November Low Income Mummas Support Thread - Page 64

[DuchsLove]

Ok..."lovah" just made me giggle like a school-girl.

just sayin'

[captain crunchy]

@ man friend

I like man friend, hilarious!

[chely7425]

Congrats lankylizard! That is so awesome... and that job sounds like an awesome opportunity!!!!

[eilonwy]

you know, the parent thing is a little mysterious to me. of all the negative things i can say about my family or mike's, money just doesn't come up. if my mom had it, she'd share it. mike's parents would probably expect some sort of agreement, or effort or whatever, but they'd never let us suffer as we do if they could wave a wand and fix it. it's interesting because they're very different people with very different sets of values, but i'm absolutely certain that my mom would help a great deal if she could, and i'm fairly confident that mike's parents would as well.

i can remember discussing this with my best friend in college. his parents had loads of cash, and he was swimming around in debt up to his eyeballs trying to pay for school because they wouldn't help him. if my mom had had the money, she'd have written a check every semester without a second thought. it would never have been a question in her mind, especially not for school...

mike's parents are different-- mike worked to put himself through school, and while his parents probably would have paid if they could have afforded it, they also would have expected him to work. i suppose it's something to be greatful for... the fact that they'd all help if they could. is it rude to say it'd be easier to be greatful for this if any of them had the money to help?

Thystle (et al)-- I don't think i'm safe to drive right now (waaaay too tired) but i will call her doctor tomorrow morning and make an appointment for her for the following week, if possible. Ideally, the appointment will be for Wednesday, so that I can do it after (before?) I get the food stamps. And the next time I go to walmart, i'm going to price vaporizers... i think that'll probably be the big purchase for December. Happy Channukah, Bella!

[Purple*Lotus]

I overdrew my checking account tonight by accident. I hate it when I make stupid mistakes like using the wrong debit card : Oh well, nothing to do about it now, because when DH did it once they took the fee off but said they wouldn't again. So, $35 wasted. Luckily since it is three paycheck month, no insurance is taken out so I will have the funds to cover it. :

[mum4boys]

Originally Posted by LankyLizards

WOW. I just read four pages of posts. I never do that. Sometimes there is one or maybe two, but four? WOW. You guys have been chatty today.

eilonwy >> I THIRD Thystle. Take the little one to the ER. You are the mama and you know best. If you feel something isn't right, it probably isn't. They will pay up to three months of bills, I think. (Someone feel free to correct me if I got that wrong.) I hope all of your kids feel better soon.

Welcome new mamas!! Have we been advertising or something? So many new people. Is it a sign of the times?

Ok, I saved the BIG news for last. So dramatic, I know. Remember how last night I posted that I e-mailed Catholic Charities??? Well....today a nun called me and.......(drum roll)......they are paying my entire rent!!!!!!!!! AND.......(another drum roll)......they offered me a job that comes with free room and board!!!!! I'm not sure about the job. I have the weekend to think about it. It would be as night manager of a complex of ten units for previously homeless, disabled families. It would mean a 2 BR apt. for free. But it is about 30-45 minutes away from the support system I have been so slowly building here. I will def. be making a pro/con list. For now, I am rejoicing and thanking all of you mamas who prayed and sent good vibes and good karma and whatever. And the Hallelujah chorus is just repeating and repeating in my head. I am just beyond grateful.

I am so happy for you. I have been praying something will come through.

[sandygirl]

Please wish me many sales today - we're having a huge yard sale, and I can use any help I can get.

lankylizards - take the job - your support system wasn't supporting you, and to be offered a job like this is rare!

[ediesmom]

well, you can tell I'm the mother of a young adult I'm all fussy that lanky got her rent taken care of

and i can't imagine the job......rent free! is there a stipend, as well? I am imagining that you would build an amazing whole community of support there. To not have to worry about rent, jeez.

I would talk to your curent LL about breaking the lease and try to negotiate either no fee, or a reduced fee.

well, my doctor can do a mumps titre....fast. Lets hope its positive...or i'm out of school for 30 days. with all my auto-immune issues (diabetes, thyroid, celiac), I don't think my body should be shot up with vaccines.

getting together with dd1 this morning. She looks so freakin' cute with her very large belly. She was saying yesterday how HUGE she is.....sh'es only 7 months i just smiled...

oh, and I get to have coffee this afternoon with an MDC mama!!! I am so looking forward to that.

so, gratitude
1. TANF -- I almost feel weird about that, but I can pay bills AND go to school. its really a good feeling
2. dd's. somedays I just fall in love with them all over again
3. laundry money....i literally have a pile about 4 foot tall in the hall. I'm going to spend the weekend doing it (and homework)

well, onto my day.....good thoughts for all the little ones who aren't feeling well (and the man friend)

hugs

[susanniemeyer]

