Originally Posted by Pookietooth
Wow, I had a feeling that the MDC mamas were doing better by far than my family, but now I know it's true. So many over 100K, I am so jealous!
I had heard that being a SAHM has started to something mostly only women with husbands who earn a great deal do, but seeing it in print makes me realize that it's really coming true.
I see it when I go to playgroups at mamas' houses, and they live in $500K homes. We have a 2 bedroom apartment. I think most women married to men who make significantly less have jobs.
It's rough being in the lower middle class when you know if you worked you wouldn't be. But then when a couple makes a total of $100K together, it's not worth as much as when just one partner makes that much, anyway.
I have to agree with being surprised by the results of this income poll. I was very surprised that most voted $100,000 or more. But you have to remember this is not a scientific poll, and it is voluntary, so the results are by no means a representative sample.
That said, I have to disagree that most MDC moms have husbands who make close to or over $100,000.
My perception from reading posts has been that many MDC families are middle to lower income and many rely on programs such as WIC and state funded health care programs. I guess it depends which posts you read...
In my real life, I know ZERO stay at home moms whose husbands earn over $100,000. I don't know any stay at home moms who have $500,000 houses. Not one.
I know roughly 20 SAHMs in real life and plenty of working moms. The SAHMs have husbands who make $40k, $50k, $60k mostly. They cut corners on their budget and they live frugally, or maybe they receive a lot of help from parents. I only know of 2 stay at home moms whose husbands make more than $80k.
I'd be curious to know what occupations have a single earner over $100k. My husband and I are both college educated, we both have or had "good" careers, and we waited to have children to become established in our careers (close to a decade of work experience before kids). We never earned $100,000 or more even with both of us working.
I am able to stay at home because I saved a lot of my salary and now we use that to supplement my DH's salary. It won't last forever and soon I'll go back to work.
Also, I don't think the grass is always greener. Sure, it would be nice in some ways to have a DH earning over $100,000, but to me that comes with some inherent problems if salaries between spouses are so imbalanced...
...such as what if DH is layed off? Then what happens to the family? What if DH is disabled or worse? With a corporate culture of downsizing and outsourcing, I am thankful my husband and I have fairly equal earning power. I feel safer. Companies often look to save money, and they have a penchant for cutting middle managers, ect with inflated salaries. That is very scary to me. I'd feel very vulnerable if DH earned significantly more than the average worker and significantly more than me (while of course also enjoying the good times while they lasted). ...particularly in this economy.
Just some thoughts...anyone else concur?