I want to apologize sincerely to anyone who was at all offended by my previous post. At the time I am typing this, no one had mentioned it specifically offending them, but did mention other posts with a similar tone to mine that they found offensive, so... My apologies.
That said, I feel a little bit of a need to clarify what I was trying to get at with my last post.. I live in a rural, poverty-stricken area. The schools generally suck, there are not a lot of better than minimum wage opportunities job-wise, and since a lot of the parents of people in my generation (I'm 25) and slightly younger are hard-core super-fundies, there's a lot of emphasis on abstinence, and a lot of (what I see as) resultant young (teenage, high school age) parents. I have found, through personal experience, that people of my age and social class (dh, dd, and I get by on less than $1k/mo) tend to not think for themselves. While I don't see anyone necessarily saying, "The Man knows what's best for me! Corporations have my best interests in mind! I love the establishment!" there is a LOT of just going with the flow. Very sheeple-y, kwim? It is the ff'ers with this attitude that bother me.
My older sister is kinda an example. I love her dearly, but she is very "go with the flow" and not so much, "hey wait, is this really a good idea?" When she was pregnant - both times - she planned to bf, I think primarily because she saw my mother bf my brother and myself (we're a little more than a decade younger than her) and was encouraged to bf by Mom. She did not read anything about pregnancy, birth, or breastfeeding during either pregnancy.
No really. She read nothing. I am not joking. It's like, if it wasn't important enough for someone else to spell it out for her, why bother?
She had a c-section with her oldest, I think because of FTP. She tried to bf, it was terribly painful and she was bleeding more than lactating. The hospital staff told her she wasn't making enough milk, and they took her son and started to supplement. No LC, no help, just, "Hey, you suck at this, let us do something else then!" Her second and last, a daughter, was born with the help of vacuum extraction, again FTP. Same story with the bf.
She had terrible experiences with both births and bf'ing attempts. And I can't help but feel it's kinda her fault, because she did NOTHING to prepare for them.
It's that that irks me, sickens me. It's knowing that there are people who just do what seems easiest.. Okay, sure, they love their babies.. but wth? It just seems so irresponsible and UNloving to me to not do everything you can to ensure that things are as perfect for your baby as you can make them.
I understand some women try and fail. That happens with every human activity. It's the ones who give it a half-hearted try or no try at all and shrug it off.. and for the sake of their children, and their children's children, I feel like something needs to be done to help. I think that's kinda what the point of this thread was supposed to be - when you feel like they're not even giving it the ol' college try, what do you do? do you say anything? if so, how do you come off as friendly and helpful and not scary and mean? or do you just do what you're doing and hope they want to emulate you? or do nothing?