November Low Income Mummas Support Thread - Page 3

[DBZ]

Ok here are the things that I am grateful for-

1) I talked to someone at SSI and it looks like we got approved. I applied on behalfof my oldest. I have no idea how much, but even $30 a month would cover the cost of gas to take her to therapy.

2) An MDC mama is sending me some maternity clothes. It means so much to have that expense lifted off of me.

3) I got the oppurtunity to help someone else today. One of the nearby families sent their DD over to ask for a roll of TP. I was glad to have it to give.

justmama - my divorce proceedings started when i was pregnant too. My ex moved out when I was 4 months. He pretty much took everything. I ended up filing, but it was such a lonely, depressing time. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

[LankyLizards]

Ok, so my mother came to pick me up and we went to see if, by some miracle or chance, the car would start - and it did. Originally I ran out of gas (first time ever) and then I guess something happened because I kept trying to start it again and it needed a rest. It made it to the gas station down the road and home. Such a relief.

I actually am starting to feel so detached when I speak about my father. It's so unbelievable the things he says to me and he thinks it is acceptable - and to talk that way to me in front of my daughter..... I am so relieved to have my own space away from him, but unless I get a decent paying job that pays more than child care, it looks like I may have to break my lease and move in with my mother (the lesser of two evils?). Life is expensive. I only have until Wed. with no food stamps. No big deal. I think we'll be fine. It's just the milk that we'll miss. I do have a WIC app't. coming up this month, though.

Question - didn't I read in this very thread maybe a few months back that WIC cannot bug you or reject you over vaccines? DD is sort of vaccinated, but I refused the last two and they did tell me that I will have to bring a shot record.

I think that's great that you sent your neice that book, mum4boys. I was 25 when I had dd and discoverd him a little too late. I was sooo uninformed about BFing and AP in general. I really regretted a lot of how I parented for the first 6 months of dd's life. Also, some young (early 20s)friendsof my brother's recently has a baby and before she was born the father asked my brother what he thought about BFing. My brother rocks so he said that he was very in-support of it. And the guy said he didn't think anyone really did that anymore! : :SO, yeah, never hurts to educate.

[sandygirl]

Originally Posted by LankyLizards

Question - didn't I read in this very thread maybe a few months back that WIC cannot bug you or reject you over vaccines? DD is sort of vaccinated, but I refused the last two and they did tell me that I will have to bring a shot record.

DD is unvaxed - no issues with WIC. I just turn in her state exemption form, and say "we are religiously opposed to vaccines". I think we get thru there quicker too when it comes up - an unexpected but good side effect of not vaxing!

[vannienicole]

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[ibahippiemama]

I'm in also. Things have been kind of shakey here, but not too bad. I'm working even though my hours have been cut from 35-38 to 25 this week. I'm back to bumming rides for the time being. Dh is not working but we are hoping that will change next week. But, I am greatful for so much.

What I'm greatful for:
1) That we can live rent free.

2) We have some food and Food Stamps hit my card on Sat.

3) My kinds who love me even when I'm in one of my manic moods.

I'll be going to some thrift stores next week to get us some "new" blackets and/or quilts. We really need them. And socks. Everything else will fall into place.

Good luck to everyone in their endevors this week. And to everyone having a bad day or week, it does get better. Sending hugs to you all.

love and blessings
angie

[DBZ]

LankyLizards, I hope you can get away from your dad. You aren't living with him right? I had no issues with WIC when it came time for vaxes. They makred it in the computer that I wasn't doing them and never asked me about it ever again.

I get my food stamps on the 4th and I can't wait. I had no power for two days and lost everything in the fridge and freezer. I did a big shopping trip just before it happened too.

[eilonwy]

Things I'm greatful for:

1) internet access, without which I'd have almost no contact with the outside world.

2) agora cyber charter school, for helping me take care of the Bean's education

3) that the local food bank is very mellow and cool. mike brought home a case of bananas and some bread from Panera (among other things) last time.

Everything else is really, really bad. I broke a tooth today... I've got a big hole right inthe front of my face and there's absolutely nothing i can do about it. This'll up the 'necessary dental work' total to around $8,000, and that's assuming that the vague throbbing on the other side of my face is a sinus infection and not a root canal in the making (: pleeeeeeeaaaaase let it be so). I'm just.. a mess. I can't even sort it out. And I feel utterly helpless, there's nothing in the world that i can do to make it better. :

[Aura_Kitten]

1. That midterms are over!

2. NaNoWriMo!!!!!

3. That text messages don't cost nearly as much as I thought they did... My boyfriend started messaging me while I was in class today, and I couldn't leave the lecture to tell him to knock it off and I got my first statement from my cell phone today and it turns out that text msgs are much, much less expensive than I thought. (( Thank you, God! ))



oh and 4. that my very-3 3-yo dd finally stopped tantruming. :

[gradmama]

Subbing -- talk later!

