worst comment award!

[sorteep]

This one takes the prize!

One of my patients starts telling me this long involved story about her husbands neice and how she just had to deliver a still born full term baby.. goes into excruciating details.. and then asks me "is your baby miving a lot, " "is the baby really active" etc... I mean , like a 9 mos pG mom REALLY needs to hear these things??? the kicker, the lady is a psychologist/ therapist!! should she not have KNOWN better?? WTF ??? luckily I am durable and not the nervous type!! some people! sheesh!
Laura

[Heather Marie]

Laura-

I am sorry that lady shared that story with you. A couple weeks ago I had a similiar experience with someone telling me a story about a late term pregnancy loss. I kept trying to walk away as she was telling me and she just kept following me and talking. People drive me nuts sometimes! Someone needs to write a book about pregnancy etiquette.

[Lizzie9984]

Originally Posted by sorteep

the kicker, the lady is a psychologist/ therapist!! should she not have KNOWN better??

A shrinky-dink darn well should know better, of all people! I've always believed they aren't as smart as they'd like us to think they are, but this one just takes the "Stupid Cake" for sure...

[wwisdomskr]

That's an outrageous story to tell to any pregnant woman. Good grief. I'm sorry you had to listen to it, Mama.

[JamesMama]

Oh thats TERRIBLE!

I already freak out at this stage of pregnancy since they run out of space and move less...*sigh* I cannot believe she would tell you that story ((hugs))

[gcgirl]

Originally Posted by Heather Marie

Laura-

I am sorry that lady shared that story with you. A couple weeks ago I had a similiar experience with someone telling me a story about a late term pregnancy loss. I kept trying to walk away as she was telling me and she just kept following me and talking. People drive me nuts sometimes! Someone needs to write a book about pregnancy etiquette.

That is sad. I bet that lady was still suffering her loss and didn't have anyone to help her work through it. Unfortunately, burdening an expectant mother with that pain isn't very helpful.

[melissakc]

How uncouth. Yuck!

[Curlita]

Good lord. How moronic.

When I was about 5 months pregnant, one of my board members told me a similar story about someone she knew who had just had to deliver a stillborn baby at 6 months. Then she told me to be careful and drink lots of fluid.

Um, thanks?

[LittleBrownDog]

I recently had to put a friend on "invisible" on my instant messenger because of a LONG conversation like this! She recently suffered a loss (twins at 21w) so I listened for a while and was trying to be understanding. But she went on and on about stillbirths, moms dying in childbirth, etc etc etc. I finally had to cut her off. WHAT are people thinking????

[maisiedotes]

Oh- DH just told me something about Nancy Grace- that lady from Court TV that looks like she had a facelift. Apparently she is pregnant with twins and some woman called to congratulate her on the pregnancy and brought up the fact that some woman had killed a pregnant woman and took her baby, and then she said something about "I am sure nobody will do that to you". UGH!

I try to be very careful not to talk about my loss with pregnant women (other than here. Sorry about that.)

[JamesMama]

Originally Posted by maisiedotes

Oh- DH just told me something about Nancy Grace- that lady from Court TV that looks like she had a facelift. Apparently she is pregnant with twins and some woman called to congratulate her on the pregnancy and brought up the fact that some woman had killed a pregnant woman and took her baby, and then she said something about "I am sure nobody will do that to you". UGH!

OMGosh, I watch Nancy Grace : and I saw that episode. You could just see Nancy's face she was like "What in the sam hill are you talking about??" who says that?

[maisiedotes]

Originally Posted by JamesMama

OMGosh, I watch Nancy Grace : and I saw that episode. You could just see Nancy's face she was like "What in the sam hill are you talking about??" who says that?

I wish I caught that- DH was totally appalled at the whole thing. What was that woman thinking? People are nuts.

[sorteep]

Originally Posted by maisiedotes

I try to be very careful not to talk about my loss with pregnant women (other than here. Sorry about that.)

I have NO prob with people sharing THEIR stories and am very understanding (plus a post I can read or skip on my terms KWIM?) but she was obviously telling it to me not in a "sharing experience" sort of way.more of a scare-mongering kind of way.. totally different! .. poor taste on her part...

