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post #161 of 270
Yum.. thanks for the recipies Kavita! We pressure cooked a bunch of pumpkin up today, made pumpkin bisque, toasted pumpkin seeds, and I'll probably make pie and muffins and maybe even bread when I come back from dropping the kids off at my parents tomorrow.

Gunter - so are you saying now that you are in the states and now that it's not thankveganing you aren't craving the foods you were? Glad your mw apt went so well. I had my first at 20 1/2 wks. I totally doubt anyone thinks down on you for waiting until now. I'm measuring small, which is different (along with a whole list of other pg symptoms) than my last two pregnancies. Very different. How true is the whole gender of the baby and pregnancy symptom correlation? Sigh. I don't want to "know" but I do, but since I'm not having an ultrasound it doesn't even matter. OTOH, if I was having a girl, I'd soooo be into knitting girly stuff right now.
post #162 of 270
New toddler behaviour alert!!! (And advice welcomed...)

Neela has a new phrase when she's feeling angry or frustrated "I feel like being mean" or "I want to be mean to you now". It ususally happens when we're transitioning between things: when dad comes home, if a friend arrives, when we first get somewhere, etc.

I'm so proud of her for recognizing the feeling and naming it (and for warning us!), but kind of at a loss for dealing with it. My usual "time in"-type reaction of sitting down with her and talking about what's happening, how she's feeling, what she can do to deal with it seems to get her more worked up. Yesterday when I tried to talk with her she told me "I'm going to push you away". Again, amazing self-control to warn me instead of just shoving. But mean Neela is kind of scary- she yells it and gets a really intense look.

My instinct is to ask her to go to be by herself until she isn't feeling mean. Not in a punitive time out kind of way, but just to give her space to be mean in a safe place where nobody gets hurt. In the same way that we hit and throw pillows instead of hurting people. Any other suggestions?
post #163 of 270
Mel, have you tried asking her what she needs to not feel mean anymore? I don't have any experience with this but I think that's what I'd do if Rowan told me she was feeling mean. And yeah, wow that's a lot of self-control for a 2-year-old!
post #164 of 270
Mel-
i've just frankly replied something like that if you feel you need to be mean, be mean to your pillow, not to mommy. It's okay to hit certain things, it's never okay to hit people.
I'll also just reaffirm that I understand they are experiencing emotions they don't understand, and by reassuring them that those emotions are normal it helps them deal with them: "I feel like being mean too sometimes. That's when I need a minute to myself. " or "you're feeling frustrated. I get frustrated too sometimes."
We do a lot of "it's okay to feel ____, it's not okay to act _____ when you feel like that. Here's something else we can do" It didn't really "work" at first but Willem is finally getting to a stage where we'll be able to briefly talk through whatever is bothering him. If I let him know what he says and feels is important we can avoid a meltdown. It's taken a while to get to that place.
HTH, but I think I just gave you a bunch of examples of stuff you're probably already doing. I know that we went through a (long) stage where it worked, then it didn't, now it's working again.

Have you tried talking to her about it when she's feeling fine? give her ideas as to why she feels mean when she does? Transitioning seems to be triggering it. Maybe she wasn't ready to move on to the next thing when she did (or someone came in and changed the environment she was quite comfortable in).
post #165 of 270
Wow, Mel, Neela is an amazing child! Wish I had advice for you....

Monique, my pg with Ella was very different, obviously she was still a girl like them, but she is quite a different girl. I had ms all day, for quite a long time with her. I went right to my EDD, where my two older girls were both a couple weeks early. My mom insists I carried her differently. My co-worker was so certain I was going to have a boy (she even dreamed it) that when my mom called to tell her Ella was born, my mom said "Sharon had a girl!" and my friend said "Oh no!" So you just never know.....

Kavita, thanks for sharing - now I must bake!!

Spughy, we just do a breast, since we are only a few, can I still brine it?

