NOVEMBER TTC in our 20s - Page 3

[filiadeluna]

Originally Posted by countrybound

My mom knows we're TTC again and she knew before we conceived the baby that we MC. She knows I O'd on the 30th. I told her we weren't goint to let anyone know until we have a confirm it with an US that shows a heartbeat. She said "well you're goint to tell me right?" and I said "No"... she's like "you will be calling the minute it happens, you tell me everything. No way you can keep it in".. She's probably right... we're really close, but I'm still going to try.

Oh, wow. I am very close to my mom, but I don't think I could go as far as to the details of my ovulation. I don't talk about TMI stuff with my mom very often... I'm just embarrassed, yet I will talk about nearly ANYTHING with my friends my age. I definitely won't be able to hold it in for long with my mom when I find out I'm pg though. Problem is she'll get overly excited and that will be ALL she'll want to talk about for the next 9 months (including much nagging of me on what to eat, do, buy, etc). Thankfully my mom was an AP, BFE'ing mom (for 18 months), so we won't have any arguments there.

[TaraRae82]

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

Oh, wow. I am very close to my mom, but I don't think I could go as far as to the details of my ovulation. I don't talk about TMI stuff with my mom very often... I'm just embarrassed, yet I will talk about nearly ANYTHING with my friends my age. I definitely won't be able to hold it in for long with my mom when I find out I'm pg though. Problem is she'll get overly excited and that will be ALL she'll want to talk about for the next 9 months (including much nagging of me on what to eat, do, buy, etc). Thankfully my mom was an AP, BFE'ing mom (for 18 months), so we won't have any arguments there.

My Mom and I are super close. We talk about everything. She knows pretty much everything about our TTC efforts with the exception of exactly when we have sex. Although, since she knows when I'm fertile, I'm sure she can figure it out. She even knows that I went on a business trip with DH last week so as not to miss my fertile window! She's incredibly excited and asks me almost everyday how my temp is. 3 people in my life are that involved; DH, my best friend (Doula), and my Mom. I know I'll never be able to hide a BFP from her. I'm a good liar but she's my Mom and can read me like a book! LOL

[nicmazzei]

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

Oh, wow. I am very close to my mom, but I don't think I could go as far as to the details of my ovulation. I don't talk about TMI stuff with my mom very often... I'm just embarrassed, yet I will talk about nearly ANYTHING with my friends my age. I definitely won't be able to hold it in for long with my mom when I find out I'm pg though. Problem is she'll get overly excited and that will be ALL she'll want to talk about for the next 9 months (including much nagging of me on what to eat, do, buy, etc). Thankfully my mom was an AP, BFE'ing mom (for 18 months), so we won't have any arguments there.

I used to be like that with my mom, until I had DS. Now we talk about CM, DTD, Oing, 2WW, the works. All modesty has gone out the window. She knows we're TTC, and will be the first person I tell when I get the BFP.... even before DH.

[filiadeluna]

Originally Posted by nicmazzei

I used to be like that with my mom, until I had DS. Now we talk about CM, DTD, Oing, 2WW, the works. All modesty has gone out the window. She knows we're TTC, and will be the first person I tell when I get the BFP.... even before DH.

Hehe. Well, I don't even talk about the CM or cervix stuff with my husband, so I can't imagine talking about it with my mother. Hell, I was 19 or 20 before I felt comfortable telling my mom I was on my period. I was embarrassed as hell to even ask her to buy me tampons when I was in high school/Jr.High/Elem school (yeah I started at age 11). I would be like, "Um, Mom, I need some... um... you know... things". And in the store I would make her carry them for me. And I was still embarrassed to buy condoms before TTC, and am still embarrassed to buy OPKs and preg tests, even with obvious RINGS on my fingers.

I don't talk to her about our sex life at all... my mom probably wouldn't be embarrassed about it, but I sure would. Plus I don't think DH would appreciate her knowing the intimate details of our sex life.

[nicmazzei]

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

Hehe. Well, I don't even talk about the CM or cervix stuff with my husband, so I can't imagine talking about it with my mother. Hell, I was 19 or 20 before I felt comfortable telling my mom I was on my period. I was embarrassed as hell to even ask her to buy me tampons when I was in high school/Jr.High/Elem school (yeah I started at age 11). I would be like, "Um, Mom, I need some... um... you know... things". And in the store I would make her carry them for me.

I don't talk to her about our sex life at all... my mom probably wouldn't be embarrassed about it, but I sure would. Plus I don't think DH would appreciate her knowing the intimate details of our sex life.

i was the same exact way! to the point that i would save lunch money to buy my own tampons sometimes.

i don't talk about things like that with DH at all either. The other day he walked in the bathroom without knocking while I was checking CP and was like, "wtf!!!?!" the look on his face was priceless. it got even better when my jerk response was to say, "IT'S FOR THE BABY"

[filiadeluna]

Originally Posted by nicmazzei

i was the same exact way! to the point that i would save lunch money to buy my own tampons sometimes.

