Originally Posted by pampered_mom
I don't think that's at all what any of us who agreed with the OPs sentiment said. I'm sure it's nice to come from a happy birthing past, but some of us don't have that privilege. Some of us have had traumatic experiences.
Well, let's see, this is my previous birth experience, in a nutshell:
* Tested GBS positive
* BP went up at week 39 above the magic numbers
* Water broke at 40+2, thick meconium in the fluid
Headed straight to hospital, since I was GBS+ (and didn't know much about it). Urged to stay in bed to keep my BP down, though they showed me how to unplug the monitors first thing so I could go to the bathroom at will. Had a heplock between abx doses.
Blood labs come back after a couple hours... scaring the !@#$ out of the midwife. CBC and platelet counts *way* down from my results a week earlier. Talking about Mag Sulfate, HELLP Syndrome, etc. More blood taken a couple hours later to double-check. Still not in active labor.
New labs come back, same numbers as the week before. Lab error. Whew. (However, once this MW's nervousness gets turned up to that level, it's hard to dial it back down, apparently.)
At 12 hours we tried cervadil, and at 18 finally consented to induction.
18 hours later, finally consented to epidural. Didn't take; two hours later, got it again. Meanwhile, couldn't leave the bed in case it *did* take, so had to get a catheter without anesthesia.
Woke up at like 2 a.m. with a searing, stabbing pain between my shoulderblades. RN on duty wouldn't wake up the midwife for three hours. DH finally got it managed with massage and pillows.
12 hours later (as my uterus started conking out), finally consented to c-section. Spent two hours on the operating table. Although everything checked out fine on the anesthesia pre-checks, once they got past the first layer and started retracting, I started feeling PAIN. I'm sure the epidural cut it *some*, but it was at least as bad as the worst pitocin contractions.
Now, thanks to our providers, who at least knew what "consent" meant, we didn't experience this whole odyssey as extremely traumatic. But I'd hardly call this a "happy" birthing past.
Now, when I posted the questions you quoted, I was thinking in particular of this quote (which I'm not attributing, because I'm not trying to single out the *person* who quoted it... it seems representative of a certain sentiment common to several posters in this thread):
|I am not able to spend as much time in my DDC because of this - it's just not the supportive environment I want.....at times, it feels like babycenter, LOL!
So, that is someone saying, in essence, that the environment is "unsupportive" because the other moms are making different decisions from her. But perhaps I'm misunderstanding a lot of people here?