DiD - wishing you purple ties! Hope all your planning goes smoothly....
post #166 of 270
Yup Sharon, breasts are much, much juicier and tastier when brined. TURKEY breasts. Won't do much for yours.
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Mel, do you have to say anything if Neela tells you she feels mean? Can't you just acknowledge it with a gentle uh-huh, or repeat what she's said so that she knows you've listened to her? Telling you that she feels like being mean is a bit different from sticking a fork in your hand, y'know?
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Mel, do you have to say anything if Neela tells you she feels mean? Can't you just acknowledge it with a gentle uh-huh, or repeat what she's said so that she knows you've listened to her? Telling you that she feels like being mean is a bit different from sticking a fork in your hand, y'know?
My gentle acknowledgment resulted in her getting in my face and saying it louder- like she really, really needed me to pay more attention. I talked with her about it last night when she was not feeling mean, and she told me that she feels very shy. Which makes sense for a lot of the situations where she's said that. We talked about some strategies for dealing with shyness, so hopefully it helps. And it makes sense to me, since she's totally quit the face burying shy behaviour that she used to do, but has been known to yell "Don't say hi to me" to random friendly strangers. Somehow she has the idea that she needs to respond to everyone who speaks to her, and she's usually pretty extroverted. I'm teaching her that ignoring strangers that talk to her is totally okay, and that when new people/friends arrive that it's fine to take some time before talking to them.

Susannah are you okay?
post #170 of 270
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Susannah are you okay?
I do hope so!!
post #171 of 270
Happy Birthday to my little Rowan-bug! I can't believe she's 2. Well I can, she acts quite a bit older than my "in my head" version of 2 most of the time. But she's REALLY 2! DH said to me this morning, "does it feel like 2 years?" and it most certainly does not. This last year especially has flown by.

And... we made it to 2 years nursing! I feel very proud of us. I am even managing to lose weight now - and I know my supply has dropped some more - but she still loves her boobies. (I put on pants yesterday that I haven't worn in about a year, and they fit. More or less. ) I got a little tear in my eye this morning, while I was nursing my 2 year old, thinking back to the panic and horror I felt when my milk didn't come in, and the pain and suffering (and cruel irony) of the many bouts of mastitis, and that biting phase, and now all the stress of nursing is officially gone - 2 was my "magic" age - as in, as long as I can nurse her til she's 2 I'm ok with it - and I can just treasure every nursing session. Except those ones at 5:35 am (seriously, it's like she's got a digital clock implanted in her brain) when her little hands wiggle back and forth under my armpit and I find that I didn't trim her nails as perfectly as I thought.

DH and I put together a homemade playdough set for her - we bought cookie cutters, but scavenged an old small rolling pin and I made some playdough. (So easy! Why do people (and I'm guilty of this too) buy the stuff???) Last night I made carrot cake cupcakes for her too, to have at grandma & grandpa's today (to forestall grandma making something nasty from cake mix). And one of her aunts sent a toy that is plastic and battery-operated but actually really, really cool, and the g'parents and her uncle got her lots more books, and I just picked up a parcel from my mom for her and I don't know what's in it yet. She's an excited little girl today, but the REAL treat apparently is the ice cream we picked up at the store this morning. (Yeah, I should have made some myself... jeez I'm such a slacker )

Anyway, we are having a little party tomorrow for a couple of her friends and I need to clean up and get some dinner happening.

Susannah - hope everything's all right? Drive-by deleted posts always worry me. in case you need it!

Oh and Helen, WHY couldn't you have posted the tip about the quince a few days earlier when I had a roasting chicken in the fridge???? . I've had a couple quinces sitting on my counter having an argument about whether or not they want to be jelly, and looking for a destiny more interesting... in the end all but one ended up in the cupcakes as carrot substitute.
post #172 of 270
Re: ties - when I needed to find a perfectly "Caronlina Blue" tie for Killy for a wedding last spring I found one at Burlington Coat Factory - they actually had a huge selection and were quite inexpensive. Good luck!
post #173 of 270
Mel: gotcha, she's doing an Isaac, but with considerably more maturity and EQ than he possesses. If it gets bad enough that you don't feel happy about riding it out, it could be worth taking a look at the Chicory profile from the bach flower remedies: it's helped Isaac take his edge off a lot.