Hahaha. I would rather have told my mom to buy them than have to buy them myself though.

i don't talk about things like that with DH at all either. The other day he walked in the bathroom without knocking while I was checking CP and was like, "wtf!!!?!" the look on his face was priceless. it got even better when my jerk response was to say, "IT'S FOR THE BABY"

: OMG that's almost like me the other day. I was spending a long time in the bathroom: taking an OPK, and also checking my netherregions, and he was like "What are you doing? Pooping?" I quickly responded, "YES!" and was relieved he gave me that option so I wouldn't have to make something up. DH makes no qualms about stating loudly (and proudly), "I just took a HUGE CRAP!" : when he exits the bathroom sometimes.

[songbird45]

You ladies are hilarious! I'm so glad I'm on this thread!

Dh has started asking about my temperature and even knows how to read my chart. My mother thinks I'm overthinking this whole thing so I tell her things (I'm not embarrased) but she doesn't really care. I'll try to keep a bfp from her as long as possible b/c she tends to be sort of judgmental and I don't want to hear any of her opinions, ever, on anything.

Of course, I talk to her daily so I'm guessing "as long as possible" will be about 2 weeks.

Azuluna: I got a lot of information from the PCOSer's Unite thread and the SoulCysters discussion boards. SoulCysters is particularly awesome for PCOS - those ladies seriously know everything, and the stickies have links to tons of great info. Aside from that, start researching glycemic index and generally try to have low glycemic foods all the time. If you're having irregular cycles PCOS and/or weight and/or insulin issues might be related. If not, none of this might be applicable to your fertility, although it's certainly good for your general health!

[TaraRae82]

DH has learned so much about fertility and reproduction since we started TTC. He was CLUELESS before. I'm shocked at how little he learned or maybe retained from anything he had in school. He swears no one ever talked to him about any of this stuff. He and his parents are not open at all about anything sex-related. He didn't even know that urine and AF come from 2 different places. I'm sure he's not alone, I just assumed that it was something he'd learned. He was shocked to learn that women have "discharge"....the best way I knew how to explain CM. It kinda freaked him out at first so I haven't gotten into details about the different kinds or the true purpose of it all. LOL

[filiadeluna]

Originally Posted by songbird45

You ladies are hilarious! I'm so glad I'm on this thread!

Dh has started asking about my temperature and even knows how to read my chart. My mother thinks I'm overthinking this whole thing so I tell her things (I'm not embarrased) but she doesn't really care. I'll try to keep a bfp from her as long as possible b/c she tends to be sort of judgmental and I don't want to hear any of her opinions, ever, on anything.

Of course, I talk to her daily so I'm guessing "as long as possible" will be about 2 weeks.

Aw, that's a shame that your mom is overbearing like that. My mom can be annoying sometimes, but she always presents "vital information" in a positive way so that even if it gets on my nerves at least I don't feel like she's trying to tell me I'm doing everything wrong. My DH is learning a little, too, but I don't want to tell him *everything* or he might get overwhelmed. Sometimes men just can't handle that much non sports-related info at once, even if it is somewhat related to sex. :

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

DH has learned so much about fertility and reproduction since we started TTC. He was CLUELESS before. I'm shocked at how little he learned or maybe retained from anything he had in school. He swears no one ever talked to him about any of this stuff. He and his parents are not open at all about anything sex-related. He didn't even know that urine and AF come from 2 different places. I'm sure he's not alone, I just assumed that it was something he'd learned. He was shocked to learn that women have "discharge"....the best way I knew how to explain CM. It kinda freaked him out at first so I haven't gotten into details about the different kinds or the true purpose of it all. LOL

OMG my DH didn't know there were 2 dif holes there either! He asked something about like, "So how can you pee with a tampon in?" and I was all... you're kidding, right? Don't you know that girls don't pee out of their vaginas? It's that little bitty sensitive *thing* that you pee out of. He was like "Really???" He did know that females have CM, though, but I don't think he knows that there are different textures of it. All he knows is I'm either on AF, dry, wet, or "really wet".

