Originally Posted by inchijen
Im preggo and emotional and find this debate so very disheartening.
In our very society, women are being cut open by medical professional and railroaded into birthing flat on their backs. They are treated like they have imperfect bodies and that pregnancy is a disease that needs curing by a doctor.
Any movement of american women to try and identify with the amazing and powerful sacred energy behind womanhood, pregnancy and birth is right on. This inner attacking and arguing over the VERY WORD THEY USE is petty and trivial in the grand scheme of things.
first, hugs mama. being pregnant can be so hard.
i can see where you are coming from with your feminist argument. however, when we are discussing peoples who have had their land, traditions, culture, language and actual members of their tribes ripped away, destroyed, suppressed etc...things get a bit different.
the native people's of this country in most cases had not a lot of choice in the matter when it came to them being "assimilated". they were forced to take on white american culture and language. if they openly refused, often they paid with their lives, or the lives of those they loved.so the fact that Dineh women may be using the term feminist is really beside the point. you can't flip it like that. not when it comes to aboriginal people who were colonized. they didn't chose to have white people come to their lands, destroy their way of life, rip apart their families, threaten death to anyone who spoke their language or practiced their spiritual beliefs.
however, a non native pregnant woman HAS a choice. no one is threatening her to use or not use a certain word rather than another (and these things really happened to natives) she can choose to respect the wishes of people who have gone through this in the very not so distant past. she can be inspired by the Blessingway (or any other tradition that is outside of her culture)to quote the footnote used in the OP: "They suggested the term 'Mother Blessing' was a more appropriate term for a ceremony that was influenced, and respectful, of this tradition."
it seems to me that the Dineh are not upset that people find their spirituality inspiring and interesting...its more like they are asking you to use it to create your own tradition. and i think that is very reasonable. it may not be important in YOUR grand scheme of things, but to some people, this is the most important part of their spiritual tradition...one that they have probably had to struggle to keep alive and going. respectfully, i have to say that just because something doesn't seem important to you, doesn't mean it isn't important.
i agree that women creating more spiritual ways of celebrating their rites of passage into womanhood is a wonderful idea. i just asked that people reconsider using this term which is already so deeply involved in a lifelong ritual/ceremony done by the Dineh. you can choose to do whatever you feel best doing, of course.
good luck on your pregnancy mama...i hope that you have a wonderful and peaceful birth.