I need to snark about my mother

[maisiedotes]

OK, so I have told you all a million times that my mother is self-absorbed and she drives me crazy. I love her dearly and she is up here right now and we are getting a TON of stuff done, but DANG. We are going to a few stores and out to dinner and we have discussed FOUR TIMES what time we are leaving. I suggested 3:30 so we would be there by 4:00, shop for an hour or two, and then go to dinner. She just asked me again what time we are leaving. i wonder if she is going senile early (she is 52). She is also wiping the counters, washing our dishes, sterilizing our sponges, etc. Also I put out guest towels and a bar of new soap for them and they used our soap instead, which really gives me the heebie jeebies. I don't know why but it does.

*sigh* Good thing we are going out. She can't clean up after me then! But mark my words, she will find a way to make me nuts. One thing for sure: I have crumbs in my car and she will comment on it. Something like "oh my gosh" and some peering around the car.

ETA: I am sorry. I was just reading Chrysalis's mother vent and I feel stupid about my post- I am being pretty petty. I am going to leave my post though because I feel less irritated now that it is out in the open.

[pixiesmommy]

When we drove down to NC last time, I had some little drops of milk on the console of my car from where we had to eat breakfast on the road. My mom told me how NASTY it was and how she knew that it had been there for a long time because she could "just tell" it had been there longer than the time it took us to make the trip. Whatever.

Let her clean and try not to feel guilty. She'll be gone soon, right??



Manda

[GooeyRN]

My mom is just the opposite. She comes to my house and makes messes everywhere. Wanna trade?

[chrysalis]

i don't think your thread is petty one bit,maisie. our mom's get to us, for sure. i sure wish mine wasn't so lazy as i sure could use even MORE of her help. i just had her lug another load of laundry to the next building for washing. i just can't lug it by myself...not these days...i wish she'd stay and load my dishwasher w/ the heaping gross pile of dishes in the sink...and vacuum for me (she'd need to bring over her vacuum cleaner...i don't have one here) and, what else...just help me put stuff away still...i have a ton to do here...unpacking still and trying to find places for all in this shoebox. i wish she'd stop doing whatever it is she's doing over at her condo and spend more time here. then i can show her MY rules. lol

i can totally tell my mom and greg (her boyf) want us to stay here til THEY tell me we should get a different place...i can tell she doesn't want me here short-terming. i have decided i WILL go elsewhere come february 1st. my domestic violence assistance is good thru the end of january. that is an amount that has to be approved by DHS of oregon that is up to $1200. for rent/deposits, so i'd have 3 months at this resort by then... and hopefully within the next few weeks, megh and baby and i will move over to the condo that is $200. less than this one ($1000. utils' & internet also incl) AND bigger. my mom says well bigger doesn't matter (i said OH YES IT DOES! this place i'm in is tiny...i'm not kiddin' you. i'm usually not that picky but this is so tiny...). i told her i want to be more on my own in a few months. she didn't seem to like that. its like damned if i do and damned if i don't. (depend or not depend) i will not be treated like a helpless incapable loser.

anyway... yeah i wish my mom would clean my counters. my floor. i think my mom is going senile too. she's 60, but trying to look 45.her boyf is about that age and my mom is now wearing her hair long as heck, got a face lift which really doesn't look much different and she wears these gurdles that suck her in. can we say vain? i notice when she does put on makeup (a once a week thing maybe... when she washes her hair/showers) she has a total different vibe...very vain. like she's somehow better of a person looking like miss thang. i love my mom but she has such annoying traits. she is very different from me. sooooo we shall see what happens w/ this other condo. hope it pans out.

ooo sitting on this birth ball feels so much better than a hard chair.

[Mary-Beth]

We'll never be Mom's like that, right?

I have a MIL that can drive me batty because she asks a million questions and never listens to the answers so she asks them again...It's not a real health condition either it's that she is thinking of her next question while you answer her.
I make a mental list of what to make sure I never do to my kids. I'm sure there will be something to drive them nuts though...that's just the way it goes.

[maisiedotes]

Originally Posted by Mary-Beth

We'll never be Mom's like that, right?

I have a MIL that can drive me batty because she asks a million questions and never listens to the answers so she asks them again...It's not a real health condition either it's that she is thinking of her next question while you answer her.
I make a mental list of what to make sure I never do to my kids. I'm sure there will be something to drive them nuts though...that's just the way it goes.

I will NEVER be like my mother! Although she is exactly like her mother although she refuses to admit it. ugh. My mother is also saying "OMG. hold the railing if you are going upstairs. are you supposed to be lifting that half a basket of laundry? Do you want to take a nap? are you tired? should you be going down cellar? don't lift that- it is too heavy."

Butttt..... she is buying us our crib mattress tomorrow. : Gawd, I am a bitch. I shall continue to blame hormones. And at times like this I remember why I live 3 hours away from her!

[TulikaEma]

Oh...I feel you on the mom thing. Mine makes me so nuts in oh so many big and little ways... DH taught me a goofy walk to do before our last visit--a silly, physical thing I could do to release stress. When she really got to me, I'd go to the bathroom and do it (or, more often than not DH would take me into the other room and make me do it)--the silliness, and the secret release made me feel SO much better.
And I get the soap thing too--when people visit, I put out pump soap so we don't have to 'share' bars. Yes, I'm that nuerotic.

[GinaRae]

Okay, your mama is like mine, and mine is also coming to torture me soon.

She is 56 and I swear she is going senile. She will tell me the SAME stories again and again and she will clean my kitchen practically ALL day, mopping the floor like three times a day.

And EVERYTHING revolves around what we're having for dinner. She will ask me a gazillion times when she should start dinner and then she will eventually start it at about 3:30pm! My kids are lucky if they have dinner by 7pm!

I realize she works full time and that's her life, so I assume when she is stuck with me for three weeks, she just cannot relax. I am planning on putting her to good use this time to sew these hemp teethers I am selling. Bwahahahahahhahahaaa!!!

[GinaRae]

Originally Posted by maisiedotes

I will NEVER be like my mother! Although she is exactly like her mother although she refuses to admit it. ugh.

My mom's mom was totally bizarre and I see my mom becoming her the older she gets. I see ME becoming MY mom in certain ways too! So my husband loves loves loves to tell me I will be just like my grandma at 70. UGH!!

[maisiedotes]

PHEW! OK, she is gone. I am going straight to hell but heck, I was already headed there. Today I went to work- DH was here with them and they were finishing hanging up the curtain rods in the baby's room. My mother wanted them one way and DH wanted them another way and my mother kept saying "no, you have to have it this way." She INSISTED that it be the way she wants it. DH said "lets just want till Kerri gets home." yay DH! She has been totally taking over- her way or the highway. basically we yes her to death and then do whatever we want.

Coming up next weekend: my MIL and SIL! : (NOT)