[countrybound]

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

My Mom and I are super close. We talk about everything. She knows pretty much everything about our TTC efforts with the exception of exactly when we have sex. Although, since she knows when I'm fertile, I'm sure she can figure it out. She even knows that I went on a business trip with DH last week so as not to miss my fertile window! She's incredibly excited and asks me almost everyday how my temp is. 3 people in my life are that involved; DH, my best friend (Doula), and my Mom. I know I'll never be able to hide a BFP from her. I'm a good liar but she's my Mom and can read me like a book! LOL

I don't tell her about cheick my CP, or having sex. But she charted to get pregnant with me so she knows about temping. I only go as far as telling her if I got a + on my OPK or if I had a temp rise. She knows what happens then LOL. I did say "If I'm not pregnant this time than God just doesn't want me to be, because we've been BUSY" LOL... she's all "Ummmm TMI TMI TMI!!!"

Originally Posted by nicmazzei

i don't talk about things like that with DH at all either. The other day he walked in the bathroom without knocking while I was checking CP and was like, "wtf!!!?!" the look on his face was priceless. it got even better when my jerk response was to say, "IT'S FOR THE BABY"

laughup my husband is the worst at coming into the bathroom or asking what I'm doing in there. Finally I yelled "Checking my cervical mucous... wanna watch!" He made me so mad, I'm like "you don't want to know so leave me alone" Any time I try and tell him about it he's like "that's gross, I don't want to know about that". Now he leaves me alone (most of the time).

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

: OMG that's almost like me the other day. I was spending a long time in the bathroom: taking an OPK, and also checking my netherregions, and he was like "What are you doing? Pooping?" I quickly responded, "YES!" and was relieved he gave me that option so I wouldn't have to make something up. DH makes no qualms about stating loudly (and proudly), "I just took a HUGE CRAP!" : when he exits the bathroom sometimes.

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

DH has learned so much about fertility and reproduction since we started TTC. He was CLUELESS before. I'm shocked at how little he learned or maybe retained from anything he had in school. He swears no one ever talked to him about any of this stuff. He and his parents are not open at all about anything sex-related. He didn't even know that urine and AF come from 2 different places. I'm sure he's not alone, I just assumed that it was something he'd learned. He was shocked to learn that women have "discharge"....the best way I knew how to explain CM. It kinda freaked him out at first so I haven't gotten into details about the different kinds or the true purpose of it all. LOL

Talk about learning this stuff! I had no idea about any of this until I wanted to TTC. This a whole new world for me. My husband only knows as far as temping. I try and talk to him about the other stuff but he could care less. That's what I have you girls for!!!

[countrybound]

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

OMG my DH didn't know there were 2 dif holes there either! He asked something about like, "So how can you pee with a tampon in?" and I was all... you're kidding, right? Don't you know that girls don't pee out of their vaginas? It's that little bitty sensitive *thing* that you pee out of. He was like "Really???" He did know that females have CM, though, but I don't think he knows that there are different textures of it. All he knows is I'm either on AF, dry, wet, or "really wet".

I didn't know that until I was like 12. I said something to my mom about taking the tampon out to pee and she asked why I would. I asked how the pee was supposed to come out if a tampon was in there and that's when I got informed about my vagina

[TaraRae82]

It really is amazing how perfectly our bodies are made and yet how little we know about them!

[pazerific]

tararae--you are so right! when i would try to explain fertility stuff (CM, CP, LP etc) my two bffs (who each have a child) they were totally clueless! it's funny to think i didn't really know about any of it until this go at TTC#2 either.

Originally Posted by Sunshine4004

What kind of test did you use to get an early BFP? I am debating if I want to try to test tomorrow or not. Thanks!

i used the ones from the dollar store. they're sensitive up to 25mlu (or whatever that particular incrament is). it technically wasn't an early bfp for me though becuase i got it at 11dpo, but af always shows up after 10dpo. really it's all splitting hairs though. i hope you all don't mind me hanging around today. until i get the official blood test results it's all kinda only a half-reality for me.

[TaraRae82]

Happy to have you around to share wisdom paz! I'm really anxious to test tomorrow. I have the equate brand tests screaming my name. I'd test today (yes, it's only 9dpo) but I really want FMU. LOL Equate measures 25mIU as well.

[Carlin]

Well, I'm seriously in full on paranoia mode. I'm now at cd 31. Last cycle was 28 days, but I'm seriously convinced that making any plans to test etc. will bring af on immediately. If I go out and buy some tests I'm sure af will start! I haven't even posted all day for the same reason.

Current plan is to test next Tuesday if af hasn't shown up yet. If I ovulated this month it was around cd 21/22, and I want to wait until 14 dpo for the best chance of a bfp right away. If I had any tests in the house I'd test tomorrow, but I don't, so it's easier to force myself to wait.

Tara... good luck tomorrow...fingers crossed for a bfp.
Paz... of course we don't mind having you around. Although hopefully we'll all get to hang out in the July ddc soon!

[Erlaine]

Good luck Carlin! I hear you about testing bringing on af, it seems that has happened to me multiple times. Exercising patience is so hard...good luck resisting the peestick!

