Postdates complaining thread

[aylaanne]

So, there's quite a few of us still pregnant. And flipping to the November board isn't as satisfying, since most of them still have plenty of time left. Anyone want to whine about being postdates with me?

I've had more than one person call for the sole reason of discovering whether or not I was still pregnant. I feel like setting up one of those automated things. "Thank you for calling. Ayla is still pregnant. If that is not why you called, press 1. Otherwise, leave a message with your number and we'll call you when there's a baby. We promise."

I'm also tired of having fall allergies and not being able to take my allergy medication.

And I put all my maternity clothes in the dryer today, even though that's a no-no, because dammit if I can only wear six outfits, I don't want to have to wait three days.

Anyone else?

[mittendrin]

I am complaining. I feel great, which is as discouraging because it seems my body could go like this forever but my mind can't.
I am only 3 days past my EDD and it's ridiculous how impatient I am. Not even "late" yet. Grrrr!

[HarperRose]

Complain away! You're entitled.

I went right to 42 weeks w/ Thomas and those last 2 weeks were such a drag!!!

[BedeMama]

I am starting to feel the drag...even though I went to 42 weeks with ds1. I feel huge this time and I am much more exhausted,but I am willing to go the distance.

[TinyBabyBean]

It's mostly fatigue and heart racing/breathlessness that are wearing on me. I can even tolerate all the "practice" belly tightenings, bits of mucous plug here and there that are teasing me with birthing will be soonness.

I guess I can wait but it is not easy as this is the first baby I have ever been late with. I know my last period was no later than Jan 18th. I actually believe it was Jan 15th. So, unless my body did something wacky and didn't ovulate until the middle of Feb I really am past my due date. My cycles were really short too! 26 days! so baby should have been here according to all that. Yes, I have given this way too much thought! LOL!

[Frisbee]

I'll whine along with all of you. I'm not even 41 weeks yet but I am feeling very done. Not because I feel THAT bad physically (although it's no picnic) but because of the emotional exhaustion. I am just not a patient person!! Today was my last day at work and I'm so glad I won't have anyone say "You're still here??!?!" any more.

My Ob practice's policy is to induce once you are 10 days past your due date. That's Wednesday for me. I'm trying to decide how I feel about that. On the one hand, I am a great candidate for induction (3+ cm dilated already, 80% effaced, 0 station, mucus plug gone) and I like the idea of having the baby sooner rather than later. On the other hand, I really wanted an unmedicated birth and I am scared of the Pitocin contractions and of being immobilized with an IV. So I'm reeally hoping that it happens before Wednesday. C'mon baby, get out here!

ETA: I am also having wardrobe exhaustion. I have all summer maternity clothes and I hate wearing anything with a waist these days. So I'm down to overalls, 1 skirt, and 1 dress, paired with a choice of like 3 different tops. Sheesh.

[aylaanne]

K, if they do decide to induce you, you could ask to just get enough pitocin to get you started, then have it stopped and disconnected. With how ready your cervix is, it's likely you wouldn't need to be hooked up for more than an hour. If I were you, I'd be trying other ways of getting the oxytocin flowing (nipple stimulation, orgasm) before then.

I had a bunch of people marvelling at me working right up until my due date. I kept telling them that it was my first baby, and I wasn't expecting to actually deliver on my due date. One resident (I work in assisted living) said to me, "I wish you would stay home and have that baby already!" when I came in once to help her. She hated it when I got on the floor. I reminded her that she had three children, and none of them popped out suddenly while she was getting up off the floor.

[Frisbee]

Yeah, I was wondering if just starting pit then turning it off was an option. I've tried just about everything else to get things going except castor oil. I have done some "casual" nipple stim but haven't tried it for the full 15 minutes each side. Maybe I'll try that today.

It's a gorgeous fall day here and I am in such a bad mood because I just don't feel like doing anything else but having a baby. Don't feel like reading a trashy novel, don't feel like cleaning the house or the yard (so much for nesting), don't feel like going for ANOTHER walk around the neighborhood. Just would like to meet my daughter. Grumph.

Oh, went into the hospital for an NST today. Everything is fine with the babe and with me.

Oh yeah, and my birthday is tomorrow.

[hetaera]

I am so grouchy and emotional today.
I feel like I should just be alone in the dark because if I am around people I will just grouch at them and then feel terrible for it.

I could just sit and cry and I have no idea why.
I've been so damned patient. Now I am 41 weeks, and still the one thing keeping me going is knowing I will have baby in my arms on thanksgiving.

I could cry from relief just thinking about holding him.

Oh god I think I am going insane today.

[HarperRose]

to all of you. I really get it.

It's such relief once the baby is actually here! I've been in such awe and disbelief that I no longer have a huge stomach and the baby is OUT and he's nursing and HERE. It's so unbelievable. And I have not wished once that he was back in. NO WAY! I'm VERY happy he's out!!

I hope you all get relief very soon.

