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post #41 of 153
Lol! Aww that's good stuff right there.

A good friend was hospitalized the other day quite unexpectedly, so we've been a bit busy trying to help with child care and support. It was fun though, and we got to play in the leaves.

Dd is planning her upcoming bday party, and her nose piercing! She's excited and scared, understandably. What a wonderful young woman she is becoming right before my eyes. So so blessed by her.

We're also doing a lapbook on the Civil war. It's a pretty neat concept.
post #42 of 153
YAY! Tell your nose-piercing girl "Happy Birthday!!" and "GOOD LUCK!" with the piercing--from a nose-pierced mama

Dana
Unschooling mama to Lauren, 15, Otto, 9.5, and new little one due in May!
post #43 of 153
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Originally Posted by UnschoolnMa View Post
Lol! Aww that's good stuff right there.

A good friend was hospitalized the other day quite unexpectedly, so we've been a bit busy trying to help with child care and support. It was fun though, and we got to play in the leaves.

Dd is planning her upcoming bday party, and her nose piercing! She's excited and scared, understandably. What a wonderful young woman she is becoming right before my eyes. So so blessed by her.

We're also doing a lapbook on the Civil war. It's a pretty neat concept.
cool. yay for the nose piercing!
post #44 of 153
That Uranus bit is hilarious!

UnSchoolnMa: awww, that's so sweet about your dd. Tell us how the piercing goes!

I looked up lapbooks and the look fun!

DD is into writing poetry right now. And reading and drawing. Those are big right now.

Also, a few nights ago, she had me make tiny braids in her hair and we plan to take it down tonight to see how wavy it is. Ah, the simple things in life keep us entertained.
post #45 of 153
Hey everyone

We have been struggling (ok.....maybe just me) with how this all works. I feel like I have been thrown in a meat grinder with various beliefs and I can not seem to get my mind clear enough to get this all to "work"

I am trying so hard. Maybe too hard. I don't know. But I am not happy right now with how things are. I need a big change.

I feel like I am failing at the whole concept of unschooling.
post #46 of 153
Hi everyone! I love reading these threads - seeing what everyone is up to.

Will come back to this thread later. Indian cooking on the stove!
post #47 of 153
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Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
uranus is a planet..."
she touched her ass and said "my anus is a planet??"

:
That´s priceless, Majikfaerie!!!
post #48 of 153
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Originally Posted by AngelBee View Post
Hey everyone

We have been struggling (ok.....maybe just me) with how this all works. I feel like I have been thrown in a meat grinder with various beliefs and I can not seem to get my mind clear enough to get this all to "work"

I am trying so hard. Maybe too hard. I don't know. But I am not happy right now with how things are. I need a big change.

I feel like I am failing at the whole concept of unschooling.


Its hard for me at times too....being raised to go to school, eat when they tell you, pee when they allow you to, study what THEY want you to....i had to deschool MYSELF first lol. I am a wee bit nervous still about the curriculum for our state--we are required to submit a curriculum and at the end submit examples of the progress we have made. I am a little nervous because i dont have proof for EVERYTHING...but then again, they dont need everything. Just bits a pieces to give a timeline. But to make myself feel better, i went through the homeschooling year by year book and checked off what they have learned already, proof or no proof. You know through discussion, reading, and museums, we have covered about 90% already. The only thing lacking is a bit of history that THEY want to see..such as Aztecs and China things. So while going through our "curriculum" my son asked what Aztecs were so we looked it up. He decided on his own that he wanted to build a whole entire Aztec empire complete with tin foil spanish conquistadors fighting against the wild aztecs. its coming along great lol hes done it HIMSELF completely! So i have to sit back and say. wow, he totally did this on his own! I didnt tell him he HAD to and that it was mandatory. I simply said i wonder if the state will want us to show them this. and he asked. and I told.

Ok have to run, miso soup on the stove, ds wants some. he is busy with origami for about 4 hours so far today. The girls had an interactive globe that tells them the countries and they can fly in the airplane and learn different languages. cool!
post #49 of 153
Thank you doulajewla

Honestly.....I do not think my kids are interested in anything.

They do not even know how to play outside

They are always bored but do not seem to like my suggestions.

Dom loves Xbox. I can not stand it anymore. Abby and Angelo.......just pull stuff out. No really rhyme or reason. Angelo is pulling out wet wipes right now.

I am becoming a guilting/threatening/evil mom.

Oh....and they woke Mylee (who JUST went down for a nap) by screaming and jumping on the very bed she got laid down on. ANd that was Dom......my nearly 8 year old.

