Yesterday was 11 years since my Mom died of cancer. From the day she was diagnosed to the day she passed was exactly 5 months. It was a crazy time, with no one in my family wanting to admit that she was most likely dying, including my Mom herself, which made saying goodbye very difficult. I came to terms with her passing a long time ago, and I don't believe that a person's energy ends when her physical body dies. But lately, I have been wondering what my life would be like were she still alive.
Now that I am a mother, it would be so nice to have her to call when I need advice or support. I would like my boys to have been able to have known their other grandma. My MIL is a wonderful woman, but very different from my mother. My mother was very grounded, intellectual, driven to make sure her children were raised with morals, and adamant that we get a good education. She was also very beautiful, elegant, and poised. She was the type of Mom who would stay up all night making a last minute costume for a school play I'd forgotten to tell her about, then get up and go to work the next day. She did all of the child-rearing, cooking, cleaning, paying of bills, laundry, chauffering of children to activities, etc.
She was amazing and I never realized, until now, how much she did or how hard it must have been for her. She put her kids first and my sister, brother, and I are the people we are as a result of all her love and hard work.
Thanks, Mom. I love you and miss you.
Now that I am a mother, it would be so nice to have her to call when I need advice or support. I would like my boys to have been able to have known their other grandma. My MIL is a wonderful woman, but very different from my mother. My mother was very grounded, intellectual, driven to make sure her children were raised with morals, and adamant that we get a good education. She was also very beautiful, elegant, and poised. She was the type of Mom who would stay up all night making a last minute costume for a school play I'd forgotten to tell her about, then get up and go to work the next day. She did all of the child-rearing, cooking, cleaning, paying of bills, laundry, chauffering of children to activities, etc.
She was amazing and I never realized, until now, how much she did or how hard it must have been for her. She put her kids first and my sister, brother, and I are the people we are as a result of all her love and hard work.
Thanks, Mom. I love you and miss you.
My own Mama passed 3.5 years ago and it was about 8 mos between diagnosis and her passing. During that time there was no acknowledgement that she might die and when she did, it was like the world as I knew it ended. I am still struggling.
I wish they could have known her, too. She was a lot like the way you describe your mom.
s to you, and a 
