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that notices the difference between here and DDC. there is a lot more discussion of hospital births and drugs in DDC. i'm not saying that's BAD....just thought it was odd and what a diiference there seems to be.:
post #2 of 107
YES. I am no longer pg but wasn't able to comfortably spend much time in my DDC because it seemed VERY mainstream for a MDC board. You are not the only one.
post #3 of 107
Sometimes the DDCs are the first places a new member gets active. After they spend a little more time around here, they get crunchier. I know I did.
post #4 of 107
My DDC has a bunch of homebirthers and UC'ers ... I love it!
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Well, I knew my health circumstances kind of dictated a hospital birth with this one, much as I would have liked it to be otherwise. (I was pretty much risked out of a midwife-attended birth with any of the midwives in my area.) I know already MDC is not the best place to post questions or expect discussions of hospital births, so I didn't really post in this forum much, although I read here a lot.

A recent poll in my DDC showed that more than half were planning out of hospital births (counting birth centers, UCs and homebirths). Not a high percentage for MDC, perhaps, but certainly a lot higher than you'd find among the general population, at least where I live.
post #6 of 107
Yes, I think lots of moms find their way into a DDC but aren't necesarily all that into other aspects of NFL, or are just not that into the natural birthing aspect of NFL.
I am not able to spend as much time in my DDC because of this - it's just not the supportive environment I want.....at times, it feels like babycenter, LOL!
post #7 of 107
I think that questions and topics like what you are referring to are more common in the DDC's because the mamas in the groups are more like friends and less likely to stone each other when they don't agree.

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Yes, I think lots of moms find their way into a DDC but aren't necesarily all that into other aspects of NFL, or are just not that into the natural birthing aspect of NFL.
I am not able to spend as much time in my DDC because of this - it's just not the supportive environment I want.....at times, it feels like babycenter, LOL!

:this is how i feel. it's just not the type of thing i am looking for, but i know it IS for many others. i guess i will stick to this board:
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I think that questions and topics like what you are referring to are more common in the DDC's because the mamas in the groups are more like friends and less likely to stone each other when they don't agree.

Yeah, this too.
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Yes, I think lots of moms find their way into a DDC but aren't necesarily all that into other aspects of NFL, or are just not that into the natural birthing aspect of NFL.
I am not able to spend as much time in my DDC because of this - it's just not the supportive environment I want.....at times, it feels like babycenter, LOL!
I struggle with the same thing...but I've actually found that to be true for many of the Pregnancy and Birth (and even in the TTC forum) sub-forums.
post #11 of 107
I was shocked to see all the mommas in my DDC happily discussing their ultrasounds. Almost nobody questions them. There are like 10 threads going about them right now. One momma asked about risks so I posted a few thoughts and a little research and was slammed by the "there's no proven risk" moms.
I don't post much there because it seems really mainstream. I guess MDC has made me way crunchier than I realized, not that that's a bad thing...
post #12 of 107
This may be a silly question, but what the heck is DDC? I mean, aside from Dewey Decimal Classification...
post #13 of 107
Oh right, Due Date Clubs... nevermind.
post #14 of 107
Some women have to have a hospital birth for whatever reason. I think the majority of women are going to midwives, doing homebirths, etc.

Not everyone has the money to shell out for that awesome homebirth midwife. I don't. I am seeing midwives, but I am unsure what to do about my birth. If I want insurance to pay for it, I have to give birth in a hospital. I'd love to UC, but I don't have the support system for that. I might give birth at a birth center in NH, but again that is going to cost me quite a bit of money. The midwife who I'd be seeing there said that I had to have a u/s or she couldn't see me because of my vbac. We had to make sure that the placenta wasn't on my scar.

I really wish I had some people to be around me so I could do a UC. If I end up at a hospital it will be VERY reluctantly.
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Some women have to have a hospital birth for whatever reason. I think the majority of women are going to midwives, doing homebirths, etc.

Not everyone has the money to shell out for that awesome homebirth midwife. I don't. I am seeing midwives, but I am unsure what to do about my birth. If I want insurance to pay for it, I have to give birth in a hospital. I'd love to UC, but I don't have the support system for that. I might give birth at a birth center in NH, but again that is going to cost me quite a bit of money. The midwife who I'd be seeing there said that I had to have a u/s or she couldn't see me because of my vbac. We had to make sure that the placenta wasn't on my scar.

I really wish I had some people to be around me so I could do a UC. If I end up at a hospital it will be VERY reluctantly.
This. There's often a huge difference in the kind of birth you dream of having and the kind of birth you actually have, for many, many reasons. I know I love the idea of a home birth, but in our situation it's just not going to happen. We're over half an hour from a hospital here, and the house is far from ideal for birthing. Also, despite our insurance being awful, it stills pays for some of our hospital birth. There's no way we could afford a home birth.

Some women discover that they or the baby have a health issue, some have insurance problems, some are far from a hospital, some have a partner who just isn't comfortable with home birth, and sometimes the mother herself likes the idea of home birth better than the reality. As long as each of us thinks long and hard about our decisions and does the best we can with what we have (even if someone else thinks another way would be better), I don't see why anyone should judge us for what we decide.
post #16 of 107
People in a DDC generally have context for eachother, and a bit more grace for the idiosyncrasies of a particular pregnancy experience. I've had no prenatal care for much of the pregnancy, and plan to homebirth in my tiny urban apartment with minimal intervention--very close to a UC, actually. However, I've had several ultrasounds: to date pregnancy (as LMP gives me a wide 2 month margin), a 20 week anatomy scan (to prepare for any abnormalities that would require a transfer for surgery immediately after birth), and to confirm breech presentation (this influences my choice of a midwife). I consider these appropriate reasons for u/s, and would balk at someone suggesting I'm not doing it "naturally" enough.

I understand that someone else might find the hospital to be a perfect place to birth, and I'm fully supportive of that. Chances are, in a DDC, I know their circumstances and experiences, and I'd be far less likely to apply my generalities (ie; "the hospital is no place to have babies") to them.
post #17 of 107
And don't assume that because a person is having a hospital birth, that it's their first choice. I'd much rather give birth in a birth center or at home, but the birth center's not covered by my insurance, and home is two plane flights from a hospital that's "in-network" for my insurance. On a teacher's salary, I can't afford my ideal birth. My best friend (who's not on MDC, but is quite possibly the crunchiest person I know IRL) opted for a hospital birth over a home birth because she just doesn't have much housekeeping support from her DP... the hospital was a break from the household responsibilities. People make all kinds of decisions for all kinds of reasons.
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Sometimes the DDCs are the first places a new member gets active. After they spend a little more time around here, they get crunchier. I know I did.
yea, me too
post #19 of 107
I think there's more discussion about it in DDCs because members feel safer there. Guess what? I'm having a hospital birth (by choice!) and I really don't feel like posting it in this forum and getting flamed and a bazillion suggestions to just UC instead. I'm 33, this is my 4th child, and I'm quite educated about labor and birth, thank you very much. I also don't feel like educating any one else on this board as to why all 3 of my hospital births so far have NOT been horrible but instead wonderful experiences.

At least in a DDC there's a lot more room for discussion and questions. I see so many mamas here that throw out the UC idea without any kind of background information, etc., and it really makes me scratch my head. Do people *really* think that someone planning a hospital birth is all of the sudden going to birth their baby alone at home just 'cause an internet stranger said so? Most of the time people give this suggestion with NO additional facts - just "Well, you should UC instead."

(I'm not against UCs at all - just against one-line, in no way helpful advice and flaming. )
post #20 of 107
Haven't found that yet but we are a pretty new board- only June!
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