[justmama]

Originally Posted by mum4boys

I wish she lived closer. She lives in South Oregon and I am in Washington State. She lives with her mom and grandma. They are not very nice people at all. This past July, her mom called her little sister to cuss her out for going to her cousin's wedding. I was appalled. I was standing right there. Her grandma regularly tells her grandkids how worthless they are and how they should not be on this planet. Unfortunately my niece feels guilty. She was raised by my brother and her mom only sporadically saw her and her 3 sisters. So now she feels she has to raise her mom and half sister. Her mom chooses to live with her controlling mother so you see the circle it creates. She says she is going to stay until she graduates from high school which is June.

That's horrible. Unfortunately it does create a circle and there';s not much you or SHE can do about it. But you really have to feel bad for her ya know? My bil's gf is just the sweetest girl but her mom died 3 weeks ago(yeah, a week after she had my nephew and it was very very sudden and unexpected) and her dad lives across the country and the only family support she has is an older sister who has no kids. So she's basically an orphan. And being her bf's sil(and again, dh and I are divorcing so that creates some unease there) I have to really encourage her to turn to me for advice or support or help. She feels like maybe she isn't one of hte family. I just remember that with the chicken I did everything wrong. Everything. I was 19. I didn't know any better. I mean, yeah she turned out GREAT but that doesn't always happen and she and I struggled hard. We still struggle. I'm so much closer to my second child and I feel horrible about it. I just dont' want her to have to go through all the struggles I did. I dont' necessarily want her to do it MY way but to just listen to her baby son and follow his intincts and his leads and hopefully not struggle to raise him like I did with the chicken.:

[ediesmom]

Just checking in this morning.

After all this intense stuff this may seem so small, but I think it bothered me enough to be relevant.

You all know that I am poor to the extreme. I also have Celiac disease (and type1 diabetes and thyroid disease), so the foods I eat, breads, crackers and cereals, are SOOOOOO expensive compared to non-glutenfree stuff. Well, I bought a bread mix (my fav) and was so looking forward to making it. The loaf lasts me about a week and I only allow myself 2 loaves a month. So I take the eggs out to warm, get everything else ready, open the package and dump it out---and no freakin yeast! You cannot make bread w/o yeast. This was on a 'very bad day' in the dreaded October. So I was crestfallen. The next day I called the 1800#. They were dismissive and told me to take it back to the store, and to somehow make sure that the replacement had the yeast packet in it!?! Well, for me to bring it back tothe store would have cost me 2.50 for the bus and 3+ hours of my time. Um, sorry, but I want my replacement delivered.

I emailed them. I wrote it out all specific so they could understand. They auto-replied that it could take up to 48 hours for them to get back to me personally,,,,,,thats today. I WILL fight for my bread to the death if I have to.

Okay, I won't spend too much time on it, but I will share my story, with the brand name included, if they don't fix it to my liking.

Just wanted to share my tale of woe.

Did any one read my thread called "got poverty"? well, the change from the check I finally got was lost out of my purse....20something bucks lost was devastating.

Yup, glad that the dreaded month of October is long gone.

[Thystle]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Things I'm greatful for:

1) internet access, without which I'd have almost no contact with the outside world.

2) agora cyber charter school, for helping me take care of the Bean's education

3) that the local food bank is very mellow and cool. mike brought home a case of bananas and some bread from Panera (among other things) last time.

Everything else is really, really bad. I broke a tooth today... I've got a big hole right inthe front of my face and there's absolutely nothing i can do about it. This'll up the 'necessary dental work' total to around $8,000, and that's assuming that the vague throbbing on the other side of my face is a sinus infection and not a root canal in the making (: pleeeeeeeaaaaase let it be so). I'm just.. a mess. I can't even sort it out. And I feel utterly helpless, there's nothing in the world that i can do to make it better. :

Are there any dental schools, charities, churches, programs, "Modest Needs", Care Credit, to fix your teeth?


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[Thystle]

www.carecredit.com


Emergency CC for people and pets with unexpected medical bills.



Thought I would share it just incase it's a really b ad emergency as sometimes we have to do whatever to get by.

