Originally Posted by Missy
It's about respect. I don't understand why that's so damned hard to understand, except that maybe most people in the US don't give a rat's ass about respect unless they are seeking it out. Giving it seems to cause major pain and inconvenience.
Bellymama, I'm sorry. You made a simple, thoughtful request that anyone who gave half a brain cell's worth of effort should understand. Thank you for trying.
thank you. i appreciate this.
i agree that it is about respect. i also agree with the pp who posted about "PC" vs. "manners"....word on that.
Ironica, i understand that by not finding anything about the Dineh and their dismay over the use of the term "blessingway" on google may make you feel like it doesn't exist. if it isn't google-able, i guess it doesn't exist
natives tend to be private people. they tend to not usually get in your face about things. it is often part of the way that their particular tribe's values are taught to them...this is obviously not always the case, but it is something i have known of many natives i have known who are what we would describe as "traditional" natives. so the fact that there are not manifesto's decrying the use of this word, or vitrolic hate mail from them, doesn't mean it isn't something that affects them. i promise you this. there are many native mama's on this board, while not necessarily Dineh,will tell you that the "use" of traditional/spiritual/cultural ceremonies, prayers, costuming outside of its intended use by the people it belongs to, is disrespectful and harmful and hurtful.
again, i was sharing this information because i felt that it was very important. yes, as a native, i DO feel like it is important and i DO feel like it is disrespectful.
but i can not make people do or feel anything and i can not change anyone. that is not my goal. its not my job. i can merely be the change i want to see in the world. and share what i know, and let others mull it over for themselves. if what i have shared with you doesn't move you to make a change, i understand. to each their own.
but know that the use of this word does hurt people. it does upset people. it does affect people. whether you think it should or not, doesn't affect that fact that it DOES.
i will repost this because it is a google-able document and you seem to need to have google-able document to prove the importance of this, rather than listening to actual native mamas telling you it does ,that shares that the Dine would like people to cease using this word to describe a mother blessinghttp://pregnancy.about.com/gi/dynami...%2F4-1pg2.html
scroll down to see the added footnote
Quote:"1. In 2004, Native feminists wrote us to request that the term 'Blessingway' no longer be used to describe non-Navajo prenatal ceremonies such as the one described in this article. They explained that the term 'Blessingway' refers to a sacred spiritual ceremony performed by the Navajo people to celebrate rites of passage that occur throughout the entire life cycle, and not only the passage into motherhood. They suggested the term 'Mother Blessing' was a more appropriate term for a ceremony that was influenced, and respectful, of this tradition, but not practiced in accordance with the Navajo faith and culture. We completely agree.
Out of repect for the great history and importance of the Blessingway to Navajo people, many doulas, midwives and mothers now use the term 'Mother Blessing' to denote the celebration outlined in this article -- a practice we have also adopted."
i appreciate these people are saying "out of respect
for the history
of the Blessingway to the Navajo people"...that they, and other mothers doulas and midwives are now using the term "Mother Blessing".