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post #21 of 384
BurtsGirl- Big hugs. I'm so sorry. Evil, evil, evil AF... But, like KJM said, I'm feeling confident that a little progesterone supplementation may be all you need.

Megin & Katie- Grrr, stupid BFNs. What dpo are you? I'm so sorry this has been a frustrating process for you. I find it hard enough to get my friend who does my inseminations (and lives five blocks away) in the right place at the right time. I can't imagine working with someone who lives across the country.

Keely- Feel better. That's really funny about your DP- I often wonder how much of my babymaking chatter is actually making it into my GF's head...

Zyla- It's rare that I wish AF upon anyone, but in this case, may she come swiftly. Hugs, and good luck with this next cycle.

All is well with me today. I'm feeling very positive about our new donor, and taking advantage of the opportunity to use the word "motility" in conversation as much as possible. My friends and I have been joking that everyone at the next insemination will get a contact pregnancy from this young man's potent sperm. Anyway, the tank arrives next Thursday, and I'm excited!

Looking forward to seeing some of you on Sunday at the Noho Meetup!
post #22 of 384
I've been lurking for the last two months. We took a break to switch from frozen to known donor. I thought I'd join in now that I'm in the 2ww.

I'm not feeling very positive about it as my temps are all over the place. My sleep has been somewhat erratic so that could be it but I am beginning to suspect I had an anovulatory cycle. But I had such good fertile signs during insem! Ugh...

Anyway, this is try 6 and our first with our known donor. If I did ovulate then I'm about 4 dpo.
post #23 of 384
I'm out this month--no need to move me, as I don't think I ever got moved! I'm feeling great, though, physically, and very even-keeled emotionally--I wish it would happen sooner, but have lots of things to occupy me at the moment.

Burtsgirl--so sorry to hear about your cd1...

Megan and Katie--argh, bfns! I hear you on logistical hassles (I just booked a no-cost plane ticket--rescheduled unused one from last month--that I just found out I won't be using because our kd will be out of town--now just hoping I don't ovulate on the weekend, and can still do IUIs... but we are using up those vials! sigh.)

kjm--I had such a cold for my last BFP; I had to leave a movie halfway through and go crawl into bed--but you know when conception's going to happen, those tiny cells are going to burrow in there, however you're feeling!

Zyla, hope your cycle starts soon!

good luck to everyone else!!
post #24 of 384
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Originally Posted by Twylightdove View Post
t I am beginning to suspect I had an anovulatory cycle.
I never stop learning from you ladies!! So Twy could this be why I haven't had any EWCM this month? Or why I consistently got faints on my opks?

huh? maybe this is what is going on? now I will scroogle my night away trying to figure out why this happens????
post #25 of 384
Megin and Katie, we know how you feel!! Crossing fingers for both of us that we get the magic BFP. Susan was SURE AF was coming this morning, but cramping is gone and no sign of her. We will test again tomorrow.

Lots of luck for everyone else.
post #26 of 384
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Did you have a cold during your BFP cycle? or was it the cycle before?
As soon as I told DP I was sick she said , "Yeah but KK was sick when she got pregnant!" I had NO idea DP actually listens to my MDC chatter
Yep. I was sick as a fucking dog for days. I had a dangerously high fever for 2 days, a fever for 5 days, and a flue for over a week. It was awful. But that's when I got my BFP. There's no logic to this process. Or this world for that matter!

I actually did a fair bit of research when I was sick cuz I was so worried, and it turned out that it's really very common to get sick in your first trimester (or your first week in my case!) because your body suppress your immune system a bit so you can accept your baby & the changes being made. So it makes you susceptible, and worse still, it makes it take much longer to get over the damned thing. It was being sick for so much longer than everyone else that made me wonder if I was pregnant, cuz' it's so not like me.

Also, your body keeps looking after the baby unless it's pretty much a life or death situation for the mother. It only sacrifices the baby to save the mother. As long as the mother isn't in any danger the baby will keep getting what it needs. Good baby! Good body!

The fever thing is a problem at certain periods of the pregnancy. Like when the nervous system is developing, but you don't have to worry about that in the first month or two.