Susannah

Spughy, you know what the single best use for a quince is? A pomander. Seriously. They're good in crumbles and jellies, but the single most fantastic thing you can do with it (apart from sticking it in a bowl in your living room and letting it rot, which makes the whole house smell gorgeous) is pomanderising it. And nobody else will have one

Happy Birthday Rowan!!!
post #174 of 270
I just remembered that there is a children's formalwear shop in the mall. Yeah! So now all I have to do is A) Go there. and B) Find a place to buy ties for Jim and his two guys.
post #175 of 270
Happy Birthday Rowan!!! and congrats on the weight loss Spughy . . . I swear I will catch up one of these days! (when I stop my insane Thanksgiving cooking frenzy!)
post #176 of 270
We're off today! Yay!

I'm loving this holiday food discussion. Two of my students are doing their semester projects on the 100-mile diet, which has inspired me to be more vigilant about getting locally grown food, so our Thanksgiving is heavy on squash. Of course, there are a lot of persimmons, too, and that's pretty delicious. Though the toddler eats them two at a time several times a day, so poopy diaper changes have tripled in the past week. Oh, AND, this morning I discovered that a handful of discarded fava beans have sprouted in my compost pile; I have not idea what to do with fava beans, but I went ahead and lifted them and replanted them in the garden, so we'll see what becomes of that.

It's back to sunny and warm here. So much for sweater weather.
post #177 of 270
Kavita - how'd your pumpkin pie go? I made mine from fresh pumpkin (steamed in the pressure cooker then cooled in the fridge, drained, and cooked down on the stove) and I substituted half the sugar for sucanat and half the milk for light cream (because I only had reduced fat milk). I also used an arrowhead mills granola crust (but only because the cranberry upside down cake - I substituted a few healthier ingredients- and the bavarian apple torte I made had lots of butter in them). I had leftover pie filling so I mixed it into a package of organic cornmeal muffin mix, added tangerine zest and dried cranberries and made muffins too!

Besides the desserts I'm making this for the kids and their cousins to enjoy!!
post #178 of 270
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Kavita - how'd your pumpkin pie go? I made mine from fresh pumpkin (steamed in the pressure cooker then cooled in the fridge, drained, and cooked down on the stove) and I substituted half the sugar for sucanat and half the milk for light cream (because I only had reduced fat milk). I also used an arrowhead mills granola crust (but only because the cranberry upside down cake - I substituted a few healthier ingredients- and the bavarian apple torte I made had lots of butter in them). I had leftover pie filling so I mixed it into a package of organic cornmeal muffin mix, added tangerine zest and dried cranberries and made muffins too!

Besides the desserts I'm making this for the kids and their cousins to enjoy!!

That turkey thing looks so cute!!!!

Whaddya mean, how "did" the pie go--it's still going! AAACK! I didn't get as much done yesterday and today as I'd hoped thus far, so my pumpkins are still cooking in the oven as we speak and the crusts are not done. I'm currently in Culinary Panic Mode, so of course, as I got onto the computer to look up a recipe for one of the things I'm making, I'm procrastinating by getting on MDC.

It'll all work out in the end!
post #179 of 270
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Susannah are you okay?
Yes, sorry about the drive by posting. Thanks for the love and hugs, mamas. :

The truth is I visited our group right after DP said something really hurtful, so I was in a bad mood. Something I read here bothered me and I posted a response and then quickly decided that I admire and value the mama who I was responding to so much, and I wasn't really responding to her post but to my anger at DP. Make sense? It's okay if it doesn't make sense, I already know I'm crazy

Thanks again so much, you gals just made my day :
post #180 of 270
Susannah
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