[s_kristina]

Good things

1. I managed to get through Halloween and even walked around the zoo with the kids without needing to take breaks.

2. I finally had my first mw appointment and we got to hear a little heart beat for about 10 seconds.

3. I found 5 pairs of dd's 3T pants that will work for ds for the cooler weather coming up. Saving money on clothes is always a good thing!

On the not so good end of things dh will be out of work by Thanksgiving unless something comes up really soon. As construction and remodel work around here is almost dead it would take a miracle at the moment. It currently looks like I will have to pull dd out of the school that she loves and is great for her so the kids and I can go stay at my parents. That is also going to mean closing cases and getting records from FL and getting everything set up in MI. It also means putting up with parenting and life ideas from my parents that are in direct opposition with my own. To say the idea of spending any amount of time living with my parents is terrifying is a huge understatement. My dad has never even met either of my kids and my mom only saw my dd when she was a few weeks old. I haven't been up to see them since early 2001. I don't think I could dread anything more then the idea of moving in with them.

[Thystle]

Do any of you need baby boy or little boy clothes?


All my friends have had girls lately, and I have boy stuff I am hanging onto for a good use.


I can mail...

[Thystle]

Kristina... see above. I might have some stuff that would work for all of you and I could go through and pick out more gender neutral stuff.







Any of you CD'ing a new babe or will be soon? I have some older CD's for LITTLE guys that I could not give away before. They are not super special as I snagged them at a thrift store and they were too small. But they will work.

[natural_mama89]

Oh my gosh I would love those diapers for my babe! I am due the end of this month and I have very little for the baby except some clothes that were given to me, a few diapers and covers, and a breast pump that I shouldn't have had to buy (long story). I am grateful for:
1. WIC. We have been practically living off that for the pst month and a half.
2. Our landlady. She is sooooo nice. She works for a catering company and brings us fresh veggies (usually organic) and lots of plain pasta and other things that she gets that would otherwise go to waste. She also wants to move back into her house, but is letting us stay until February if we have to.
3. My DP. He works so hard (and doesn't get paid enough) and is soooo stressed all the time, but he is a great daddy and I love him so much. He is very supportive event though he can't make himself feel better.

[mamamoo]

ugh.

my husband found someone else...he moved out in april, and strung me along saying he didn't know what he wanted, and still telling me he loved me up til a week ago when he found someone that likes him, he showed up monday with hickies all over his neck, and has treated me worse ever since. He says he wants a divorce, and I am ok with that. I am sooo sad for my kids, that he didn't even try, that he is so addicted to the freedom without his kids and wife that he could do this to them.
But I am grateful that I have a ton of supportive friends and family, and our councelor that have watched the whole thing, and know the truth, that I am not making stuff up, or rewriting history to make myself look better. I have always taken responsibility for my part in the seperation, too bad he can't do the same.
I am grateful that I am strong, and that I will rise above this, and that I am taking the high road, and telling the truth.
I am grateful that now we are free of his addictive behavior, and that we can move on and have a good life.
I am grateful for these amazing(and challenging!) kids, that I love and cherish, and make the struggle all worth it!

[LankyLizards]

Oh, mamamoo, I'm so sorry that you are going through that. What a winner - to show up with hickies all over his neck. It's so crazy how I keep hearing stories like this, wher men actually seem to regress after having children and act like they are freakin' teenagers again. I'm glad that you have a good support system, though. And, of course, your kids!

[Belleweather]

Originally Posted by DBZ

I get my food stamps on the 4th and I can't wait. I had no power for two days and lost everything in the fridge and freezer. I did a big shopping trip just before it happened too.

Oh no! I had the exact same thing happen to us two months ago... big huge shopping trip and then dead power for an entire day and we had to throw everything out. I so very much feel your pain.

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Am I the only person whose toddler has just INTENSE growth spurts? DS was fine in his 2Ts and fitting into his medium diaper covers for months. Then he goes on this spurt where he'll wake up, eat everything in sight, and then nap the entire afternoon and want an early bedtime. I swear, the kid woke up two inches taller yesterday... AND, to make everything worse, now his diaper covers barely velcro around his belly and have terrible 'plumbers crack'. We need larger covers, stat, and I can't seem to find his size on the TP or diaperswappers. I'm all extra mad at ebay for their dumb CD policies now, 'cause I know I could have found them on there. :

Also, DH is now convinced he wants to go back to school. He's got a good program in mind (Physican's Assistant) and would finally qualify for instate tuition but... ugh, with all our student loans, I just don't know what to think about taking on even MORE, you know?