[mittendrin]

Geeze, this is the second storm and there's also been a full moon since I'm fullterm and nothing is happening. This is the most pregnant I've been at 40wks and 5 days and I know it sounds like nothing to you mamas who went 42 and beyond but I am so friggin' done. I am getting worried about the size of the baby and my stamina for birth. My hips are popping so badly everytime I move that I am worried my body is trying to prepare for something I can only be scared of. Maybe my hips know something about the size of the baby I don't???: I've never felt so stretched in my life.

[2bluefish]

41 wks +2 - the longest I've ever been pregnant - mom and dad are planning to come the week of the 12th - really need to have the baby this week...

[aylaanne]

Originally Posted by Justthatgirl

to all of you. I really get it.

It's such relief once the baby is actually here! I've been in such awe and disbelief that I no longer have a huge stomach and the baby is OUT and he's nursing and HERE. It's so unbelievable. And I have not wished once that he was back in. NO WAY! I'm VERY happy he's out!!

I hope you all get relief very soon.

I love you, but you are banished from this thread.

We get it. The baby needs to be on the OUTSIDE. Yep, I need the baby on the outside. it will be wonderful, and wonderful, and everything. That's why I'm bitching.

Because my baby is STILL ON THE INSIDE! :

[Frisbee]

Continuing the ride on the emotional rollercoaster...

Despite feeling kind of anti-social I went out and saw a movie tonight with friends, and it made me feel a lot better. It was good to get my mind off the overdueness. Btw--American Gangster is a really good movie.

Thanks for the pep talk Justthatgirl! There have definitely been people (men, all of them) who have said to me, "Enjoy this, because once she's out she'll just be a pooping and eating machine and you'll never sleep." Like, not only do they have no idea what it is physically like to be 9mos+ pregnant, way to suggest that the aftermath is a letdown! (So it was nice to hear from a new mom that it is worth looking forward to!)

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by Frisbee

Continuing the ride on the emotional rollercoaster...

Despite feeling kind of anti-social I went out and saw a movie tonight with friends, and it made me feel a lot better. It was good to get my mind off the overdueness. Btw--American Gangster is a really good movie.

Thanks for the pep talk Justthatgirl! There have definitely been people (men, all of them) who have said to me, "Enjoy this, because once she's out she'll just be a pooping and eating machine and you'll never sleep." Like, not only do they have no idea what it is physically like to be 9mos+ pregnant, way to suggest that the aftermath is a letdown! (So it was nice to hear from a new mom that it is worth looking forward to!)

You're welcome! At least SOMEONE appreciates me! : Not like Aylaanne...


I got those ridiculous comments from men AND women.

The aftermath is awesome. I've been so miserable this entire pregnancy due to the hyperemesis but from wk 36 or so to wk 42 were THE WORST mentally because I was just so ready to be done. I can't tell you how many ppl kept telling me how patient I was and how great I was doing and they couldn't beleve my good mood, etc. On the one hand, great. Glad I can be so inspiring! OTOH, clearly very few of them truly understood my mental state. I can't even describe it myself, I just know how hard it was for me to wake up every day still pregnant.

I try and remind myself that he probably needed the extra time in there and that's ok. But it doesn't mean those last weeks were full of sunshine and roses. Y'know?

[HeatherB]

Originally Posted by 2bluefish

41 wks +2 - the longest I've ever been pregnant - mom and dad are planning to come the week of the 12th - really need to have the baby this week...

Been wondering how you were doing! Hope the little one shows soon!

[2bluefish]

Originally Posted by Justthatgirl

I try and remind myself that he probably needed the extra time in there and that's ok.

I would so like to believe that but I'm more prone to think I'm going to have another high need child who thinks the world revolves around them.

On a more serious note, I'm wondering if this child isn't posterior - we haven't really been able to figure that out for sure, but I've taken a couple doses of homeopathic pulsatilla and I'm feeling something happening low in my pelvis, so maybe I do have some tension in the soft tissues or malposition or something that needs to correct to let me get on with it.

Good luck to you all!

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by 2bluefish

I would so like to believe that but I'm more prone to think I'm going to have another high need child who thinks the world revolves around them.

On a more serious note, I'm wondering if this child isn't posterior - we haven't really been able to figure that out for sure, but I've taken a couple doses of homeopathic pulsatilla and I'm feeling something happening low in my pelvis, so maybe I do have some tension in the soft tissues or malposition or something that needs to correct to let me get on with it.

Good luck to you all!

I wondered about Thomas' position, too. When he was born he was facing my left leg, belly to my back (or, more aptly, the floor since that's where he was born ). He also had a short cord, so maybe that was part of the issue w/ going to 42 weeks and all the extra contracting.

Who knows.

[2bluefish]

I do want to complain about one thing - I'm tired of people telling me "I went to 42 weeks with all my babies." I'm like *good for you; that must have been your pattern. What does that have to do with my baby?* Their normal has nothing to do with my normal!

[HarperRose]

Originally Posted by 2bluefish

I do want to complain about one thing - I'm tired of people telling me "I went to 42 weeks with all my babies." I'm like *good for you; that must have been your pattern. What does that have to do with my baby?* Their normal has nothing to do with my normal!

Right on!