My pregnant wife - Page 3

[almadianna]

my husband (who doesnt have an account here) said to tell you that he would too if our current kids let us do it more often.

[JustVanessa]

Well my experiences have been two complete opposites.

My ex husband was grossed out by me being pregnant and by breastfeeding. From the time I conceived until the time we split up (ds was 14months) we had sex 5 times and he would not touch my breasts.
This completely contributed to us breaking up. I can't even explain how horrible it is to have your spouse grossed out by you.

My current dp is a HOUND. Pregnancy has made it worse. He is very happy with the big boobs and growing tummy.
Its to the point where I get touched out.
GUYS....here is a little tip. When women are cooking (at the stove frying something), don't put your hands up her shirt and/or down her pants. It drives me nuts. It is the only time I have ever whacked anyone with a wooden spoon.
For me its not humanly possible to be in the mood ALL THE TIME. I would say we have a very active sex life. 5 to 9 times a week. Thats good for me. I don't want to do it 5 times a day.

[QueeTheBean]

Originally Posted by Moonlitnight

:Never let anyone make you believe you are anything less than the amazingly beautiful mama that you are. I was in awe of how my sister looked when she was pregnant. I can't wait to be, no matter what my hubby does!

That's nice.

I've never really felt beautiful or sexy at all in my life--until I was pregnant. I felt very much so then. Unfortunately, DH didn't. He never said so directly, of course, but he didn't have to. I had a very high sex drive during my pregnancies, but he was too uncomfortable/afraid he would "hurt" me somehow.

The worst part is that it has been almost 6 years since the birth of my last baby, and I still can't get over the pain of those rejections. It cut me so deeply that it affects how I feel about myself now, my body, my husband, and sex. I still love him, but we probably only DTD about 5 times a year now since the last birth.

So, guys--if your pregnant wife thinks she is beautiful and sexy--even if you don't--try to support her and validate her feelings.

[sphinxie]

Originally Posted by BunnySlippers

I remember seeing this one woman-about 7-8 months along- trudging around at a horse show dressed in barn clothes. She looked fantastic, and I had to tell her so. Her face just lit right up

Awwwww

[daddio444]

Originally Posted by etv78

In case you don't read other forums,I'll intro. I'm Eric and my wife Ashley and I are expecting the 1st of hopefully MANY children. I have a question for you guys: Am I the only one who can't keep their grubby paws of their wife, and can't wait for her to get bigger?

I know I'm late to this discussion but just think its both funny and sad.. this was us... I absolutely worshiped my pregnant wife and her libido matched my feelings...

But sadly it doesn't last - we're 180 degrees from those good old days. In ways both blatant and subtle she makes clear that its hands off - she's one of the many uber-mother wannabes on these boards (no offense meant - I'm glad she wants to be a great mother) but that means lots of time posting here and no time or desire for her husband - and no sex drive... and no, its not ppd, 4 years out.

So just be forewarned and try to speak to her about this before she goes down that same path that I think many women who are all consumed with being moms often do- they forget that being part of a strong relationship is the best thing they can do for their kids - and shunning their husbands for years isn't good. They might realize their mistake years later when husbands finally get tired of being constantly rejected and give up - but by then it might be too late.

Sorry to be a downer, but its better that you know what might lie ahead and do what you can to address it.

Originally Posted by Emese'sMom

Sigh. I wish my dh was like this. He cannot stand to touch me once I get to the second trimester. I have a man at work offering me all the time, and I'm really attracted to him.....but I won't do it because I don't want to mess up my home life. It just makes me feel soooooo sad that my husband doesn't want to get near me, and I'm SO FRUSTRATED KWIM?????????? It makes me feel so sad, depressed, frustrated, ugly, disgusting, etc. : I'm soooooo frustrated and sad about this. Any suggestions for feeling better about this?

All I can say is, its not you it's him. I've seen a few guys who have a similar hang up - I can't say I understand it but indeed it exists.

[MilkTrance]

My DH didn't want anything to do with me, intimately, after the 2nd trimester.

And it's not like I'm holding that against him, but the way that hurt my self esteem affects the way I am now. I just don't want to have anything to do with HIM now, since I feel so ugly, and that started about the time my husband rejected me.

So to all you husbands out there reading this, if you have a hangup about having sex with your pregnant wife, please look deep within yourself and figure out why. It could really make life hard for you later.

[daddio444]

Originally Posted by MilkTrance

My DH didn't want anything to do with me, intimately, after the 2nd trimester.

And it's not like I'm holding that against him, but the way that hurt my self esteem affects the way I am now. I just don't want to have anything to do with HIM now, since I feel so ugly, and that started about the time my husband rejected me.

So to all you husbands out there reading this, if you have a hangup about having sex with your pregnant wife, please look deep within yourself and figure out why. It could really make life hard for you later.

A good reminder - and a reminder that this is a two way street. Dads who are completely shunned by their wives postpartum and for many years after sure can't be feeling good about themselves either, having wives who cannot stand to be touched by them anymore.

After being rejected for so long, its understandable that no one - mom/dad husband/wife - wants to put themselves in that vulnerable position anymore and is naturally inclined to stop trying for fear of further hurting and humiliating themselves.

I can't help but wonder if these situations are the major reason why people have affairs and breakup - what's the point in fidelity with someone who can't stand your touch?

I hope the mamas who's husbands don't find pregnant women attractive can take some solace in recognizing its their husband's hangup - not theirs - and encourage their partners to address it... while recognizing outside of the realm of someone with that hangup, they, as pregnant women couldn't be more beautiful.

By the same token, all those mamas here who just seem to casually brush off the feeling of being over-touched and over-needed to the point of rejecting their partners will stop considering this "normal and understandable" and work to figure out how to share at least a bit of physical contact with their attention starved partners.

At least pregnancy is just 9 months long, with the "biggest" months limited to just a handful - the men in the similar situations often endure this for years and years with no end in sight.

[MilkTrance]

At least pregnancy is just 9 months long, with the "biggest" months limited to just a handful - the men in the similar situations often endure this for years and years with no end in sight.

That's true, thinking about it...