I am just so thrilled for you lankylizards - best news I've heard all week!! And good luck with your decision, I know it will be a tough one but I am just so happy that they helped you

And to all the mamas who are having hard times right now - be it with family, work, bills, anything


A little update on us - DH had 3 days off last week for Thanksgiving, the business where he works was closed for the 4 day weekend, which means a much smaller paycheck this week and I am definitely stressing out about it. There always seem to be so many bills to pay and not enough money for all of them, and then you have to decide which ones you can possibly hold off on for another week or two. And I am assuming his company will do something similar for Christmas and New Year - so he'll miss a few more days of work in the upcoming weeks. He doesn't qualify for holiday pay, simply because he went thru an employment agency to find the job (so technically he is hired by the employment agency, they pay him directly) and so he doesn't get those extra little things that make a job so nice. Added to this is the fact he was without work for 3 weeks after being laid off at his old job, and that he was only working about 15 hours a week for the entire month before being laid off at that job - so we were already behind on things from those awful 7 weeks.

So, my thankfuls for the day:

1. My girls, they are both so sweet, and my 3 year old has just started trying to 'fix' things for us - like yesterday I was talking about needing some work done on the van and she said 'Mama, I was thinking about getting you a new car anyways, so it will be okay' She has this fake money, and she thinks she is going to get us anything we need.

2. My family - they are so incredibly helpful, my dad is always slipping me a few extra dollars or including us when he takes the rest of my younger brothers/sisters out to eat and we get a wonderful free meal.

3. My van just got a new tire - and with our first snowfall that came last night here in Minnesota, it was just in time.

I don't get a chance to post much, but I do love reading and sharing with all the rest of you wonderful mamas on here.

[shayinme]

Congratulations Lanky Lizard! What wonderful news.

Duchslove, sending positive vibes for your man-friend aka lovah!

Not much going on here, I did send my resume for the gig at the publishing house and the publisher wants to talk to me, so we will see where that goes.. again the pay sucks so its hard for me to get too happy. I'd rather have a pt gig and keep time open to do side gigs that could be more lucrative. But we will see. Looks snow is coming this way early next week which means gotta get boots for dd.. sigh..


Jaime, sorry about the costly vet bills. Ouch! Everything is so frickin costly.

Shay

[JesseMomme]

I've been feeling so overwhelmed these days that I haven't been very good at keeping up with this thread. But I've been trying to lurk. Thank goodness tomorrow is December and we'll start a new one! 32 pages of a lot of love and support. /mushygushy

Sandygirl, good luck with your yard sale!

They will pay up to three months of bills, I think. (Someone feel free to correct me if I got that wrong.) I hope all of your kids feel better soon.

: Every time I've gotten on medicaid they'd ask if I had bills within the past three months.

Today I'm thankful for:
1. Tomorrow being payday. Ok so that's not today, does it count?
2. The heat being on - brrrrrrr Winter officially arrived yesterday
3. That there was a tiny bit of milk left this morning, just enough for me to have coffee and feed dd cereal. If there hadn't been, I probably would have gone into a pre-caffinated rant at no one (I HAVE to have some kind of dairy in my coffee or I just cannot drink it), which the kids don't enjoy. So, this morning went smoothly, which is a nice change

Sighhh Dh just called me really quick and said I had to mail out 50-something for the dental insurance. I absolutely have to do it within a few days. I will, and Dh needs the dental work, so I'm not going to put it off...but there's $50 I wasn't planning on spending gone. The plus side is that we shouldn't have to pay that again for a year.

eta: Dh just called me back and said never mind he had it taken care of...something about a paperwork error! : Make this #4 for "grateful for"

[Purple*Lotus]

DH called me this morning, he lost his wallet or someone might have stolen it : Of course it is the day he gets his direct deposit. So his boss let him go home so he could take care of things like cancelling everything, getting a new DL, etc.

So naturally I jump all over that, and call the bank to block his debit card. About 5 minutes later I find it in the laundry hamper : Oh well, his card was getting a little old anyhow. I am just so thankful that he really didn't lose it! Plus I get to spend a little time with him since he was already on the way home and got approved for the day off, I don't go to work until 4:30. :

[Peacemamalove]

Thanks for the welcome! I would like to sell on ebay but am lacking funds and would need a digital camera. Today has not been a good day for me emotionally wise so I am just hanging in there.

[LankyLizards]

Originally Posted by susanniemeyer

So, my thankfuls for the day:

1. My girls, they are both so sweet, and my 3 year old has just started trying to 'fix' things for us - like yesterday I was talking about needing some work done on the van and she said 'Mama, I was thinking about getting you a new car anyways, so it will be okay' She has this fake money, and she thinks she is going to get us anything we need.

