I see both sides of the issues and while there are some educated people I am sure for the most part I love how moms here are concerned and educated and informed about the choices we make for our babies/children. However, what is right for some is not right for others and at the end of the day we are trying to make the best decisions for our babies.
I am by no means a mainstream mother but I just came back from an sonogram at 9 weeks. Why? not because I wanted to see the heartbeat but because I have thyroid issues and my TSH was totally supressed and they needed to know if it was due to twins so we could get my medication dosage adjustment right. Maybe the masses at mothering think that I am putting my baby's life in danger but hey I need to keep my thyroid stable so I can give this baby the best start possible and the decision had to be an informed one. These numbers are often seen in twins and they are treated differently if that is the case.
About birthing... My first was a csection - medically necessary yes. My labor was great at a birth center we tried everything under the sun but he was asynclitic and after my midwife tried everything under the sun and he was not moving and his heart rate kept dipping constantly we did a csection. I am glad we did. Especially after the outcome of baby# 2.
With baby number two. I had a home VBAC. It was wonderful but his cord was an occult prolapse and I lost my son after a week in the nicu. Do I belive in homebirth yes. But homebirth also has risks all births have some risks. So far my homebirth has been the most horrifing experience of my life. I wish it had been different. For my next birth I am going to be at a hospital with a midwife. If I have another VBAC GREAT I would love that and I hope for that. I also want to be monitored and I am well educated about what that entails. I also am not going to be as 100% about anything because I have been there and at the end I am ok with compromising because a great birth plan means nothing when you don't get to bring your baby home. Don't get me wrong I still belive and support homebirth I just know this time it is NOT for me and I am a lot more willing to compromise in areas which I feel ok in.
I think we all can quickly jump and judge others by a few lines writen here and we can feel superior because the choices we make or we are lucky to not have to make. To me nobody knows better than ME what is best for my babies and I strive to do the best I can for them with educated choices that sometiems fit the views here and sometimes might not. When I explain the situation everybody seems to understand but maybe if I just mention something I could be one of those that some might read and you quickly jump to judge as not NFL enough or mainstream.
I wish we could support eachother and lovingly educate one another when needed and requested. I love mothering but now that I have been on the other side of the statistics I extend a lot more grace and I feel a lot more humbled about birth and all the choices that come with it. What a great thing that there is so much info and support in this place. Why taint that with negativity and judgement.