Pregnant with #1 in our 30s ~November~ - Page 10

[raingyrl]

Aimee - Why not? We plan to find out if we are having a boy or girl just before Christmas, so we can put the big surprise in the holiday cards. Just to irritate my mom, I think I'll put in the dogs' names. She thinks people only have dogs because they can't/won't have children!

oh...and I've been super thirsty too. MW says that is good, and just to obey my thirst because we need more water now.

Last night -and the night before - I think I felt a light kick from baby. I'm 17 weeks... When did everyone start feeling movement?

BFP = Big Fat Positive....or "now you can stop wasting your $ on these little plastic sticks"

[SarahJen]

Rain I think I first felt movement when I was around 14 or 15 weeks but for sure I felt it at 16. The earlier ones I wasn't sure of until I felt them later on and remembered what I had felt before (it was very sporadic at first).

Yesterday at my midwives appointment she said that the baby is head down (good) and on the side that I thought she was, I always get kicked along my right side up high near my ribs and so much so that by the end of the day sometimes I feel really bruised on that side. She turnes around sometimes but must like this direction best because she only stays turned for a few minutes.

[Jujubie]

Rain, I started to feel things about 17 weeks, but I could never know for sure if it was gas or the baby. For sure about 20 weeks I started feeling the kicks. It took a while for DH to be able to feel it on the outside.

[cking]

17 weeks here too. I wasn't sure if it was gas at that point. But it kept happening, and within two weeks I was sure. And then I felt the baby turn around and all that. Earlier this week we even saw my belly move from the outside. I was holding my breath in order to do that though - my belly moves so much just from me breathing.

Originally Posted by raingyrl

BFP = Big Fat Positive....or "now you can stop wasting your $ on these little plastic sticks"

[SarahJen]

Originally Posted by cking

Earlier this week we even saw my belly move from the outside.

I think this is the freakiest and coolest thing about pregnancy so far. DH loves it when he can see it moving, he gets this amazed face whenever it happens. It's really like she's stretching her legs straight out, my whole tummy changes shape and then goes back round again. When it happens we yell 'alien invasion!' and watch it roll.

[phillybama]

Rain, I guess because we are not finding out the sex, it makes it more difficult to decide what to put on the card. I guess we could just put "Baby Insert Last name here." I am still thinking about. Actually, I am debating whether to even send cards this year. I am not sure I have the energy really. I will have to send out thank-you cards after the showers, so maybe that will be it. I guess if I decide not to send cards I don't have to worry about it.

Oh, I think I started feeling movement around 17 or 18 weeks. My DH could feel them around 21 weeks. Now every evening we have "baby watch" where I just lie there and we watch all the movements. It really is alien-like, but enjoyable.

[beckyphry]

Rain, I had my first real "that was the baby!!" movement at around 18 weeks. It's so awesome, isn't it?? It was Mother's Day when my husband could feel a kick from the outside so I'm guessing I was... 22 ish weeks?

[Anouk]

Emily, you win the jackpot - it's a BOY!! We're very excited! And, the tech told me I have an anterior placenta, which explains why I'm still not feeling movement at 18 weeks + 5 days. I'm really looking forward to it.

Aimee, I don't know what we'll do about the cards, either. We always sign for the dog, the two cats, and the parrot, so it wouldn't be too weird to sign "and Jakob Alexander, too." Although, I might only do that with the closer folks who are aware of how far along I am and stuff, the more far-flung card recipients might get confused and think I'd delivered already.

[Grace24]

Lacy congrats on your boy! :

[Anouk]

Thanks Julia You're having a boy, too, right? And you're getting pretty close! Sending ELV your direction early, just so they're ready when you are!

We already picked out his name - Jakob Alexander - after DH's grandfather and brother. It's German tradition to use the uncle's name as the baby's middle name. We're lucky DH only has one brother, as FIL has about 4 middle names - they cram ALL the uncles' names in there! DH's extended family lives in a German town that's so close to the French border that the dialect spoken there is partly French, so his grandfather's name was pronounced "zha-cub" (as in the first sound in Jacques) instead of the normal German pronunciation of "ya-cub." My in-laws will pronounce his name that way, but I figure everybody else will probably just say "Jake."

