I feel pressured and stressed!

[Pumpkin_Blythe]

So, my mans mother lives like 12 hours away. I have never met her only talked a little via email. He has gone up to see her a few holidays but I always had to work. So she is coming on a train to see us on Saturday and she is staying 6 days.

Here is the thing... SHE WANTS TO SEE THE BABY!

Well I do not have a baby to show her just yet. lol I am feeling all stressed to have him in the next few days becuase if I do not.....

NICK WILL HAVE TO GO TO WORK NEXT WEEK!!!

And then I will be VERY pregnant and stuck with his MOTHER all day for a week!

I do not feel I really need this extra pressure right now, the timing sucks and I know she is probably nice and all but throwing us together for a week sucks. lol

[aylaanne]

wow, I wouldn't allow a visitor that I didn't know that well so close to my due date. It's too bad she wants to see the baby because it's up to the baby, now isn't it? She's going to have to cope.

I'm sure you'll do fine with her by yourself, if you have to. Just make it clear how TIRED you are and how much HELP you need. Or, make plans with friends to be scarce.

[2bluefish]

I'm sorry you feel pressured and stressed It seems like every time I muster up a better attitude some new stress comes along for us. I wish my dh could go ahead and take off, but in the past he hasn't got to be home much after the baby because he ended up staying home with me so much while I went through so much prodominal labor. So he's really trying to keep going. I hope there is some great reward - fast, easy labor - at the end of this!

[HarperRose]

Tell Nick that he needs to tell his mom to WAIT until the baby's born before she schedules her trip. I had to tell my own mother, "No. Not right now." If you knew the relationship I've got w/ her you would know exactly what an enormous task that was. Not just for me to SAY, but for her to hear and accept.

My mil is doing the same thing. That woman is like Marie on Everybody Loves Raymond. I am not exaggerating. I want to stab myself in the head whenever she comes around.

My dh is TOTALLY protecting me and refusing to let mil anywhere near me. He answers my phone if she's calling (or I ignore it if he's not around to answer), I am set to 'invisible' whenever I'm on yahoo messenger so she can't message me, and life is just easier!

Don't allow visitors if you think you'll be uncomfortable.

[Furrow]

I'm sorry. That really is stressful. It's funny how people -- even those who have had babies before -- think we have it in our power to decide when the little one will arrive. I hope it all works out well for you. Saturday is still, what, 4 days away? I'll be sending you some labor vibes.

[mittendrin]

Wow, I am sorry for you! I wouldn't put up with my MIL that close to my EDD, and I have met her before... And there's no way in hell I'd ever allow dh to invite her and not take vacation time for that.
Different scenarios: She could be suuupernice and be a great help, baby here or not or she could be totally annoying and in that case you are better off with being pregnant. Imagine a person you do not like wanting to be all over your newborn. Ugh, one reason why we won't let MIL come visit, I couldn't stand the thought of her giving my fresh new baby smooches. ACK!

I am hoping for you that your MIL is a pleasant person and with or without baby/dh you'll have a good time. Put her to work

[Pumpkin_Blythe]

he says all she does is shop but she doesn't drive which means I will be a 9 month pregnant limo. lol Shoot me, please! I hope I am in the hospital the WHOLE week. lol

[aylaanne]

After my shift tomorrow night, I'm not driving any more. I may take a quick trip to the grocery store or something, but it's much more likely that I'll stay home and let DH do the driving. You could tell your DP and his mother that you're not supposed to be driving anymore, since you're so pregnant. Does she drive at all? Like, would she be able to drive you home if you went into labor?

[jazzpurr88]

sending hugs.

[Banana731]

bummer, pumpkin.