So, while Finley napped and nursed, I had the joy of reading the several pages of our thread and catching up. What an impressively domestic group of mamas this is!
Spughy, I cannot believe all that you did in one day...like Gunter said, that would take me about a month, with no toddler, to accomplish. Whew! Sounds like Rowan's birthday was adorable, too.
Helen, Happy Birthday Day, and Skye, Happy Birthday!!! Hope the rest of the day, after the big wee in the bed, was delightful. How's the baby in your belly feeling? Or you, that is
I'm going to read your birth story when I get another chunk of time.
Monique, I hope you got some sleep today! And I'm so sorry to hear about your mom and your trip with your family. Sounds similarly stressful to mine.
QofC, sorry about the cats! I know it was ages ago, but your pictures of Ellie's birthday are just adorable!!!
Susannah, I'm glad you are feeling better,
And Mama Fern, I'm glad you're getting help from family and friends, financially. What an exciting time this is for you..so soon!
Amy, how was Texas? Your house is stunning...I'm so impressed by how quickly and elegantly you turned your house into such a lovely home.
Mel, Neela sounds too cute for words!
Kavita, so sorry about your turkey. Sounds like everything else was really delicious, though. I hope you and Ella feel better soon!
DiD, did you find ties? Did you get your dress fitted? Sorry you are dealing with these added stresses. Soon, the big day will be here, and it will be beautiful, and your new life together with your beloved is all that will matter.
Kaspirant, how are you guys? This week is crazy and then I'll be in touch to try to meet up again.
I'm surely forgetting someone, and my apologies! I'll be back in the loop, and can catch up further.
So we just got back from FL Saturday night, and the actual travelling wasn't so bad actually. Finley was so calm and happy in the airport and in the plane. And he actually slept on both trips, so that was a blessing. As for being in FL, he was great, too...just, again, not thrilled to be left with my parents, so we didn't leave him with them for more than 20 minutes. He loved playing with them, though, when they were interested in playing with him, and while we were around.
We have not been forcing manners on him, and he has, on his own, learned to say "Thank you" almost every time it would be deemed, and it's completely heartfelt and voluntary and full of meaning. He hasn't caught on so well with "please", and I just haven't pushed the issue, trusting (and hoping) that he'll catch on in time. Does anyone else go this route? I just have a hard time hearing moms constantly telling their kids, "what do you say?", and "say please", etc, etc (hope I am not offending anyone here) but it somehow rubs me the wrong way. And perhaps it's also connected to my own upbringing, where I was ignored until/unless I said "Yes, Ma'am", "No, Sir"; manners were a HUGE part of my life, in a very forced unnatural sort of way. At the same time, especially when I'm around my family, I cringe a bit when Finley doesn't say please (which is most of the time), and with his limited verbal skills, he sounds so demanding. Anyone have any input/assurance here?
As for my experience at home, it was pretty awful. But the good thing is that I feel like I have come to yet another level of clarity about my parents, who they are, and what they are in my life...what our relationship is, the reality of it, and being okay with that, or trying to be....and another level of growth for myself. I found myself feeling pretty angry a lot of the time, and having a hard time covering it, and that was hard for me to even accept in myself. I hate that I do feel anger, but I suppose I have to just feel it in order to move past it. The anger is subsiding, though, into something more of a processing nature, and just a reaction, that I think is carrying me through and above it.
That little rant probably made no sense at all! But, for those of you who remember, I've had a continuous struggle with my parents, each trip causing quite a bit of pain. And this last one seemed to go to a new level, that gave me a new perspective and clarity. One thing is for sure: I really am the black sheep of the family.
On a sort of MDC note, each trip to my parent's, I'm more aware of something in their lifestyle, which used to be the norm to me, all I knew, and is becoming stranger and stranger to me, as I strive to become more and more natural and green in my lifestyle, although I have very far to go. For example, I can barely tolerate any of the food my mom has or prepares (all fake food, really just "edibles", nothing organic, etc). This last time, I was painfully aware of how often they use papertowels (I have been consciously trying to use them scantly at home, relying almost always on cloth), and the food was even more intolerable to me. I'm relieved to be home and eating (relatively) well and real food again.
And Gunter, you'd be proud to know, I have barely touched meat in the past few months, only about five times, and I feel like I am closer and closer to becoming an official vegetarian. I don't know if I can make the leap to vegan
:, but I do admire it, and am learning more and more...how cruel even the dairy industry is to animals. I'm just taking things one step at a time.
Ok, that's enough rambling from me at the moment!
Thinking of you lovely ladies, and so glad you all had such good thanksgivings, for the most part.
PS--The best part of our trip was the wonderful news that my brother and SIL are expecting a wee one!!! Finley will have his first cousin!
PPS--I'm 28 tomorrow. It feels so OLD, this one.
PPPS--I'm shooting the one episode that was written before the strike on Wednesday...only have two lines for this first episode, but am ecstatic nonetheless!