[nony]

it was I

hi everyone...it was me...i was the recent BFP in the TTC group...
I have been looking in this forum, sort of wondering where I might go now, and I finally found this thread! ...Melanie, will you please add me? - I'm due in mid July (I'm 32)! ...I am a little shocked to not see a July section yet...I'm still very early pregnant, but I'm thrilled as can be - with THREE of my total of 4 pee-sticks that I ever had stuck to my fridge with my variations of positive...I was never much of a tester - it was so heartwrenching to see that one negative...now i'm really happy to have the tests, though, because at this early stage, they are a window into the reality of the little one...

I have been, in general, more of a lurker/reader, but I'm very VERY happy to find this thread and am deeply hoping to see some of the other TTCers over here soon!

Also - it's great to read some of the names that I've seen around before. Congrats to those that have already welcomed their babes to the world! - I remember you when you were TRYING!

anyway, wanted to show up and say hello. And it was great that Dee had already known there was a BFP...that's the best!

cheers,
nony

[Grace24]

Nony and congratulations! It's great to have you here!

Lacy... yup, we're having a boy too! His name is Oliver Roland... Oliver just cuz we like it and Roland after DH's grandfather.

I made my first diaper! We did a gift swap in our November DDC and my gift from one of the mamas was a homemade sleeping gown and a homemade diaper from the Very Baby pattern. They were so cute that I got inspired... I hadn't sewn in years and it took my mom and I about two hours to thread the machine, but I finally sat down and started to sew again, how fun! I can't finish it til the Aplix and elastic comes in the mail (can you believe I couldn't find it in any fabric store around here) but it was fun to get as far as I did. I think CJ made some of her diapers from that pattern too... it was so easy!

So anyhow, am I a total loser that my new Friday night activity is sewing diapers, or does it just mean that I'm content?

[meli-mello]

Originally Posted by Jujubie

Bold-Faced Postitive, i.e. a positive pregnancy test.

Thanks! Sometimes I feel kind of sheepish because I didn't spend any time trying to conceive and I know of so many people (like my brother and his wife, and a cousin and her husband) who spent a long time trying and were never successful. I had planned on joining the TTC forum in the fall - but the Spurt beat me to it and for that I will be eternally grateful.

Originally Posted by Anouk

Emily, you win the jackpot - it's a BOY!! We're very excited! And, the tech told me I have an anterior placenta, which explains why I'm still not feeling movement at 18 weeks + 5 days. I'm really looking forward to it.

Anouk - Congratulations on your boy! I have an anterior placenta too which is why I can only feel mild fluttering even though we could SEE the baby kicking me the other day during the ultrasound.

Originally Posted by nony

hi everyone...it was me...i was the recent BFP in the TTC group...
I have been looking in this forum, sort of wondering where I might go now, and I finally found this thread! ...Melanie, will you please add me? - I'm due in mid July (I'm 32)! ...I am a little shocked to not see a July section yet...I'm still very early pregnant...

Welcome Nony!

I have added you (and Anouk, I updated your baby status too). It is so nice to finally be able to add July to the thread.

Originally Posted by Grace24

So anyhow, am I a total loser that my new Friday night activity is sewing diapers, or does it just mean that I'm content?

Hardly! I went to a Christmas party tonight for my old work and all I wanted to do most of the night was come home. Most people were on a mission to get drunk so I felt really out of place. I was my gay-best-friend's date because his "wife" (his words, not mine) is away and if it wasn't for being with him it wouldn't have been much fun at all. DH drove us to the party and I took a taxi home and the whole night I had a splitting headache. To top it off I had my first real emotional-pregnancy breakdown when g-b-f told me (over MSN this afternoon) that at work today, after the all-company meeting they came back to their desks to find Christmas presents: new iPods, cds, shirts and various other goodies for every employee in the company. This after getting a couple bills in the mail that I am not sure I am going to be able to pay. I don't want to harp on our financial troubles since I know they are only temporary and there is no stability in being an environmental writer so I knew the risk I took when leaving the company - but it was all too much and DH came into the living room to see me sobbing on the couch and didn't know what to do since I NEVER cry. I mean, I can't even keep my eyes moist enough to wear contacts anymore. At least we could joke about how happy my eyes would be to get so much moisture. Anyway, whine whine whine - the party is probably why it is almost 2 a.m. and I am still awake - I think I ate too many goodies and now my heart is beating a million miles a minute. So, Julia, what I am trying to say is that I love spending Friday nights sewing and I don't think you are lame at all!