That is adorable!!

Thanks for the congratulations everyone! I'm telling you all - this thread is good luck. Just keep posting here and good things happen to you. Look at all of the amazing blessing we have had in November. I can't remember everything but ediesmom's Parents as Scholars/TANF, Duchslove's apartment, natural mama's healthy baby girl (though not income related).

[mum4boys]

Originally Posted by sandygirl

Please wish me many sales today - we're having a huge yard sale, and I can use any help I can get.

lankylizards - take the job - your support system wasn't supporting you, and to be offered a job like this is rare!

I so much agree. And 30 minutes away is not a bad drive.

[Thystle]

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I don't have much time, just jumping in real quick.



LL............ did I not say if you call they might be able to help AND might have work for you? It's a sign! But before saying yes, go down and spend some time there to see what it is like and what the vibe is... maybe talk to the last person who did it?





eilonwy... you can always call 911 and the ambulance take her. You sounded worried and color changes are NEVER good. {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}





Some boxes are going out today and some tomorrow.





Maybe the new thread should be called, "Low Income and/or Struggling Mama's December 07 Support"??????






BBL

[captain crunchy]

Morning women!

Well, ya know I really threw my mom under a bus and I feel badly about that. She just paid our electric bill, so although sometimes I have to be that angel on her shoulder she does actually help... I am so grateful for it.

I am also grateful that there is a light to the end of this -- as soon as dh begins getting paid and we get current on bills, we should be okay. Not rich by any stretch but with my ability to budget and the fact that we live very simply, we will FEEL rich.

Lanky, I was thinking, I understand they said no alcohol and no boys, but I mean I think it is because they are nuns ya know In other words, what kind of nuns would say "sure, have all the men and booze ya want!" What I mean is, honestly if you crack open the occasional bottle of wine it isn't as though two men are going to bust in and tackle you to the floor -- who would know? I am not advocating being decietful per se.... but I think they probably (I am guessing) refer more to the "lifestyle" of alcohol and men -- like you ushering men in and out of your apartment like a brothel and making your apartment a den of drunken inequity (which is so not you!). I can't see them forbidding the occasional glass of wine (they are Catholic after all ... okay that was a bad, non pc joke -- my whole family is Catholic) or having a problem with a man picking you up for a date or something. Maybe you could discuss it with them more?

Anyway, glad your hubby didn't lose his wallet Jaime and I am sorry about the overdraft! I hate when that happens!

to all ... more later!

[shayinme]

I am PMS'ing and feeling a little down, but does anyone feel as if their RL friends don't really understand what it means to be financially struggling? I have a couple RL friends who I have recently told just how bad things were and now I have that sense like they are staying away because maybe my brokeness will rub off on them.

On the surface we don't appear broke, or like people who are having a rough time but the reality is if FIL wasn't helping us with the mortgage we'd be really screwed instead of just a little screwed.

No one seems to get it, I really am happy to have this group to lean on though at times I feel like do I belong here.

Ok, vent over...

Shay

[ian'smommaya]

my friends get the financial...its the emotional stuff that some of them dont get.

like the lonliness. ya know?

[eilonwy]

I don't have any rl friends. :

So I passed out within moments of posting that message last night. I was awakened a few hours later (at exactly the WRONG part of my sleep cycle by violent coughing. It was BooBah, coughing and unable to stop... and throwing up on herself. Two-thirty in the morning, and I've got a coughing, puking kid on me. Bella was looking much pinker when we turned the light on, but BooBah was miserable. We finally got her into the bathtub, and after she puked a few more times, the steam slowed her coughing down and she finally stopped. I tried to get her to drink some mint tea, but she was kind of meh on it-- took two sips before she fell asleep again. She did sit and inhale the minty steam, though, and that was nice. And this morning, though coughing, she's energetic and relatively decent. Bella's extra whiny with a side of shrieks. Decidedly ill, but it could be worse.

Last night while I was braiding BooBah's hair to keep it out of her face in case she puked again, I found out why she's so creeped out by seeing Seamonkey move. She started asking questions and I realized that she was concerned that she would wake up one day and find that there was a baby in *her* uterus!! Poor kid! She was really upset and confused by all of it, and I guess while I was combing her hair, she could feel him wiggling around in there and she wanted to know how it had happened. I told her that little girls can't get babies in their uteruses, and furthermore it wasn't something that would just happen by magic, you had to do things first to cause a baby to grow in your uterus. She felt a lot better about it then, and I think she's less weirded out by seeing him wiggle around in there. The things that little kids think of! It's no wonder that they get so upset so much of the time.