[xixstar]

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

It really is amazing how perfectly our bodies are made and yet how little we know about them!

The author of TCOYF, Toni Weschler, recently came out with a book called Cycle Savvy geared toward teen girls to help them actually learn something about their bodies. I already put it on my book shopping list (dd is 12, so we're getting there) and am glad to have such a useful resource available for a younger audience because it is sad how much many women don't know about their own bodies!

[countrybound]

Originally Posted by pazerific

i hope you all don't mind me hanging around today. until i get the official blood test results it's all kinda only a half-reality for me.

Not at all... glad to have you here!!

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

. I'd test today (yes, it's only 9dpo) but I really want FMU. LOL Equate measures 25mIU as well.

Can't wait to see the results tomorrow! Sending you lots of and hoping for a

Originally Posted by Carlin

Current plan is to test next Tuesday if af hasn't shown up yet. If I ovulated this month it was around cd 21/22, and I want to wait until 14 dpo for the best chance of a bfp right away. If I had any tests in the house I'd test tomorrow, but I don't, so it's easier to force myself to wait.

X Crossing my firnders that AF doesn't show X

Originally Posted by xixstar

The author of TCOYF, Toni Weschler, recently came out with a book called Cycle Savvy geared toward teen girls to help them actually learn something about their bodies. I already put it on my book shopping list (dd is 12, so we're getting there) and am glad to have such a useful resource available for a younger audience because it is sad how much many women don't know about their own bodies!

I wish they had a book like that out for me as a teen.

[devilish_fetish]

TMI: We're both very direct people, so I can't really relate. I guess I just lucked out. DH has always asked or I've told him about EVERYTHING going on. Before we were doing ivf, if I didn't tell him when I was about to o or when af was due, he'd ask. Which has been a huge help to keep up with charting and all of my meds and appointments! I guess we're both more like Filadeluna's dh! We just don't get embarrassed easily, or have any of the "tmi" restrictions with each other. He'll get calls at work telling him that I'm constipated, or have A LOT of ewcm, and he'll tell me he's been peeing way too much! but everyone's different.
Sex: As far as sex, I'm an abomination among women. I always want it! if it's been more than a few days, I wake him up and jump his bones! He does the same to me, so it seems we're evenly matched! . Confidants: We're blessed with friends that get it as much as us, so that's who we talk to about it (among other tmi stuff).

If we get pg from this ivf cycle, we're telling both of our parents on Christmas. We already have it all planned out. We bought Tiffany rattles for them that we're having engraved with "to grandma and grandpa", that we'll be giving both of them at the same time. DH got me a rattle for myself, that I have to find a display for : Some of our close friends know we're doing ivf, so we'll tell them after embryo transfer. They've known every step we've been taking, even if they don't understand it! We'll be the first among our close friends to have kids, so they don't even understand the DESIRE to be pg! But they're as supportive as they can be.
Testing: We do our embryo transfer on sat or mon (the 3rd or the 5th), so I'm going to start testing somewhere around the 10th. Our beta is the 15th, but I want to know BEFORE I go in, ykwim? I plan on buying dollar store hpts. Any reason to splurge on FRER?

It's fun to see how different we all are, but how much we still have in common!

[Sunshine4004]

Originally Posted by pazerific

i used the ones from the dollar store. they're sensitive up to 25mlu (or whatever that particular incrament is). it technically wasn't an early bfp for me though becuase i got it at 11dpo, but af always shows up after 10dpo. really it's all splitting hairs though. i hope you all don't mind me hanging around today. until i get the official blood test results it's all kinda only a half-reality for me.

paz - that is still pretty early for a BFP! I didn't get mine until 14dpo and I had begun testing at 10dpo. I tested this morning at 10dpo with a $Tree test and got a BFN. I was not shocked nor overly disappointed since my temp looked really good. Please hang out as long as you would like! We are thrilled to have you!

Originally Posted by TaraRae82

I'm really anxious to test tomorrow. I have the equate brand tests screaming my name. I'd test today (yes, it's only 9dpo) but I really want FMU. LOL Equate measures 25mIU as well.

Tara - How did the testing go?!?!?!? BFN for me but that is okay. It is still early.

Originally Posted by devilish_fetish

if I didn't tell him when I was about to o or when af was due, he'd ask. Which has been a huge help to keep up with charting and all of my meds and appointments!

....I plan on buying dollar store hpts. Any reason to splurge on FRER?

devilish_fetish - My DH is the same way. He asks to see my chart and wants to know when I think I will o and when AF is due. I swear by $Tree tests but I know on another thread someone got a BFP at 9dpo with an FRER. I guess it depends on how willing you are to wait a couple more days before testing.