[raingyrl]

Welcome Nony & Big Congratulations!

Thanks everyone for all the input on baby movement. I can't wait until it's definitely baby and not just a bubble.

And Julia...I'm so jealous of anyone doing anything in the evenings as I'm still crawling into bed by 8p.m. (6:30 last night!) dealing w/this never ending night nausea! One of my friends is having a big 40th birthday bash tonight that doesn't even start until 9:30. I don't know why I keep thinking we are going to be there..

Congrats Lacy!

Aimee - I would probably skip the Christmas cards if we weren't finding out the sex since we don't usually send cards. You'll have a lot of Thank You cards to send out after your big showers, so that might be the time to include Baby X....

Melanie - I'm also dealing with a lot of financial uncertainty... I might lose my job...DH's income is very unpredictable...we might need to sell the house..etc. So...I hear you. It's hard to stay optimistic sometimes. But...I keep feeling like all these changes are a sign that it's time to really do things differently...that push from the universe thang! :

Rain

[Jujubie]

Hello Mamas! Welcome Nony! I saw your BFP in the TTC tread which I read quite often, but don't ever post in. I really hope we get more TTC graduates too!

Grace, don't feel bad about feeling content staying home, I was in bed watching TV at 8:30, and we had even be invited out but I didn't feel like going anywhere! LOL.

Rain, the tiredness will pass. I remember being so tired--probably till about week 16 or 17 but then it slowly lifted. I still have a day now and then where I am just exhausted.

RE: Christmas cards, I don't think I will be doing them. I plan on sending birth announcements after she is born, so i'll be lazy and pass on the cards this year.

Well, i'm off to make some spicy cheese dip to take to a friends house today. There is a party to watch the Michigan-Ohio State game today. GO BLUE!

[nony]

Good morning - thanks for the welcomes...it feels extra nice to be here!...i am 4 weeks 3 days at the moment and to be completely honest, i can't feel much of anything except SORE breasts...and an on-going awareness of my pelvic area - something like: i know you're in there! But not much else. I read a few worries about finances...that is one this i get just about frantic over. Not sure how we're going to pull it off. Rain, sorry you may have to sell. We just bought our place within the year and I think if we couldn't keep it it would be a huge step back for us - who are aspiring farmers and homesteaders...at this rate, we'd have a lot of trouble finding a place for our cow in an apartment, that's for sure!

DH said a great thing the other night while i was, in general, being unhelpful and gloomy about finances...he said "i'd like to see it as a challenge that we can overcome, v. some obstacle that we can't." or something like that...but he basically put a good spin on it - I thing he likes the challenge of us being resourceful and frugal and since neither of us grew up in affluent (or even close) houses, we're both pretty comfortable with frugality.

But, anyway, this is just to say that it's on my mind also...but since getting pregnany felt so hard (it took six months, which I know is not as long as it takes others, but it felt like so, so long), I just feel that this means we'll be fine.

CONGRATS on your boy, Grace! I echo the stay-at-home-on-Friday-nighters...I just love being home and gatherings, while fun once i'm there, are so hard to committ to, because then i won't be home!

have a great weekend everyone,

[cking]

Congratulations, Nony! And Welcome!

[cking]

Wait, Melanie, did you say Christmas party? It’s the middle of November! Ours is on Dec 20th. (And they aren’t fun – we have to pay admission, and there are certainly no gifts….that’s gov’t for ya.) So, wait, you were laid off from this company, and now they are giving extravagant gifts to their other employees? That’s not right. My brother worked for a huge bank once; they were planning massive layoffs. They gave these fancy going away packages to all of their laid-off employees. They could have kept several employees for the money they spent on the stupid packages. :

Originally Posted by SarahJen

I think this is the freakiest and coolest thing about pregnancy so far. DH loves it when he can see it moving, he gets this amazed face whenever it happens. It's really like she's stretching her legs straight out, my whole tummy changes shape and then goes back round again. When it happens we yell 'alien invasion!' and watch it roll.