So the conclusion - never fear, all is well!

Oh, and re CM, I never got any that matched the fertile description (stretchy). Same like I didn't get any positive OPKs. So I wouldn't worry so much about that. There's so many variables in these bodily processes so you can't take any single sign too seriously.
post #27 of 384

I too recieved the bitch!!

AAAAGH - change me to BFN...and waiting to O. Poopy - the worst - we will try again next month - flying the KD out to us. Getting a midwife!:
post #28 of 384
Thread Starter 
well wouldn'tcha know it the resort we're at has wifi

imsem went fine, obgyn who did it said CM "couldn't look better", and I had some cramping which felt like ovulation cramping in the car on the drive up here this afternoon. Could have been gas - anything - I'm not going to hold my breath. Just moving forward with life - if it happens, it happens - it will happen when it is meant to. Was pretty funny though that 2 folks in the clinic recognized me from the last go-round.

Funniest was that there were some workers who were mucking around on the roof of the terrace of this clinic which put them essentially right outside of the window of the room I was in. With the blinds up. The ob was mortified and couldn't stop apologizing.

Happy weekend.
post #29 of 384
Hello all! A happy, fruitful November to everyone!

I'm still technically waiting to know, but I really don't have high hopes for this go-round. I'm either 8 or 9dpo, but I'm pretty sure our timing was way messed up. We went very early, and I think my stress actually delayed ovulation even more! Oh well, the first time is just the practice round right?

AF should be here by Monday, if she's coming, and I've had a few cramps and lower back pain yesterday. I've decided not to test at all unless Tuesday comes and goes with no sign of her. DP isn't quite as patient, however. I swear if she could, she'd start sneaking tests into the john in the hopes that I would pee on them by accident!
post #30 of 384
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Oh well, the first time is just the practice round right?
Yup Yup, Our first try in May was day 21?? That was what I came up with afer 6 months of temping?? See why I don't temp??
My second attempt (we took June off) was in July and I was going to insem on day 14 and day 16 (I O'd on day 15) until the lovely ladies from this list schooled me otherwise--duh no use in doing it after you O!!
And please keep in mind this was after reading everything I could online as well as 3 books---There is a definite learning curve here


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DP isn't quite as patient, however. I swear if she could, she'd start sneaking tests into the john in the hopes that I would pee on them by accident!
Tell me about it!?!?!? DP and I looked at the calendar and I told her I would test Fri the 16th if no AF on Thurs ---She begged and pleaded and told me all her reasons why that was the worse day in the whole world!!
Now we have agreed to Tues the 13th??!!?!?!? That will be 14 dpo--but still!! I'm such a sucker for cute chicks
post #31 of 384
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Tell me about it!?!?!? DP and I looked at the calendar and I told her I would test Fri the 16th if no AF on Thurs ---She begged and pleaded and told me all her reasons why that was the worse day in the whole world!!
Now we have agreed to Tues the 13th??!!?!?!? That will be 14 dpo--but still!! I'm such a sucker for cute chicks
I hear ya!

She said Tuesday was too late, so I said "Okay, Monday night then" But no, she has work and class and will be tired and it's trash night and what if it rains?
I won't do it any earlier than Monday because I don't want the disappointment! I'd rather just save our money and wait for AF to rear her ugly head....that way at least I know for sure without all the second guessing!
post #32 of 384
Freaking out for nothing it seems. I looked in the memory of the therm and it was 97.7 not 97.1 which is still on the high side for me. My temp has gradually edged upward, which is common for me no matter how many times I forget that.
Now it is time to go talk to my therapist about why I'm such a nut about all this.

I have decided to refuse to test until I'm a week late. Jake will be going nuts after the first day but I'm not going to look at another BFN! Now that I've made that statement we'll just have to see if I can keep it!
post #33 of 384
Thread Starter 
Twylightdove I'm with ya there - no testing unless AF doesn't show up. My luteal phase is usually 14 days on the nose so we'll know something is up if I'm not bleeding on the 15th.

Pretty normal vacation day today... amazing huge waves on the lake
post #34 of 384
Jen- the ovulation cramping sounds very hopeful!
Simcon- Sorry you're out this round. So it sounds like you're trying to do some in person insems and then sometimes use the frozen stuff?