[Da WIC Lady]

My response for that is, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad that hasn't happened to me." And if they keep on, "You know there are support groups for that. I'll get back to you with the number. Gotta run..."


Anna

[monocyte]

UGH, that is horrible!! Why was she so compelled to tell you all that?? Yeah, she sounds like a great therapist :

Originally Posted by LittleBrownDog

I recently had to put a friend on "invisible" on my instant messenger because of a LONG conversation like this!

Yeah, I can totally sympathize with this...a bit different, but, I have a friend that I've pretty much broken all connections to for the time being because she became such a HB freak that it was ruining my "birth can be good where ever you go" vibe. She was constantly harrassing me about how bad it is to birth in a hosp, how I can't trust my MW (because she's a CNM not a DEMW...) etc. Finally DH convinced me that she was getting me down, and I just had to stop meeting up, talking, emailing etc. Hard decison, but, when its so hard to have a friend who is so unsupportive...I just couldnt mentally take it anymore. (And we are having a hosp birth bc I have a clotting issue - believe me, I'd much rather be at home).

[melissakc]

Originally Posted by monocyte

Yeah, I can totally sympathize with this...a bit different, but, I have a friend that I've pretty much broken all connections to for the time being because she became such a HB freak that it was ruining my "birth can be good where ever you go" vibe. She was constantly harrassing me about how bad it is to birth in a hosp, how I can't trust my MW (because she's a CNM not a DEMW...) etc. Finally DH convinced me that she was getting me down, and I just had to stop meeting up, talking, emailing etc. Hard decison, but, when its so hard to have a friend who is so unsupportive...I just couldnt mentally take it anymore. (And we are having a hosp birth bc I have a clotting issue - believe me, I'd much rather be at home).

I have a friend who keeps telling me how great her epidural was. She says when the anesthesiologist walked in she could have French kissed him. It's hilarious, yes, but it doesn't help me when I'm trying to avoid the temptation again. So I avoid birth talk with her. It's sad, though, bc there is so much I would like to share with her. She knows very little about what happens in her body during birth, and she's done it three times. Oh, and she was the one who gave her son formula in the hospital just until her milk came in. : Sometimes I'd like to shake her!

[sorteep]

Originally Posted by Da WIC Lady

Gotta run..."


Anna

I WISH I could run sometimes but this was a paitient in my office and it was during her treatment! I am sort of "stuck" listening to them!! captive audience! I tried ALL my best techniques (politely) to derail the conversation but to no avail,, I am limited in my ability to be rude to a patient and remain professional at the same time,, but it was sure tempting! I take it in stride , though.. you would not BELIEVE what I have had said to me!!! The one guy telling me I should adjust in the nude so I would make more money (he was SERIOUS) comes to mind!! yikes! (he is one of teh FEW pts I actually dismissed/ refused to treat and sent to a male colleague!)

[Isaac'sMa]

I hear you on this one. I had a patient on the table on Thursday who was telling me about her awful forceps delivery and how she could feel the doctor lifting her hips off the table forcefully pulling the baby out, the cord was around his neck etc : Then she went on to tell me about how he has "learning disabilities" and all kinds of problems now (18 yrs later) There was nowhere for me to "escape" to and he chattered on about it even after her treatment was done. : And then she said, "well, you have a MW so I'm sure you'll be fine" People are so tactless. :

[Free Thinker]

My MOM does this! She has said several times that I could still loose these twins. I am 28 weeks, and while I know there is a chance that could happen I certainly don't need to hear about it! I do have a bit of worry in the back of my mind anyway, I don't need it brought up!

[sorteep]

Originally Posted by Isaac'sMa

I hear you on this one. I had a patient on the table on Thursday who was telling me about her awful forceps delivery and how she could feel the doctor lifting her hips off the table forcefully pulling the baby out, the cord was around his neck etc : Then she went on to tell me about how he has "learning disabilities" and all kinds of problems now (18 yrs later) There was nowhere for me to "escape" to and he chattered on about it even after her treatment was done. : And then she said, "well, you have a MW so I'm sure you'll be fine" People are so tactless. :

OH lovely!! sorry about that..

come on dish, what's the WORST thing a patient has said or done to you?? I would have to give it to the naked adjustment guy.. as well as the date requests (several of those) and marriage proposals (only one of those!) ahh the joys!