That’s awesome. I’ve felt that stretching thing where it feels like my whole belly is stretching – it’s usually when I’m sitting in a car or something, so I haven’t seen it yet. I can’t wait to see big movements. The other day it was really just a little jump – maybe hiccups or something?

[meli-mello]

Originally Posted by nony

DH said a great thing the other night while i was, in general, being unhelpful and gloomy about finances...he said "i'd like to see it as a challenge that we can overcome, v. some obstacle that we can't." or something like that...but he basically put a good spin on it - I thing he likes the challenge of us being resourceful and frugal and since neither of us grew up in affluent (or even close) houses, we're both pretty comfortable with frugality.

That is great advice. My DH said something similar to me yesterday after I had my little breakdown. I mean, we have always been poor and frugal so I don't know why I expected anything would start changing.

Originally Posted by cking

Wait, Melanie, did you say Christmas party? It’s the middle of November! Ours is on Dec 20th. (And they aren’t fun – we have to pay admission, and there are certainly no gifts….that’s gov’t for ya.) So, wait, you were laid off from this company, and now they are giving extravagant gifts to their other employees? That’s not right. My brother worked for a huge bank once; they were planning massive layoffs. They gave these fancy going away packages to all of their laid-off employees. They could have kept several employees for the money they spent on the stupid packages. :

Christina: I didn't get laid off - I left. I was pretty much working two full time jobs until July: one a writing job and one doing customer service for the company who had their Christmas party last night. The customer service job was obviously the stable one but the other one is more in-line with what I want to do and what I have gone to school for so I took a risk and left. I just have to keep telling myself that I knew it would be a risk and that the work is more rewarding (uh, emotionally ). It actually kind of made me sick to see how much money was spent on the party last night when I spend my day reading news stories about environmental destruction or homeless people or little kids in India who are - literally - tied to their sewing machines to make shirts for the Gap. But my city is going through a crazy economic boom right now and the Haves think it is going to last forever while the Have-Nots are paying for it (and to be honest, most of the time I don't even consider myself a Have-Not: we have a roof, food and each other). My Mum just informed me of my brother's Christmas bonus which will be more than DH and I have made, before taxes, for the last two years. i could go on (and on and on) but I just keep telling myself that at least our baby will have two parents who adore and have fun with each other which I think is a better start than most kids get.

Geesh! /dismount soap box. You can tell this is weighing on me though and I don't talk about it much in the "real world" so sorry for using the forum as my own personal outlet.

Funny story about last night though: I ran into a couple I knew - although not from my old company but the husband is now working for them from home and they didn't know anyone so I spent a long time talking to them. Anyway, I haven't seen them in a while and they had a new baby with them and later on in the night he was going to the bathroom and said "oh, do you want to hold her?" and I kind of panicked for a minute and then said "I guess I should, eh?" I realized it has been about a decade since I last held a baby! It was a little awkward but after a while it started to feel right (and she was adorable - her name was Isla) so I guess the maternal instinct is starting to kick in.

[dctexan]

Originally Posted by Anouk

Emily, you win the jackpot - it's a BOY!! We're very excited! And, the tech told me I have an anterior placenta, which explains why I'm still not feeling movement at 18 weeks + 5 days. I'm really looking forward to it.

YAY!!! Congrats on your baby boy (and welcome to team blue!). BTW, I was one of those people who didn't really feel movement until later (maybe 19 weeks or so? Even then it was teeny tiny and I wasn't quite sure it was movement).

Originally Posted by nony

hi everyone...it was me...i was the recent BFP in the TTC group...

Hi Nony! Congrats on your BFP!!! We are so happy to have you here. I didn't actually start feeling pregnant until I was 6.5 weeks or so (and the morning sickness started). I hope you have a wonderful happy and healthy nine months