Originally Posted by AngelBee
We have been struggling (ok.....maybe just me) with how this all works. I feel like I have been thrown in a meat grinder with various beliefs and I can not seem to get my mind clear enough to get this all to "work"
I am trying so hard. Maybe too hard. I don't know. But I am not happy right now with how things are. I need a big change.
I feel like I am failing at the whole concept of unschooling.
Originally Posted by AngelBee
Thank you doulajewla
Honestly.....I do not think my kids are interested in anything.
They do not even know how to play outside
They are always bored but do not seem to like my suggestions.
Dom loves Xbox. I can not stand it anymore. Abby and Angelo.......just pull stuff out. No really rhyme or reason. Angelo is pulling out wet wipes right now.
I am becoming a guilting/threatening/evil mom.
Oh....and they woke Mylee (who JUST went down for a nap) by screaming and jumping on the very bed she got laid down on. ANd that was Dom......my nearly 8 year old.
I feel guilty coming here and venting but I feel so alone. My family treats the kids like they are dogs in training. I have no support for the lifestyle I am trying to creat for them.
I don't even feel like I have THEIR support.....my kids. They are making this so hard for me.
I read that your family came up with a plan, I hope it works for you. I was just wondering how long you've been unschooling for.
(forgive me if you've posted on old threads... I just cant keep track)
I believe its totally normal for people, even children to have phases of wanting to do lots and lots of stuff that can look like "nothing" to certain eyes.
my advice; just chill a bit, dont be so hard on yourself.
Its normal for kids to want to be on the xbox (or whatever game) "all the time". Especially if they're coming out of a school environment.
For me, to tell my child their desire to play XYZ is bad, its telling the child their interests / desires are bad, and ultimately, that they are bad.
kids learn from everything. even video games.
now, I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, quite the opposite. i just believe that you would feel better if you stopped beating yourself up over the children not doing something that looks productive, and just love them how they are.
about the kids pulling stuff out and waking the baby, etc... well, disrespectful stuff is a different kettle of fish. in our home, we have a rule: anything goes as long as its with respect. We talk a lot about what is respectful and what isnt, and why.
We talk about wasting things, and at length about the value of stuff, where our money comes from, how things are produced, what happens to our trash, the planet, stuff like that. and I make an effort to see that when my child is doing something that's interesting to her, its not necessarily wasting
. its learning.
if your DCs pull out all the wet-wipes, I'd suggest getting some cheap-a$$ wipes, or ones you can put back in the container, or some similar replacement, and let them at it. and I'd talk a lot about what wet wipes are, where they come from, how they're made. read the label and google the ingredients (dont actually google the ingredients of wet wipes if you plan to keep wiping your baby's butt with them
), look into where the fibre comes from, the packaging, how much they cost.
obviously I dont mean giving a lecture, but engage your kids, show an interest in what they're interested in. even if its wet-wipes.
I hope all that makes sense. I'm not feeling particularly coherent right now, and I mean all this in a very kind and friendly voice.
Originally Posted by pia
pia, you are evil. pure evil.
actually, I couldnt play this coz I have a laptop with one of those stupid laptop mouses. but I tried it on dp's thinkpad,which has a touchpoint mouse, and I did better. If only I could stop!