Originally Posted by megincl
Did I mention this all makes me nuts, sad, ugh, etc?
What blows my mind - as well as the mind of a friend of mine who is infertile and has adopted one and is now in the book for #2 - is the number of children who are conceived despite their birth parents not really trying - or not even caring. And I'm not just talking about the effortless pregnancies ("Oh my hubby and I decided to play 'catch the egg' this month and it worked! On the first try!!"), but the kids who are the unintended by-products of having a good time.
Kids of queers (both bio and adopted) and kids who are adopted, in my book, are the most wanted children in the world. Yay us
That balance of wanting a child so much and yet staying sane yourself is so hard to find. My wife said with our first kid that if I hadn't gotten pregnant when I did, she would have forced me to take a cycle off because I was turning into a freak. I didn't know I was such a freak. I like to think that this time I've taken a gigantic breath and am just believing that it will happen when it's meant to happen, but I'm really getting no external feedback on it from anyone since I don't hang a lot with the other moms in my neighborhood and I'm not keeping anyone else really up to date on when we're doing insems, etc except for a few close friends. Even my wife isn't really following my cycles, etc - she just sorta nods when I tell her I've got an insem the next day. (Kind of weird but also kind of nice - it makes me feel like our lives aren't revolving around it, kwim?) We have been having fun arguing about names, though, so I do know that she is looking very forward to #2. baby_baby_mommy
I should (?) be insem'ing around that time - my body is never 100% predictable but that's about my window, I think. Happy to be your buddy
do you wanna be included on the list on the 1st page?2happymamas
wow, it sounds like you're really be moved from within on this one. Way to listen to your gut. Good luck and may your conceiving the next baby be just as easy it was for Tina on the L Word (with, of course, none of the relationship drama...)
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writes I think "wow... I wish I were that deep and insightful." ("What is art?... who am I?")