknown reasons. I don't have my age to blame that on. Hell, this long battle with infertility has nothing to do with me "age". If thats the case, I'm screwed. I'm not saying this is the case for you too, but age doesnt = you're screwed.
post #26 of 43
7/19/08 at 1:44pm
I know someone who did this. She got pregnant with triplets. They were born at 29 weeks and 2 of the babies passed away in the first week. Her surviving son has multiple special needs related to his prematurity.

Think she still thinks taking unprescribed Clomid is a good idea?
post #27 of 43
7/19/08 at 1:47pm
This creeps me out.
post #28 of 43
7/19/08 at 4:21pm
Yup. My point.


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Originally Posted by Baby Makes 4 View Post
I know someone who did this. She got pregnant with triplets. They were born at 29 weeks and 2 of the babies passed away in the first week. Her surviving son has multiple special needs related to his prematurity.

Think she still thinks taking unprescribed Clomid is a good idea?
post #29 of 43
7/19/08 at 7:13pm
Thank you, Barose. I am sorry to hear of yours, as well. I think I am still in my "angry phase," as I was never told why this happened. After I miscarried, I wound up in the ER due to severely low blood pressure (I took a hot, hot shower because the pain was getting unbearable, so that lowered my blood pressure to 110/39 - man I felt awful). At the ER, I gave them my fully intact placenta with the sac and my baby, as well. I only gave it to them so that they would tell me what went wrong. The report I got told me absolutely nothing, other than I think it was indicating something was wrong with the placenta. I am still waiting for my doctor to review the short report and hopefully shed some light.

As for the woman who took Clomid and had triplets, the same thing is known to happen with one baby and no Clomid.

Some women have taken Clomid and had six babies and they all survived. Whether Clomid is prescribed or not, you're still taking a risk - just don't feel people should judge others because they used it unprescribed, that's all I'm saying. Doctors hand that med out all the time. I was was given an Rx for Clomid just because I told my doctor we had been trying for 3 months and I asked him if he could find out why I hadn't conceived yet. Instead of telling me to just keep trying, he handed me a script for Clomid. I never did get it filled, though, because I am not a medicine type of person and was actually worried about taking it. I wound up with a positive pregnancy test 3 weeks later and had a healthy baby boy.
post #30 of 43
7/19/08 at 9:48pm
I cant see myself personally purposefully trying for twins, very much the opposite, hubby says when it is time to TTC, I am to stay away from yams and all types of sweet potatoes
post #31 of 43
7/19/08 at 11:27pm
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Originally Posted by barose View Post
I do however want to chime in and say I don't buy the 35+ high risk thing either given my own and the experience of others on this board, other boards and in real life.
Definitely.

I personally have mixed feelings on this whole subject. In fact, I'm not even sure what I believe on this subject. I can see the reasoning behind both sides of the argument.
post #32 of 43
7/20/08 at 12:12am
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Originally Posted by oranrene View Post
As for the woman who took Clomid and had triplets, the same thing is known to happen with one baby and no Clomid.
Sure it happens but is it reasonable to purposely put yourself in a high risk situation for no medical reason? You have to admit that carrying multiples is far riskier for mom and babies than carrying a singleton.
post #33 of 43
7/20/08 at 1:23am
Sure twins are riskier, but that's a chance some women are willing to take. I have multiple medical problems that make me high risk of losing a child, yet I am willing to try yet again to have a baby anyway because that's a chance I am willing to take. Does this make me irresponsible or selfish?

Personally, taking a medication (prescribed or otherwise) is not a chance I am willing to take (even though I would like twins myself, I prefer God's Will), but I am not going to judge another woman for trying it. I would like to have twins simply because this is my last time and I want a large family, lots of brothers and sisters because I am a sibling of six and I love having so many brothers and sisters...

We will just agree to disagree - it's not likely we will change each other's minds on the subject.
post #34 of 43
7/20/08 at 1:14pm
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Originally Posted by oranrene View Post
Sure twins are riskier, but that's a chance some women are willing to take. I have multiple medical problems that make me high risk of losing a child, yet I am willing to try yet again to have a baby anyway because that's a chance I am willing to take. Does this make me irresponsible or selfish?

We will just agree to disagree - it's not likely we will change each other's minds on the subject.
I also have a medical condition that puts me at a high risk for miscarriage. I have lost 3 babies already and am pregnant for the last time right now. I am doing everything in my power to decrease the risk to myself and my baby.

IMO, taking Clomid solely for the purpose of increasing your chance of having multiples is irresponsible as you are also purposely increasing the risk of complications for your children. One shouldn't be willing to put their childrens' lives at risk because twins are cute.

Yup, we'll have to agree to disagree and that's cool.
post #35 of 43
7/21/08 at 6:52pm
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Originally Posted by Brown Lioness View Post
stay away from yams and all types of sweet potatoes
yes!

my Nana had two sets of twins (nine kids total- my grandma was part of the first set). she birthed unassisted too 96 years old..
post #36 of 43
7/23/08 at 3:30pm
i would love to have twins...because then i'd know that would be it for me.
i have one, wish i could have had two because i wouldn't be thinking about getting pregnant again.
i want to have another soley because i have very little family and my son would be alone .....
post #37 of 43
8/6/08 at 7:53pm

Just looking for advice not any opinions

So I am a healthy and fertile 28 year old woman and I have a beautiful healthy 7year old daughter which I concieved naturaly,no prolems with pregnacy at all.
i am now ready to ahve another child but want to increase my chances of having twins,I was trying to do some research on buying generic clomid online and just try it for one cycle,if i conceive just one child I would be thrilled but twins would be great!What do you think my chances ar for having twins and I would like to hear from other woman who ahve already tried to do this .thanks so much
post #38 of 43
8/6/08 at 7:57pm
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Originally Posted by babygrl3121 View Post
So I am a healthy and fertile 28 year old woman and I have a beautiful healthy 7year old daughter which I concieved naturaly,no prolems with pregnacy at all.
i am now ready to ahve another child but want to increase my chances of having twins,I was trying to do some research on buying generic clomid online and just try it for one cycle,if i conceive just one child I would be thrilled but twins would be great!What do you think my chances ar for having twins and I would like to hear from other woman who ahve already tried to do this .thanks so much

Buying prescription w/o a script is illegal and dangerous.

I suggest reading the rest of the replies and maybe editing your post before it gets yanked.
post #39 of 43
8/8/08 at 4:40pm
i cant imagine taking something to make yourself have twins unless you have to. Now if you have a fertility problem and need meds to get pregnant at all thats a different story, I have no problem with that. But taking meds when you dont need them just cause you want twins? I myself wouldnt mind having twins but I would never make myself have twins. If I am blessed naturally with twins that awesome, if not fine.
post #40 of 43
8/13/08 at 5:40pm
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Originally Posted by babygrl3121 View Post
So I am a healthy and fertile 28 year old woman and I have a beautiful healthy 7year old daughter which I concieved naturaly,no prolems with pregnacy at all.
i am now ready to ahve another child but want to increase my chances of having twins,I was trying to do some research on buying generic clomid online and just try it for one cycle,if i conceive just one child I would be thrilled but twins would be great!What do you think my chances ar for having twins and I would like to hear from other woman who ahve already tried to do this .thanks so much
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