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This really isn't normal for me. Actually, the only time I ever really feel ultra-lonely is in early pregnancy. When I was pg with Jabez and didn't know it, I had a major meltdown because DH was going to band practice and "abandoning" me. He stayed home.

Anyway, today I had some similar feelings about DH going to have a guys' night with his band. It's not something he does a lot, and he's actually been spending less time with the band and more with us lately, as they're kind of on a break (not that he normally spends most of his time with them; he normally has practice twice a week, and when they're playing shows, that can take up another 1-3 nights a week, but not always; there haven't been any shows since July, so that's not an issue right now).

Okay, I'm obviously feeling really rambly right now too. :

So, I didn't have a meltdown, but I just felt really sad that he was leaving, and something was really making me feel lonely about being stuck inside allll day with a two-year-old (we can't really go outside right now because the air quality is so bad from the fires; the sky is brown and there has been ash falling on our lawn all day). I convinced my mom to come over and keep us company for a while, so she should be here soon.


On the flipside, I also feel like going nowhere. I just want to stay home and take care of the house, and do home-stuff. I'm guessing this is some kind of end-of-pg behavior that I either never had with DS, or just don't remember. For example, tomorrow night we're supposed to go to a birthday party for BIL, and I am just totally dreading it. I feel like I'm just going to be dragging my heels the whole way. I don't know if it's a pg thing, or if it's just because, even though a lot of the people there will be our friends/aquaintances, we don't seem have anything in common with any of them anymore because we have a family, and we care about family stuff, kwim? I don't really know how to explain it...I just know that I sure felt like an old lady tonight when I complained to DH, "It doesn't even start until eight o'clock! :"


Anyway, lots of rambling from me. Is anyone else sharing my feelings?
post #2 of 5
I have not wanted to go out, and certainly I am feeling more needy and more alone. (But then I am alone) I think though your feelings are really normal from what I remember of being pregnant before.

Today I had to go to my midwife appointment and once I got out I was happy, and so went to an outlet mall. I forced myself to go out tonight to a circle at church (Samhain, remembering the dead and moving on) and I really needed it, I really needed to let go of some emotion and this past hard year. It helped. Happy I made myself do it. Gave me back some energy I think. Spiritual energy anyway.

I hope you can drag yourself out to do something for you. Maybe a wonderful evening at a book store with a coffee shop!
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I have not wanted to go out, and certainly I am feeling more needy and more alone. (But then I am alone) I think though your feelings are really normal from what I remember of being pregnant before.

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same here
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Yup. Don't like to go out. Don't like to be alone. An emotional time.
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I have been like this for a few years now- I am a homebody but I don't like to be alone. I want DH here but no other company. I guess he is a distraction for me- if I am alone it is too easy to either lay around and do nothing or be a chronic worrier. If he is here we do stuff together and it keeps my mind off money, my past, etc. I have had some serious depression going on for a long time now and although medication helps, being alone seems to make things worse.

I wonder if having a baby is going to make me feel better and less alone, or if it will bring on some PPD?
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