I decided to stop the progesterone earlier than originally planned...figuring that if I actually am pregnant, I can probably go a day or two without progesterone, but if I'm not, it'll bring on my period that much sooner. I love to have the attitude of "it ain't over until AF shows up",but it doesn't work on progesterone, really. So I didn't have any progesterone yesterday, and am hoping that AF will show up by the end of the day today. Of course, if she doesn't, we'll be testing again on Monday!

I can't wait to talk in person with some of you about where we go next because I'm feeling VERY frustrated with all of this waiting!

oh, and that whole being sick when you're first pregnant...I have been consistently getting very mildly sick right at the beginning of my cycle for about half of the cycles of the last year. It totally screws with temping...
post #35 of 384
Well, we are out - sort of. AF showed up for Susan, but it was so early in my cycle that we just switched places. We changed the donor and have new goods arriving on Tuesday morning. So, we will be back in the TWW on Tuesday!
post #36 of 384
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Well, we are out - sort of. AF showed up for Susan, but it was so early in my cycle that we just switched places. We changed the donor and have new goods arriving on Tuesday morning. So, we will be back in the TWW on Tuesday!
Wow, you are both TTC?
Wow.
post #37 of 384
Well, tomorrow marks five weeks since my miscarriage began and I'm feeling increasingly pms-ish. I am hoping my period shows up sooon as I am eager to try again. I had thought I'd wait a bit longer, but it feels right to try again the next time I ovulate. I'm a little concerned about timing this month though as I may very well ovulate the week of Thanksgiving if my period does come this week and of course that'll interfere with shipping (I wait to order until I get my LH surge, as my cycles aren't clockwork enough to order ahead). Well, if that's the way it works out, so be it. I am trying to stay relaxed about it all! ha!

Speaking of which, I've signed up with Midwest Sperm bank (sticking with home insemination) (so much less expensive than Cal. Cryo!). I like knowing I have options.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend ... off to write way too many papers.
post #38 of 384

AF Has Come

We ended up doing a pregnancy test on Wednesday night - we believe we saw 2 lines - but ended up getting AF late Thursday/Friday A.M.

We had to make a somewhat quick decision (although it had been discussed already) as to if we were going to go ahead with the FSH cycle (had to have an ultra-sound on day 1-3 of period). So, went to IVF clinic on Friday for an ultra-sound and start 5 days of Follistim shots tomorrow. Here's to making a few good eggs We'll then have another ultra-sound on Friday and go from there. This is our last set of boys.....so we'll make some decisions after this set as to what our plans are.

It was hard going to the clinic so soon after starting AF. Normally, we have about 12 days to re-coup and feel sad, etc. BUT I had to pretty much go up that same day.......that was tough. They are very understanding.

Anyone else here go to Bellingham IVF?

Randi
post #39 of 384
Yeah I posted this message to the wrong list...yuck this cold is eating my brain...
Reason for edit? ummm brain = muck
post #40 of 384
Randi - Sorry to hear about AF coming. : this next cycle is THE cycle.

Zyla - I also never thought I'd wish AF on someone but I am now. Hope she doesn't mess around and gets here soon.

astraphell - This:
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I swear if she could, she'd start sneaking tests into the john in the hopes that I would pee on them by accident!
Had me rolling in the floor at the visual!!! Good luck this cycle.

Sugerson - Sorry AF showed

Simcon - I hope you take this month to relax and enjoy not being on the roller coaster. Be sure to still check in from time to time.

Angela - How ya doing girlie?

KJM - you feeling pregnant yet?

Well I've been taking the Femara/Letrozole for three days, two more to go, and I have to say I haven't really felt any side effects yet. I took myself off the B6 for now to see what the Letrozole can do and that messed with my AF a little. My temps are already higher than they normally are at this time so I guess thats a good thing. I'll call the RE today and go in for an ultrasound on CD12, probably. Otherwise just coasting along awaiting the eggie.

ETA: That I'm totally bummed I'm missing out on the meet up! *off to pout*
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