I feel guilty coming here and venting but I feel so alone. My family treats the kids like they are dogs in training. I have no support for the lifestyle I am trying to creat for them.

I don't even feel like I have THEIR support.....my kids. They are making this so hard for me.
post #50 of 153
wow, you sound just like us!!!!

I have no support either. I cant even tell the homeschooling group we belong to that we unschool. BUT i have to do what is right for us.

If you dont want the xbox, hide it. My BIL used to live here and had xbox and all that kind of stuff...and I made rules, dont play it unless the kids are asleep. Sometimes we'd come home and he'd be playing it and the kids would be like woooo what is that? lol...then they wanted to play. When BIL moved out, so did the games. he left some here, but they are hidden behind the tv and the kids never ask about them. If you surround them with nothing but books, artsy craftsy stuff, toys, and educational toys, they will learn on their own. Just put it out there. Let them do it let them discover, they do! My rule is no tv unless later in the week and it has to be educational or if during the week something really good is on they can watch it if its educational....and no video games, limited computer, unless they want to do something to do with learning (a learning game is ok for example, but limited).

my 9 y/o does things like that too, waking the baby. I scream too, ill admit it. I never hit...but man i can scream. Thats one thing I dont like about my parenting but I am not perfect. I try. I take rescue remedy alot.

DONT feel guilty coming here! You need support. THis is the ONLY place i get mine
post #51 of 153
AngelBee, I am so sorry you are having such a hard time right now. Your last post made me think about how as unschoolers we are actually allowed to "do nothing" whenever we want - rather than wait for the holidays!

We have gone through so many phases when we basically just hang out. Then a busy phase suddenly comes along and there´s loads of activity.

...oh AngelBee, I wanted to write a longer post, but now ds is desperate for the computer!

I hope you find a way to find peace in your days very soon.
Much love and many hugs to you.
post #52 of 153
Just thought I would share with you something that drives us all nuts.... :
http://mazefrenzy.com/
post #53 of 153
We had a family meeting (me and kids) and I discussed my feelings with them honestly.

We came up with alot of solutions and skipped some areas that we did not know the answers to yet.

So far....

Discussed and came up with an agreement for:

Family Check in daily (with whoever is home)
Family Meeting Once a week with all members

Video Games 2 hours a day (can save up time for up to 4 hours ) Does not include family events where we use video games….such as karaoke, Wii, or Zuma challenges

Listening: asked once; receive a warning and asked 2nd time; if does not listen…goes to time out for one minute per year of age

Outdoor Play for one hour a day

Need to eat better. More veggie snacks and healthier meals

Art free play every M, W, F for 2 hours (finger paints, water colors, crafts, sewing, play dough, etc with mom’s assistance)


Still to be discussed later:

Going to the park with snacks so mom can relax (I do not care for the park )

Quite time daily

Touching other people's stuff

Cleaning up

Daily Routine

Having chore charts

Consequences for making messes and how to deal with them


This was mostly thought up by the kids. They are so smart!
post #54 of 153

Didnt know if this needed its own thread....

I didnt know if I should have posted this in its own thread...but ill ask here.

My ds is 9 and we believe he is on the spectrum or PDD-NOS kind of stuff. Not very badly though...very mild. Some flapping, shrieks, humming...occasionally eye rolling and blinking....and then the meltdowns. Sometimes he cant find the right words and gets mixed up, but before he blows up i help him with the right words. He is very smart.

I asked for advice from a homeschooling friend. She does not know we unschool. She was saying to get him tested (which we are--but only so I can learn how to be a better mother to him--hes very intense at times) and get this get that....i dont want to send him to school, he is learning great here. But maybe it would be nice to have someone come into the home to help out with him. Someone who can see the meltdowns and help me help him. But i cant get that unless i get a dx, ok thats fine...but then once he's in the "system" wont they be more strict about his "lesson plan"? right now he learns fine unschooling...but if hes in the system, I wonder if I will have to prove EVERYTHING and if it will be more restrictive. Anyone have any experience with this? thanks!
post #55 of 153
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Originally Posted by AngelBee View Post
Hey everyone

We have been struggling (ok.....maybe just me) with how this all works. I feel like I have been thrown in a meat grinder with various beliefs and I can not seem to get my mind clear enough to get this all to "work"

I am trying so hard. Maybe too hard. I don't know. But I am not happy right now with how things are. I need a big change.

I feel like I am failing at the whole concept of unschooling.
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Originally Posted by AngelBee View Post
Thank you doulajewla

Honestly.....I do not think my kids are interested in anything.

They do not even know how to play outside

They are always bored but do not seem to like my suggestions.

