WWYD- regarding registry

[maisiedotes]

We have gotten tons of hand-me-downs, alot of them new or like new. Bouncy seat, carriage, carseat snuggly thing, boppy, etc. Alot of the stuff was on our registry. Should I take them off the registry? If 10 people buy us registry stuff, I would rather they select from what we need rather than a bunch of stuff we already have. You know what I mean? Like, if I take the bouncy seat off because we have one, they would more than likely select something else off the registry that we don't already have.

Why is this so freaking difficult for me???

[marisa]

Yes, I'd take them off. That's what I've been doing! I feel much better about having used things anyway - the whole reduce, reuse recycle part of me at least!

[Curlita]

Yes, take it off if you don't need it anymore. Or make sure that it shows as being already purchased.

There is no guarantee, of course, that they will look at the registry, or if they look, that they will purchase from it, but it's always good to make things as easy as possible for people.

[Ackray]

If there is stuff that you don't want and/or don't need anymore then go ahead and take them off the registry.

[Isarma]

Can you mark them as purchased or fulfilled? I'd do that, if you can vs taking them off. That way everyone knows you have one, rather than thinking they'll get something off-registry you already have. I've actually added a couple of things that weren't on my registry and just marked it immediately as fulfilled, so I don't get duplicates on big stuff.

[LittleBrownDog]

Yup- ditto. If I found something at a garage sale or got it as a hand me down I took it off the registry!

[maisiedotes]

Originally Posted by Curlita

Yes, take it off if you don't need it anymore. Or make sure that it shows as being already purchased.

There is no guarantee, of course, that they will look at the registry, or if they look, that they will purchase from it, but it's always good to make things as easy as possible for people.

Yeah- what is up with that? I was checking out some friends' registries today- most of them have already had their babies- and almost nothing is purchased on their registries. When I go to a baby shower (or bridal shower for that matter) I always end up having to buy something totally boring like cabinet locks and crap, because everything else is always purchased.

I am going to delete that stuff. DH didn't want me to because it is not the exact boppy cover we want, not the exact bouncy seat we want, etc. He would rather drive an hour to return the stuff we get that we don't need than to just take it off.

[maisiedotes]

Hmmm- I should see if I can mark it off as "purchased". Does anyone know if you can do that on the BRU website?

ETA: I figured it out. It looks like I got all this stuff now! It was so disappointing whenever I went on the site to check the registry only to see the same 2 things purchased that have been purchased for months now...

[cheeseRjedi]

Yeah, mark it as purchased and add on some gift cards to compensate.

[AimeeandBrian]

I edited mine all the time until I had everything I needed lol

[Heather Marie]

Maisie-

As I bought stuff from garage sales or the store I took it off our registry also. I really didn't want to have to mess with taking duplicate stuff back.

We don't live anywhere near family, so a friend threw me a small shower with some close girlfriends. We didn't get much off our registry, maybe one or two things. The funny thing is that DH's family hounded us to register (we weren't going to) and they never bought anything from the registry or anything for that matter! : It is really annoying because I spent alot of time registering online at the stores that were convenient to them because they kept pushing.

We don't have many choices as far as stores that carry baby stuff in our area without traveling 2-4 hours, so we ended up purchasing everything we needed ourselves via online, traveling 2-4 hours, or garage sales. I don't mean to sound like I think anyone else should have gotten us stuff, but it has been very disappointing to DH that his family didn't offer to get anything for the new baby. I think part of it is that his family treated his sister very different 7 years ago when she had her only baby. We did get a few things from a couple members of my family that were really appreciated and needed.
I feel so selfish thinking about any of this. Part of me wonders if people may be waiting until we know if it is a boy or girl. We are at the point now that we really absolutely don't need anything else. I can't imagine what we could even use that people would get us.

I went way off topic there, but I wantde you to know that you aren't the only one that hasn't received stuff from your registry.

[cheeseRjedi]

Originally Posted by Heather Marie

Part of me wonders if people may be waiting until we know if it is a boy or girl.

That happened with us. We got a decent amount of stuff beforehand but when DD arrived and everyone found out we had a girl, we got completely *bombarded* (with pink stuff :, but that's a whole other thread). It's pretty common. Everyone loves shopping for baby clothes .

[boogiemonster]

Originally Posted by maisiedotes

DH didn't want me to because it is not the exact boppy cover we want, not the exact bouncy seat we want, etc. He would rather drive an hour to return the stuff we get that we don't need than to just take it off.

I'm starting to think of this as Maisie's DH smilie.

[mittendrin]

That is why my registry went down from initially around 70 items to 16 or so. I got such wonderful deals on a few used things and ended up making a bunch of things myself like changing pad covers, etc that I took off what we don't need.
Nobody has bought anything so far anyways. I didn't have a shower, just my friends got me a gift cert for a massage and a dinner so I don't think there'll be anyone to buy for the baby. My family is in Germany except for my sister who keeps asking for weeks what we need and I keep referring her to the registry:. Dh family doesn't care enough to buy anything, MIL just shops cheapo crap at Walmart and FIL might just send a check (combining baby gift, dh and the boys' bday - ranging from May to Nov - and Christmas.
I don't see the need to keep items on there if you don't need them, but that's just me.

[sorteep]

yesssss, definitely update reg for things you already have received.......