Originally Posted by transformed
Oh and a question for those of you who let your children choose their own foods:
So when you are at the grocery store and the kids are freaking about all the candy at the front, do you buy it for them?
(Let me guess, they dont want it.
Really though, do you buy them all the stuff in the store thats bad for them that they want?
I am not particularly good at regulating my own sugar intake, and controlling my diet yet, so thats obviously the first goal in getting my kids to do the same.
actually, you guessed right. My DD anyway, doesn't "spaz out" over all the candy in front of the store.
She knows that if she wants something, she can have it - hey, *I* can buy myself a candy if I want to, why shouldn't she? Usually when we go into town, or into a shop, I talk about how much money I'm willing to spend. I'll give her a budget of a few dollars and she can buy whatever junk she likes. Of course, I do discuss all her choices with her, and talk a lot about colourings and preservatives and trans fats and all that junk. If she knows all that, and still wants something, I'll buy it. It's her choice.
And the reality is that she can buy a packet of "gross-out" cookies, or whatever, and eat 1 or 2, and save the rest "for later". the last packed of choc-mint cream cookies we bought was about 3 weeks ago, and half the packet is still in her food box.
But DD's friends.... well, that's a different story. Her best friend, who's mother is very controlling (allows "junk" but only after good behaviour, and only in very tiny portions and very occasionally), has no self-control whatsoever.
I'll watch my DD say no to a sweet, coz she just doesn't feel like it, while her friend will devour anything and everything 'bad' at every opportunity. the other day, the friend came over and saw DD's jar of M&Ms. Its a big jar, well, I bought a mega-jumbo pack of cheap generic M&Ms, and DD ate about 6 of them and wanted to keep the rest for later. so I put them in a jar, on a shelf in plain view and easy reach for DD. The jar had been untouched for over a week, until the friend came over. The friend spotted them, and was almost jumping out of her skin begging me for some. Of course, I just said that they belong to DD, and to ask her.
you guessed it: DD gave her friend a small handfull, and ate a few herself and put the jar back. by the end of the play date, (actually, I think by the end of an hour), friend had wheedled the whole jar out of DD and ate the lot. she then came and asked me if there's any more sweets!
okay, sorry, I'm rambling on. I guess for me, the moral is clear. I firmly believe that the only way to truly 'protect' our kids from poisoning their bodies with junk food is to educate them well, and then give them the trust, freedom and respect to make their own choices.
I suspect that in any child who hasn't been raised this way from the start, it would be difficult to begin; at the start the child really would go berko eating nothing but candy. But I believe (and I've seen from experience) that the kid would pretty quickly have their fill, and come to a place of balance.
The key is communication. If I were gonna try this, I'd be reading out some of the posts on this thread, talking openly with my child about how I feel, and my concerns. find some good information about sugars and additives and such and read them with my child. Talk about how I want to give the child his own reins. and then do it.