Dom loves Xbox. I can not stand it anymore. Abby and Angelo.......just pull stuff out. No really rhyme or reason. Angelo is pulling out wet wipes right now.

I am becoming a guilting/threatening/evil mom.

Oh....and they woke Mylee (who JUST went down for a nap) by screaming and jumping on the very bed she got laid down on. ANd that was Dom......my nearly 8 year old.

I feel guilty coming here and venting but I feel so alone. My family treats the kids like they are dogs in training. I have no support for the lifestyle I am trying to creat for them.

I don't even feel like I have THEIR support.....my kids. They are making this so hard for me.

I read that your family came up with a plan, I hope it works for you. I was just wondering how long you've been unschooling for.
(forgive me if you've posted on old threads... I just cant keep track)
I believe its totally normal for people, even children to have phases of wanting to do lots and lots of stuff that can look like "nothing" to certain eyes.
my advice; just chill a bit, dont be so hard on yourself.
Its normal for kids to want to be on the xbox (or whatever game) "all the time". Especially if they're coming out of a school environment.
For me, to tell my child their desire to play XYZ is bad, its telling the child their interests / desires are bad, and ultimately, that they are bad.
kids learn from everything. even video games.

now, I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, quite the opposite. i just believe that you would feel better if you stopped beating yourself up over the children not doing something that looks productive, and just love them how they are.

about the kids pulling stuff out and waking the baby, etc... well, disrespectful stuff is a different kettle of fish. in our home, we have a rule: anything goes as long as its with respect. We talk a lot about what is respectful and what isnt, and why.

We talk about wasting things, and at length about the value of stuff, where our money comes from, how things are produced, what happens to our trash, the planet, stuff like that. and I make an effort to see that when my child is doing something that's interesting to her, its not necessarily wasting. its learning.

if your DCs pull out all the wet-wipes, I'd suggest getting some cheap-a$$ wipes, or ones you can put back in the container, or some similar replacement, and let them at it. and I'd talk a lot about what wet wipes are, where they come from, how they're made. read the label and google the ingredients (dont actually google the ingredients of wet wipes if you plan to keep wiping your baby's butt with them ), look into where the fibre comes from, the packaging, how much they cost.

obviously I dont mean giving a lecture, but engage your kids, show an interest in what they're interested in. even if its wet-wipes.
I hope all that makes sense. I'm not feeling particularly coherent right now, and I mean all this in a very kind and friendly voice.

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Originally Posted by pia View Post
Just thought I would share with you something that drives us all nuts.... :
http://mazefrenzy.com/
pia, you are evil. pure evil.

actually, I couldnt play this coz I have a laptop with one of those stupid laptop mouses. but I tried it on dp's thinkpad,which has a touchpoint mouse, and I did better. If only I could stop!
post #56 of 153
doulajewla
I honestly dont know... but no doubt it depends what state you are in as to whether you need to show documentation.
post #57 of 153
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Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
pia, you are evil. pure evil.

actually, I couldnt play this coz I have a laptop with one of those stupid laptop mouses. but I tried it on dp's thinkpad,which has a touchpoint mouse, and I did better. If only I could stop!
I know!

I spent a whole friggin day trying to do it - no luck....got to the last wheel and had to start over. :
Then I tried this one ...
http://www.mazefrenzy.com/mazefrenzy2.php (you said it, Majikfaerie, evil!)
...and I managed much faster - maybe half a day.
I just couldn´t settle till I had managed the first one, so just had to go back, try for another half day - and did it!

But it´s totally :::
post #58 of 153
Yeah we have to show documentation...the state likes to get examples of their progress through the year. which is frustrating on its own. I want to just not get any services for my son, though its hard.
post #59 of 153

learning math

:

I would consider ourselves relaxed homeschoolers / unschoolers.

Our oldest just turned 6 and said he wants to be in first grade and he wants to learn math. I'm still puzzling over where he learned the word math.

I tried explaining to him that grades were a concept of the public school and that they didn't really mean anything. "Okay, Mom. Can I say I'm in first grade?"

We got into a conversation about how he does math all the time, but he wants a workbook type of deal. I've read through some of the math sticky and think I'm going to buy Singapore, because it's the cheapest and looks like a comic book. :

I'm feeling very wishy-washy about the whole thing. I don't want to squelch his desire to learn, but then again I need to honor his request. And if he doesn't like the book then there is always e-bay.
post #60 of 153
Workbooks can be so fun! Dd enjoys them quite a bit actually. I think he's into it there is nothing wrong with him using them. Have fun finding one that he really likes.
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