When to tell?

[heatheraddley]

When are you/did you tell your family you are pregnant? Friends?

I can't keep a secret, so I told my mom, my SO's family, my sister and my closest friends right away.

I'm going to try and wait to tell everyone else a few more weeks, but realistically, it may be much sooner

[Oonah]

This time around we're telling everyone in person...so it depends on when we see them. My family lives in another state but my dad is visiting this weekend, he found out last night I have already told many of my local friends, I had a lot of m/c anxiety and it was really helpful being able to talk to them about it.

[i*wish]

I'm trying not to tell anyone until we hear the heartbeat... I don't know... I've told my mom, brother and two friends and then my dh got mad and wanted to tell someone so he told his dad. I know my other friends are going to be mad when they find out b/c i've been 'keeping it from them'. I just couldn't deal if anything went wrong and then I had to make sure I called everyone ....
I'm lame.

[anarchamama]

I had 2 m/c's between my two boys and telling everyone was the worst part. We won't tell anyone untill we hear a hb at our 12 week appt. I've told my best friend and that's it. I kinda wanted to tel lmy parents since really if I have anotehr m/c we'll tell them cause they'll have to babysit. But DP doesen't want to and I can rspect that. With DS2 we didn't tell untill 12 weeks.

[JustVanessa]

Everyone already knows. I tried to keep it a secret but I just can't.

[kungfumoose]

We decided to tell DH's parents the day we found out. (I don't speak to my family anymore, due to continued emotional abuse)
We asked them not to tell anyone. 4 hours later everyone in my DH's family knew. :

[ORLY?]

I'm not in your DDC but I thought I would reply to your post.
My husband and I thought we would wait until 13 weeks, but at 9 weeks we had our first appointment and saw the heartbeat, so we decided to go ahead and tell our families.
Seeing/hearing the heartbeat is a good milestone usually.

[amithemommy]

With DD, we told my parents at 7 weeks, when we saw them in person, and DH's parents the following week, again in person. We waited until 12 weeks to tell everyone else.

This time, we're telling our families this weekend (I'm almost 6w) and I'm hoping to again wait until 12 weeks for everyone else. Although I'm already getting bloaty and think I'll probably show even earlier this time (i was showing at 12 weeks last time), so we'll see. I may have to tell earlier if I'm showing!

[gaudynight]

We've only told a few close friends. We'll tell MIL and our other friends at 12 weeks. We've cut off contact with my family for a number of reasons.

[Cardinal]

We're waiting a while to tell people because of previous miscarriages. It is so difficult to tell people you are pregnant and then explain the loss. I find it to be heartbreaking, for me, every time I had to tell someone I lost a baby. This time we're cautiously optimistic but we're just keeping it between us, and a few select people.

[lab80]

We told everyone within a week of us finding out. Did the same with DS. We were just too excited to keep it to ourselves.

[sasha1]

i always thought that id wait 3 months to tell, but i didnt...... pretty much everyone knows.. its to exciting to hide!!!

[mama_tigress]

I'm bad at keeping secrets lol (well, my own secrets)
We told our immediate families (parents and siblings) pretty immediately (okay, my mother knew hours after we got the BFP lol...but she's practically my best friend, too). I've also told two friends. We plan to tell my extended family on Thanksgiving, when I'll be just shy of 10 weeks. We're having a huge family reunion sort of thing (really most of the family is together every Thanksgiving, but this year everybody is making a special effort), so I figure that's a good time to tell everybody at once. That would be my grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, etc. Shortly after that my entire hometown will know So at that point I'll just be open about it, not really volunteering the info but mentioning it if it comes up.

[Twwly]

I keep forgetting to change my posting name on here. (I was going to change it to something I use less online prior to posting about the babe on the way). So a bunch of people have already found out. My own fault.

Now I think I should probably go and tell my friends so that they don't hear it through the grapevine and get offended.

[Chic_Mama]

Told everyone right away- I wanted to wait but I couldn't keep my mouth shut!

[LeahC]

We are waiting until I have a second ultrasound on Wednesday when I should be 8 weeks. I just had my second miscarriage (a very long drawn out one!) back in July, so my OB is monitoring me a bit closer this time. I had one ultrasound at 5.5 weeks and we saw a nice big yolk sac. Hopefully, we will see a strong heartbeat and then I will feel better telling our family.

This is one of those questions where the answer is totally dependent on you, your partner and your family.

[heatheraddley]

Originally Posted by LeahC

This is one of those questions where the answer is totally dependent on you, your partner and your family.

Oh totally! I wasn't asking when I should tell my family friends (since I already have ). I was just curious as to what everyone else is going to do.

[*mama moose*]

My DH wanted us to wait until Thanksgiving, but it seems to be going faster than that

I told my best friends as soon as I found out because the Dr. had me all freaked out about a miscarriage (but my blood draw showed the numbers tripled in 48 hours so he had me scared for nothing), Then I told my grandma a few days ago because she paid for my weight watchers and they don't let you be on the plan if youre pregnant.....my DH told his parents last night and now his whole family knows.... and I HAVE to tell my brother today because I've been serving drinks at his poker club (in their garage), and they smoke in there. The last two weeks I've called him "with a stomach bug" but I can't keep lying.
So, basically, the only people who DON'T know are my dad, step mom, and extended family......

oops!

[BirthFree]

None of our family or friends know except a few online ones and a few who found out through some online ones (from here) - but that's a very very small number and we don't want to tell family until 12w+, not for m/c purposes, but because they will have a cow about how close our kiddos will be in age, and because our parents worry... no other way around it. But I'll postpone it as long as I can...

[lmonter]

We've told everyone. Mostly by phone for our relatives because some of them we don't see for months (or more) at a time. I told a few people via email/photos. Did the same thing last pregnancy, and he's now upstairs taking a blessedly long nap.